The benefits of living alone as an older man

[Classic Ray]

My wife has a Government job that pays for my healthcare, and has already started a side business to maintain a better income when I’m gone. 
 

The house is paid off and she will get a good proportion of my pension for life or until she marries again.

 

Our kids will have a good start in life as a result, even though we are not millionaires. My previous kids have also been well looked after.

 

She better look after me!

[1FinickyOne]

4 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

Some guys have a wife/girlfriend and carer,

What if your GF is the one who is ill? Are you capable of the sacrifices of being a caregiver? 

[KhunLA]

I have these, when in a relationship, or the relationship ends.   And a couple of those did end the relationship, probably.   If not with present wife,   Living alone with just the dog would work, but nice having someone here.   

 

Even though part, sometimes most of the day, we don't even see or talk to each other 

 

If you don't have these, I think a few need to grow a set 

 

If to lazy to watch the vid, advantages of living alone, although a few of those are the same thing, just reworded.  Got to fill in the vid time somehow...

 

1. Freedom to be yourself

2. Piece & quiet

3. Personal growth & self discovery

4. Control over your environment

5. Financial independence

6. Improved mental health

7. Strengthened relationships

8. Independence & confidence

9. Rediscovery of simple pleasures

 

Are there really that many introverts in unhappy relationships that don't respect themselves enough to be themselves, with or without whom ever they may be with at the time.

 

I sh!t bothers you in a relationship, have a conversation.  If that doesn't work, oh well ... BYE BYE 

 

NEXT ... or get a dog ... I can't be alone.  Me & the dog got to someone to talk about.

Edited September 4 by KhunLA

[spidermike007]

Thailand is likely the best place in the world to live alone as an older man, if you have enough cash that is. At that point you have so many different options. 

 

I was in Singapore several years ago and I happened to be staying in the red light district unintentionally, just happened to find a halfway decent hotel at a price that wasn't an arm and a leg. One day my woman was busy with one of her girlfriends and I just started wandering around. I ended up at a food court and it turned out that a lot of the working ladies from the area were eating there. I was sitting down having something to eat and I noticed this man who must have been in his 80's, who was just surrounded by a bevy of gorgeous women. They just kept on walking up to him and hugging him and kissing him and sitting down with him and being very affectionate with him, and it was just such an incredible scene to see that I just assumed the guy must have been a centi -millionaire.

 

After a while most of the women cleared out and I was finished with my meal and I wandered over to him and I said hey can I ask you something. He spoke perfect English I asked what is your deal? I mean you've got all these gorgeous women surrounding you, lavishing you with attention. What's your deal man? He started laughing he said you know something, my wife died about five years ago and she was the love of my life. I was really bereft for a couple of years, I didn't know what to do with myself and I wandered down here one day for lunch and I bought one of these girls a bowl of soup. The next day she came back with a couple of her girlfriends and I bought the girlfriends fruit shakes, so the next day they came back with five of their friends and it's been like that for three years now. He said I come here seven days a week and I spend a few hours here, it cost me maybe $200 a month, but I get so much kindness and so much affection and so much attention from these beautiful young girls.

 

He said it's the highlight of my life and the only reason why I want to continue living at this point is to be around these lovely, charming, delightful angels. He said I adore these women and they adore me I never get with them, I don't have any interest in that, I just love the affection, love the attention and he said this is my paradise on earth.

 

Great encounter. I will never forget that man, and his approach to life. Talk about an 86 year old stud!

 

I contrast that to an experience I had in a strip bar in Los Angeles many years ago. I was chatting with a stripper from New York, who was quite nice, about NYC and we just started talking about some of the customers that were hanging out. There was one guy who was probably 70, and he had two girls on his arms, he was chatting them up and hung out with him for about an hour. I asked her what's the deal with this guy and she said oh that's Eddie, yeah he's comes here about twice a month, I assume that's after he gets some kind of pension check and he just hangs out with the girls, he never gets with them, never does any lap dances, nothing. He just hangs out with the girls and seems to enjoy the affection they show him. I said do you mind if I asked about what he spends each time and she said yeah he averages $800 for 60 or 90 minutes, each time he comes.

