Where did you half thai kids end up in their adult years?

[guest879]

So I have 2 young kids with a thai gal. I bought them back to New Zealand to do their school years. I wonder where they will want to live after leaving school. I suspect they will prefer NZ with their limited thai language skills. To all those on here with post school offspring where did they choose to spend their working lives? and where were they educated?

[smellyfish]

well done on putting your kids first! lots of deadbeat dads here more interested in their happy hour circle of friends than giving their kids a first world education !

[Happy Grumpy]

I'd imagine most will choose the region they grew up in, as their natural home. 

[BritManToo]

23 minutes ago, smellyfish said:

well done on putting your kids first! lots of deadbeat dads here more interested in their happy hour circle of friends than giving their kids a first world education !

I'd like my son to have the chance to own his own home without slaving away all his life, and losing said home to a woman he mistakenly thinks loves him. So that country will be Thailand and not the UK.

 

My kids back in the UK don't seem to be having much fun or success, a couple of them are over 30 and own nothing but debt.

Edited November 18, 2018 by BritManToo

[Happy Grumpy]

Them not being raised in Thailand is a bit of a disservice to them.

 

Being raised in Thailand and educated in an International school (before university in the West) gives them natural bilingualism and biculturalism. A fantastic future professional network, and fantastic employment opportunities with foreign MNC in Thailand, if they so wish, or a full range of professional advantages that monolingual/cultural don't have. While being Int. school educated with univeristy degrees from the West also give them great opportunities in the West, should they want that. 

 

 

They're missing out on fantastic opportunities. 

Edited November 18, 2018 by Happy Grumpy

[guest879]

5 minutes ago, Happy Grumpy said:

Them not being raised in Thailand is a bit of a disservice to them.

 

Being raised in Thailand and educated in an International school (before university in the West) gives them natural bilingualism and biculturalism. A fantastic future professional network, and fantastic employment opportunities with foreign MNC in Thailand, if they so wish, or a full range of professional advantages that monolingual/cultural don't have. While being Int. school educated with univeristy degrees from the West also give them great opportunities in the West, should they want that. 

 

 

They're missing out on fantastic opportunities. 

yes well we put quite a bit of thought into it before moving back and their mum said she wanted them raised in the west and I would have struggled with international school fees in Thailand. 10 years in Thailand was enough for me as well, really I was ready to leave after about 6 years but selling up 2 houses and 2 condos took a long time. Have been back 2 years and I have to say for now it looks like we made a good decision. free excellent schools, free dental and medical and lower tax rates than I was paying working in Thailand. the NZ govt pays 5000NZ$ per child as a cash bonus per year as well. I am still curious to hear where la krung kids prefer to live after their school years.

[bert bloggs]

Our son spent the first 5 years here in Thailand , we then went to the UK and he went to school there until he was 12 we then came back here and he went to an international school,then university ,he is now 25(god where did it all go) and runs a small import export company in Leam Chabang .His girl friend/wife is an estate agent , apart from not living in the UK she went the same rout as him ,.if we had stayed in the UK  he would have gone to some crap school and ended up in a crap job ,very likely

[Kwasaki]

4 hours ago, guest879 said:

Where did you half Thai kids end up in their adult years?

Very comfortable thankyou Thai educated only.

[tifino]

One spends all her time telling everybody that mum is Asian and the she herself is not. Spends all here time bragging down on others she has a master's degree  (which she took only 18 months part time to have after leaving high school) She's convinced it is worth something ????

 

Another (part thai) one inherited mum's teeth and is afraid to smile so stays home to befriend her dad on ipad. 

 

One (all thai) (educated working in an office) also works in what she insists is to be called by us as a beer bar, and that having concurrent fiances from Korea and Croatia is not what it looks like. 

Eldest one (all thai) turned out the most normal; doing accounts in largest hotel in phitsanulok. The only one that actually respects mum for not staying on with her dad.

 

[Puwa]

Not quite there yet, but our son was born in the US, then raised age 4-15 in Chiang Mai, attended international school, came back to the US for high school, and is now in his final year and preparing to enter university. We're fortunate that our local free public high school is excellent and just a 10 minute walk from the kitchen door. He loves being in America and will probably choose to build his life here. I get back to our house in Chiang Mai 3-4 times per year, depending on my travel schedule for work. Wife and I are looking forward to settling down there again when the time is right. To be honest, I took a pretty big financial hit coming back here, but as a previous poster said, your kid's future comes first. Fortunately, I'm still shy of 50 myself so have plenty of time to build up the retirement nest egg. 

 

 

 

[nahkit]

Our two children were both brought up in Libya in an international school, speak three languages and both went on to study abroad when they finished school.

 

To my great disappointment, both of them chose to come back to Thailand and take up teaching jobs in the North-East.

[cardinalblue]

All of our friend’s kids who went to international school here ends up going back to their home country for university/high school.....about 50% of the families made it a joint move and the rest of the parents split their time  living in Thailand and their home country....

 

their kids’ futures have a much better probability in their home country given that they follow the university/ professional career route....

 

there will be small exceptions usually self employed (only option) but just ask yourself this question - do you want your son or daughter to be a doctor nurse lawyer engineer manager or any other white-collar career professional in Thailand or in the West?

 

the answer becomes obvious....

