Those who fell for marriage, how do you cope knowing you've ruined your life?

[ChrisKC]

16 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

I see a lot of old sods at work that never go home.  The single guys leave at 4 but the married losers stay until 5, 6 or even 7.  Sad-faced broken men that eat dinner at work 'to avoid the traffic'.  Anything to avoid going home to the wife.

 

How about you?  Did you fall for marriage or are you still a free and happy quality tourist?

Another bigoted post suffering under the burden of his own failed relationships. 

[CygnusX1]

When I was employed, I’d have at least one big overseas trip every year, taking leave on half pay to extend the holiday. Given that I was the lowest paid employee in the office, there was speculation as to how I could fund such a lifestyle, but the reason of course was that I was the only one who was unmarried.

 

Now retired, I split my time between my maximum 179 days in Thailand and Australia, but can still afford 3 months in Europe each year. In purchasing a property in Thailand, I’ve made the second most expensive mistake you can make in that country, but have so far managed to avoid making the most expensive mistake.

 

 

[Thingamabob]

16 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

I see a lot of old sods at work that never go home.  The single guys leave at 4 but the married losers stay until 5, 6 or even 7.  Sad-faced broken men that eat dinner at work 'to avoid the traffic'.  Anything to avoid going home to the wife.

 

How about you?  Did you fall for marriage or are you still a free and happy quality tourist

I am 83, my Thai wife is 70. We have been happily together since 1983, married in 1990. I know many other 'old sods', as you choose to call us, who are equally happily married.

[Celsius]

16 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

I see a lot of old sods at work that never go home.  The single guys leave at 4 but the married losers stay until 5, 6 or even 7. 

 

So......why do you stay at work until 5, 6 or even 7?

[jippytum]

 married people who are  genuinely happily married are to be envied.

People who stay in an unhappy Martial  situation are to be pitied. 

[zepplin]

17 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

I see a lot of old sods at work that never go home.  The single guys leave at 4 but the married losers stay until 5, 6 or even 7.  Sad-faced broken men that eat dinner at work 'to avoid the traffic'.  Anything to avoid going home to the wife.

 

How about you?  Did you fall for marriage or are you still a free and happy quality tourist?

Or you get the guys who moved to Thailand, met a fantastic lady, and have spent almost every day/night together for the last 18 years, and would not wish it any other way

being single is highly overrated!

you sound like the perfect example!

[Celsius]

1 minute ago, zepplin said:

Or you get the guys who moved to Thailand, met a fantastic lady, and have spent almost every day/night together for the last 18 years, and would not wish it any other way

being single is highly overrated!

you sound like the perfect example!

 

He failed at marriage and works in Thailand until 7pm watching other guys work late.

 

Pretty bizzare op

[bkk6060]

The only reason I can see getting married is if they want to start or have a family.  Otherwise, no sure why so many people get married.  It definitely is not for better sex with all the entitled female attiitudes that feel they can mostly tell you NO.

More fun to walk beach road and find someone who is willing and able and does what you like.

But, not in all cases many guys need a mommy figure.  You hear them on here bragging how their wife does everything including handling the finances. Guys who cannot even do a load of laundry or cook a hamburger. Seems so weak and really stupid to me what responsibilities do you have as a man?  Probably not much, their wife-mommy takes care of everything.

[WDSmart]

I moved to Thailand 21 years ago and have been married to a Thai woman for 20 years. I don't consider my life "ruined." I am very happy with both my marriage and the other aspects of my life here.

[CecilM]

I suggest you move into a cave in the jungle so that you don't have internet and can't post such ridiculous statements.

[thaibeachlovers]

16 hours ago, save the frogs said:

 

Yes, but arguably the woman is stupid for not having a safety net.

That's why most women will insist on marriage, to have some sort of protection in case the guy effs off.

 

In the west the women fixed it so that just living together counts as a marriage when the divorce happens.

I wish sexbots had existed when I made the mistake of living with a woman that turned out rotten.

 

[thaibeachlovers]

1 hour ago, zepplin said:

Or you get the guys who moved to Thailand, met a fantastic lady, and have spent almost every day/night together for the last 18 years, and would not wish it any other way

being single is highly overrated!

you sound like the perfect example!

They would be the exception, not the rule.

 

 

[thaibeachlovers]

2 hours ago, CygnusX1 said:

When I was employed, I’d have at least one big overseas trip every year, taking leave on half pay to extend the holiday. Given that I was the lowest paid employee in the office, there was speculation as to how I could fund such a lifestyle, but the reason of course was that I was the only one who was unmarried.

 

Now retired, I split my time between my maximum 179 days in Thailand and Australia, but can still afford 3 months in Europe each year. In purchasing a property in Thailand, I’ve made the second most expensive mistake you can make in that country, but have so far managed to avoid making the most expensive mistake.

 

 

I knew to never buy property in LOS, but I still made the biggest mistake. I was a silly old fool that thought she was miss right- no such beast!

[thaibeachlovers]

2 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

 

Yeah, I really miss that one...

 

While I had a lot of experience with children ( I worked on a children's ward for a year and lived with a woman that had two preteen children ) I have nothing but gratitude for never having any of my own.