 

What can one even say to that?

[TheAppletons]

5 hours ago, simon43 said:

I found this interesting video on YouTube about the benefits for older men to live alone.  Actually, the points mentioned in the video would seem also to apply to women living alone.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L1dqJO-OIPo

 

The only downside that I can think of when living alone is if one has medical needs or a medical emergency. A compromise would be to employ a daily housekeeper or closer neighbour who perhaps brings food (if one is housebound), does some cleaning, or just pops in to check that you're OK.

 

Shorter life expectancy is another downside of living alone vs. being married.  (Or maybe it just seems that your life is longer, lol.)

 

"Between 65 and 85 years, married men and women had a longer TLE and ALE than unmarried men and women.

 

For example, at 65 years, TLE for married men was 18.6 years, 2.2 years longer than unmarried men, and ALE for married men was 12.3 years, 2.4 years longer than unmarried men. Similarly, at 65 years, TLE for married women was 21.1 years, 1.5 years longer than unmarried women, and ALE for married women was 13.0 years, 2.0 years longer than unmarried women. Such marriage protection effects decreased with age."

 

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7452000/

[RSD1]

29 minutes ago, maesariang said:

Key to a good marriage is good food, oral sex and money. 

You write some truly weird sh*t Susan. But then again, something is off with you and you always have. Always worried about money and hunting for bargains too. How bizarre. 

[WoodyKenny]

2 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

I have these, when in a relationship, or the relationship ends.   And a couple of those did end the relationship, probably.   If not with present wife,   Living alone with just the dog would work, but nice having someone here.   

 

Even though part, sometimes most of the day, we don't even see or talk to each other 

 

If you don't have these, I think a few need to grow a set 

 

1. Freedom to be yourself

2. Piece & quiet

3. Personal growth & self discovery

4. Control over your environment

5. Financial independence

6. Improved mental health

7. Strengthened relationships

8. Independence & confidence

9. Rediscovery of simple pleasures

 

Are there really that many introverts in unhappy relationships that don't respect themselves enough to be themselves, with or without whom ever they may be with at the time.

 

I sh!t bothers you in a relationship, have a conversation.  If that doesn't work, oh well ... BYE BYE 

 

NEXT ... or get a dog ... I can't be alone.  Me & the dog got to someone to talk about.

Wish you the very best.. I'm not following number 7. How do you Strengthen a relationship when you nit in one... I was married and then divorced.. then single for 20 years.. I found a true loving woman believe it or not.. she Filipino. She's not a material girl, she doesn't care to live in the US, she not a bar girl at all.  She from the country mountain area in the Philippines..  The most caring and loving person I've ever met...  

   Some people just embrace life alone and that's cool.. I pray you never need assistance for medical as your home alone.....   I agree freedom is nice... But a warm bed, breakfast and compassion is also wondering..   best to ya brother 

[RSD1]

3 hours ago, Lacessit said:

" No problem. I can do".

"No pop-lem. I can do bee-cott I lubb u too mutt. You berry goose man. Jai-Dii neh. Bick heart. Gibb me money too mutt so I take care my famm-a-leee neh no need working ok. Gooose!"

 

Edited September 4 by RSD1

[KhunLA]

7 minutes ago, WoodyKenny said:

Wish you the very best.. I'm not following number 7. How do you Strengthen a relationship when you nit in one... I was married and then divorced.. then single for 20 years.. I found a true loving woman believe it or not.. she Filipino. She's not a material girl, she doesn't care to live in the US, she not a bar girl at all.  She from the country mountain area in the Philippines..  The most caring and loving person I've ever met...  

   Some people just embrace life alone and that's cool.. I pray you never need assistance for medical as your home alone.....   I agree freedom is nice... But a warm bed, breakfast and compassion is also wondering..   best to ya brother 

7 was re-establishing old and or new relationship.   Thought that was kind of silly, unless partner kept you from you family & friends.  Or maybe if happy & occupied, you simply let old friends and family slip away.   Things that living with someone really shouldn't affect.

 

Some of it, most of it, was like ...  'why would a relationship interfere with any of it' ... unless a controlling partner or just took up all your time tending to partner's needs.

 

I'm bored, so I watched it.  Still digesting, even after the walk in the park.  

Edited September 4 by KhunLA

[Nick Carter icp]

3 hours ago, Lacessit said:

I am betting the nagging marrieds were in the same age bracket. Not much point to that, both are equally vulnerable.

 

My GF is 23 years younger than me.

 

I asked her once what she would do, if I started going poopy in my trousers. Her response was " No problem. I can do".

 

 So  you asked your girlfriend what would happen if you became incontinent and your girlfriend replied that she would be able cope with that ?

  "Poopy in my trousers" is how you speak to toddlers , Adults  shouldn't speak to each other in that type of language  . 

   Or are you 30 years old ?

[Scouse123]

I wouldn't want to live alone, I have freedom, a great partner who also watches my health and daily living.

 

She does everything required of a housewife and more, in return, I share everything, and she wants for nothing.

 

We are fair and share, she doesn't nag, her only downfall is some gambling, which I try to keep a lid on.

 

I wouldn't swap what I have for a single life,

 

Nope!

[BritManToo]

1 minute ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 Or are you 30 years old ?

If h were 30 years old, his gf would be 7!

[Scouse123]

22 minutes ago, 1FinickyOne said:

What if your GF is the one who is ill? Are you capable of the sacrifices of being a caregiver? 

 

Yes,

 

definitely.

[BritManToo]

12 minutes ago, WoodyKenny said:

I pray you never need assistance for medical as your home alone.....   I agree freedom is nice... But a warm bed, breakfast and compassion is also wondering..   best to ya brother 

Mine looked after me for my 2 'immobile' months after my 'hit and run' last year, moved a mattress into the living room to sleep on the floor near me. I couldn't walk or sit up or stand up on my own, so was sleeping on the sofa. Waited on me, stayed with me in case I needed something, went to get snacks and drinks for me from 7-11.

[maesariang]

37 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

I have. She will inherit enough to ensure she can live comfortably for the rest of her life.

That's why she stayed next to you. Women aren't stupid.

[Lacessit]

6 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

 So  you asked your girlfriend what would happen if you became incontinent and your girlfriend replied that she would be able cope with that ?

  "Poopy in my trousers" is how you speak to toddlers , Adults  shouldn't speak to each other in that type of language  . 

   Or are you 30 years old ?

It's an expression I picked up from John Cadogan on his YouTube channel. I did not say it that way to my GF.

 

I continue to marvel at  armchair critics, bruising themselves with jumping to conclusions.

 

Here's another expression from Australia. Nicky woop, drongo.

[Scouse123]

There are no benefits in living alone as an old man, in my view.

 

I am biased as I have a happy longstanding relationship.

 

However, so far, what has been offered up on this board is the ability to ' have a friend over '  or go to the pub to be with farang friends.

 

A pretty shallow and weak answer in my book. Getting pissed and shagging when you want to?

 

I much prefer the life I have, sharing and caring, doing things together including cooking and cleaning, vacationing together, even going to the hospital, immigration, or for a long drive, I find it much better to have my other half there.

 

BTW, I can sit in a bar alone content in my own company, I don't need or crave company.

 

My home life and home comforts are different, however.

 

A fresh clean bed, Netflix movies together, eating together, discussing current news together.

 

Give me family life anytime, and she feels the same.

[maesariang]

What does Nicky woop mean?

[maesariang]

Just now, Scouse123 said:

There are no benefits in living alone as an old man, in my view.

 

I am biased as I have a happy longstanding relationship.