 

If I had wanted a pleasant life with a dependent I'd have got a dog.

[spidermike007]

Alot of us here have engaged in relationships with lovely, kind, supportive, humorous, and sexy women here. We have very good lives. Fulfilling lives. Lives we could never dream of having back in the US, Oz, NZ, UK, Canada, or Scandinavia, where many of the women are so devoid of femininity and the very qualities that make them appealing to us. Not here. Thai women are very comfortable in their own skin and with their roles as woman. It gives them alot of power. And they are too savvy to walk away from that, as many Western women have. 

 

My advice would be to take your time, okay maybe you've already invested an extraordinary amount of time into chatting with somebody online, which is something I would never do, but all that is said and done. So once you get here take your time. Don't move fast, don't move in with her, don't live with her, don't make big promises, date her for 6 months to a year and see how you like her.

 

Then after you are living together, avoid marriage for 2-4 years. Get to know her. Get to know her family. If she pushes the timetable, push back. Be patient. If it is good, it will only get better. If there are real issues, they will reveal themselves over time. 

[jvs]

18 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I'm happy at home with my wife and son, so you won't find me in a bar for afternoons. I do go into town one evening a week for a meal with a pal, and a couple of beers but that's about it. Up at dawn everyday to cycle 25km (twice a week with friends), but I don't go out much these days.

 

Not sure about "eating dinner at work", I've been retired the past 25 years.

 

I guess you just mix with the wrong class of people.

Not too long ago you often went to Cambodia to do what?

 

[9a9a]

Married my Thai wife 19 years ago next month. Best thing I have ever done in my life and absolutely no regrets whatsoever. We do our best to take care of each other and family and have a very happy life. I still do the things I want to do but avoid doing things that may upset my wife, never had a serious argument and we get on great together. Long may it last.

[brianthainess]

I don't go to work, my wife does................

[RocketDog]

19 hours ago, 1FinickyOne said:

Both - only I am not a tourist... 

Same for me.

Actually the whole premise of the OP post is ridiculous.

They're married people all over the world and some of them are happy and some of them aren't. There are single people all over the world and some of them are happy and some of them are not.

[ubonr1971]

3 hours ago, CygnusX1 said:

When I was employed, I’d have at least one big overseas trip every year, taking leave on half pay to extend the holiday. Given that I was the lowest paid employee in the office, there was speculation as to how I could fund such a lifestyle, but the reason of course was that I was the only one who was unmarried.

 

Now retired, I split my time between my maximum 179 days in Thailand and Australia, but can still afford 3 months in Europe each year. In purchasing a property in Thailand, I’ve made the second most expensive mistake you can make in that country, but have so far managed to avoid making the most expensive mistake.

 

 

But you are an outcast in Oz and people judge you for this behind your back. Not that you care about this bc all you care about is money and holidays. 

 

I can assure you that the biggest mistake you have made in your life is that you dont have a child of your own. If you did you would know that the focus is away from oneself to the child and its the best thing that can happen to a man. You are missing out mate!

[farangkinok]

3 hours ago, jippytum said:

 married people who are  genuinely happily married are to be envied.

People who stay in an unhappy Martial  situation are to be pitied. 

Cue the martial music! 

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, jvs said:

Not too long ago you often went to Cambodia to do what?

Non O VISA jump.

Now on VISA extensions since COVID.

[NowNow]

27 minutes ago, ubonr1971 said:

But you are an outcast in Oz and people judge you for this behind your back. Not that you care about this bc all you care about is money and holidays. 

 

I can assure you that the biggest mistake you have made in your life is that you dont have a child of your own. If you did you would know that the focus is away from oneself to the child and its the best thing that can happen to a man. You are missing out mate!

 

Many, on observing some of the single people on this forum, are too immature to even sustain a stable relationship. Do you really want such people to have children? Kids having kids, regardless of their age.

 

[newnative]

Happy in marriage.  Happy to finally have the legal right to marry in the US and soon in Thailand.  

[1FinickyOne]

41 minutes ago, RocketDog said:

Same for me.

Actually the whole premise of the OP post is ridiculous.

They're married people all over the world and some of them are happy and some of them aren't. There are single people all over the world and some of them are happy and some of them are not.

I have a friend who likes a routine... he is unhappy on Tuesday & Thursday from noon to 7 p.m and all day Sunday...  

[1FinickyOne]

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

I knew to never buy property in LOS, but I still made the biggest mistake. I was a silly old fool that thought she was miss right- no such beast!

All of this with no consideration of whether or not you were Mr. Right.,,? 

[sammieuk1]

17 hours ago, transam said:

Baiting thread..........

Or a masturbating thread if your single and alone 🤔

[transam]

1 minute ago, sammieuk1 said:

Or a masturbating thread if your single and alone 🤔

Like the OP, you mean...........🤣

[sammieuk1]

Just now, transam said:

Like the OP, you mean...........🤣

Precisely 🤔

[scubascuba3]

8 hours ago, Hummin said:

It all about you, and how you feel, not me 😁 

 

Sad, really sad

I'm happy, you're not, so who's really sad?