 

However, so far, what has been offered up on this board is the ability to ' have a friend over '  or go to the pub to be with farang friends.

 

A pretty shallow and weak answer in my book. Getting pissed and shagging when you want to?

 

I much prefer the life I have, sharing and caring, doing things together including cooking and cleaning, vacationing together, even going to the hospital, immigration, or for a long drive, I find it much better to have my other half there.

 

BTW, I can sit in a bar alone content in my own company, I don't need or crave company.

 

My home life and home comforts are different, however.

 

A fresh clean bed, Netflix movies together, eating together, discussing current news together.

 

Give me family life anytime, and she feels the same.

I agree. Alone is great under 30. The older you are the better it is to have company. 

[Lacessit]

7 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Mine looked after me for my 2 'immobile' months after my 'hit and run' last year, moved a mattress into the living room to sleep on the floor near me. I couldn't walk or sit up or stand up on my own, so was sleeping on the sofa. Waited on me, stayed with me in case I needed something, went to get snacks and drinks for me from 7-11.

Good heavens, I swear BMT is mellowing.

[KhunLA]

As long as you got friends w/bennies, living alone is easy.   I've had 2 lifelong friends w/bennies, along with meeting a few along the way, most coworkers while doing my 13 years at NWA, and longest stretch of living mostly alone.

 

Breaks in between 3 marriages were longer than the marriages.  Here / TH, was a bunch of very short GF, or one night stands, since never established any friends w/bennies.   Seems everyone ones to get married.  No thanks, I needed a break, did that 3 times.   And then, along came #4 .... 

 

 

 

Edited September 4 by KhunLA

[Chivas]

Strange how we change. When I was young (er) always wanted someone with me (albeit never desperate) but as I've gone over 60 the last thing I want is someone around all the time

 

More than happy on my own now and absolutely never lonely.

 

If in Thailand I do on occasion think about emergency situations which is why I have saved hospital ambulance numbers in the phone

[BritManToo]

2 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Good heavens, I swear BMT is mellowing.

Nah, all women are to be avoided ........... only my one is different!

[Ben Zioner]

5 hours ago, simon43 said:

I found this interesting video on YouTube about the benefits for older men to live alone.  Actually, the points mentioned in the video would seem also to apply to women living alone.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L1dqJO-OIPo

 

The only downside that I can think of when living alone is if one has medical needs or a medical emergency. A compromise would be to employ a daily housekeeper or closer neighbour who perhaps brings food (if one is housebound), does some cleaning, or just pops in to check that you're OK.

Didn't what the video yet, but feel the need to say that living with a young wife, our two girls and a cat keeps me perfectly happy.

 

And I have left the great outdoors to live with them.

Edited September 4 by Ben Zioner

[Nick Carter icp]

20 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

It's an expression I picked up from John Cadogan on his YouTube channel. I did not say it that way to my GF.

 

 

 

   I don't believe you . 

[Lacessit]

1 minute ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   I don't believe you . 

Fine. Do you think your opinion carries more weight than dogsh!t on a sidewalk?

[RSD1]

20 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

only my one is different!

"special and different"

[RSD1]

1 hour ago, maesariang said:

Prefer to be with people. 

Your only imaginary friend was bob smith and now he's gone. So sad for you. 

[Nick Carter icp]

I got my self an infected leg and I couldn't walk or  get out of bed and I was bedridden for a few days , after a few days of lying in bed a Thai girlfriend came around to visit .

I told her that I couldn't get out of bed and I couldn't walk.

I gave her 1000 Baht   (to get me some food) .

   She got me one chicken and rice meal for 50 Baht and I didn't see her for the next three days until I could walk again , she spent the "change" on some beers for herself 

[scubascuba3]

1 hour ago, 1FinickyOne said:

What if your GF is the one who is ill? Are you capable of the sacrifices of being a caregiver? 

considering the farang is often much older that care giving can't be for long so would need a carer for the GF and you