[alanrchase]

My 28 year old Thai educated son works for a company in BKK and has a one third share in an antiques shop. He pays a mortgage on a new condo and is repaying me on a car loan. In a good month probably makes more than I used to. 

[ftpjtm]

We have 3 kids, 2 half Thai and my full Thai stepson who moved to the US at 5.

 

Stepson is 30, engineering degree from a US University and a six figure salary. Youngest is in a Master's Degree program at a US University. All fully educated in the US where education costs at quality institutions are much more reasonable than in Thailand.

 

I would never raise a child in Thailand. Even if I could afford the cost of 16 years in International schools the kids of my former Thai clients who went that route had a hi-so, privileged attitude that I found to be distasteful. I wouldn't want my kids to turn out that way. All of my kids did plenty of menial chores and had minimum wage manual labor jobs while growing up in the US to keep themselves grounded and appreciate the benefits in bettering themselves.

 

However all of my kids are proud of their Thai heritage, all have Thai citizenship and Passports, and all love visiting our second home in Thailand. But I doubt that any of them will choose to live in Thailand during their working careers, unless they chance upon a job with a western company requiring them to relocate in Thailand.

 

IMO Thailand is a great place to visit, a great place to work temporarily as a young single person, and a great place to retire. But I'm glad I didn't raise my children in Thailand.

Edited November 19, 2018 by ftpjtm

[The Deerhunter]

16 minutes ago, ftpjtm said:

We have 3 kids, 2 half Thai and my full Thai stepson who moved to the US at 5.

 

Stepson is 30, engineering degree from a US University and a six figure salary. Youngest is in a Master's Degree program at a US University. All fully educated in the US where education costs at quality institutions are much more reasonable than in Thailand.

 

I would never raise a child in Thailand. Even if I could afford the cost of 16 years in International schools the kids of my former Thai clients who went that route had a hi-so, privileged attitude that I found to be distasteful. I wouldn't want my kids to turn out that way. All of my kids did plenty of menial chores and had minimum wage manual labor jobs while growing up in the US to keep themselves grounded and appreciate the benefits in bettering themselves.

 

However all of my kids are proud of their Thai heritage, all have Thai citizenship and Passports, and all love visiting our second home in Thailand. But I doubt that any of them will choose to live in Thailand during their working careers, unless they chance upon a job with a western company requiring them to relocate in Thailand.

 

IMO Thailand is a great place to visit, a great place to work temporarily as a young single person, and a great place to retire. But I'm glad I didn't raise my children in Thailand.

Kinda like I expected it might turn out for many.  Congrats.

[GarryP]

1 hour ago, nahkit said:

Our two children were both brought up in Libya in an international school, speak three languages and both went on to study abroad when they finished school.

 

To my great disappointment, both of them chose to come back to Thailand and take up teaching jobs in the North-East.

I don't know why you would be disappointed. You should be proud. Thai schools need teachers like these. Teachers who have traveled seen the outside world and have an international perspective. Earning a high salary isn't everything. 

[seabass69]

Our son was born in Thailand and came to Australia with his mum and me when he was 2 years old. When he was about 4 or 5 he always said he wanted to either be a brain doctor or to work in a pizza restaurant. Now he’s about to finish his first year of kindy...I’ll keep you posted

[melvinmelvin]

17 hours ago, Happy Grumpy said:

Them not being raised in Thailand is a bit of a disservice to them.

 

Being raised in Thailand and educated in an International school (before university in the West) gives them natural bilingualism and biculturalism. A fantastic future professional network, and fantastic employment opportunities with foreign MNC in Thailand, if they so wish, or a full range of professional advantages that monolingual/cultural don't have. While being Int. school educated with univeristy degrees from the West also give them great opportunities in the West, should they want that. 

 

 

They're missing out on fantastic opportunities. 

you have some good points there,

in particular, re bilingualism

 

not good when parents don't see to children being bilingual

 

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, cardinalblue said:

there will be small exceptions usually self employed (only option) but just ask yourself this question - do you want your son or daughter to be a doctor nurse lawyer engineer manager or any other white-collar career professional in Thailand or in the West?

I want my son to be happy, how he earns money is irrelevant.

Doctors have the highest suicide rate of any profession in the world.

I don't believe I've ever met a nurse that wasn't struggling financially.

 

Presumably whatever you did in your home country didn't make you happy, else you wouldn't be living here.

It's a complete mystery to me, how guys that couldn't manage in their home countries think their kids will do better.

Edited November 19, 2018 by BritManToo

[PerkinsCuthbert]

19 hours ago, smellyfish said:

well done on putting your kids first! lots of deadbeat dads here more interested in their happy hour circle of friends than giving their kids a first world education !

Can you provide some provenance for that assertion, Smelly? Or did a soi dog bite your genitals over the weekend?

[HHTel]

My daughter, born in the UK, returned to Thailand when she was 5 and went through the Thai education system for what it's worth.  When she was 18, moved back to the UK alone (though she had a friend in London).  Has been in London for 2 years and is doing very well.  Doesn't regret her decision.

 

If you look at TV adverts and 'soaps' here, many of the actors are leuk krungs!  Used mainly because of their looks I imagine.

[Classic Ray]

I have two young children here, one a full Thai stepson, and one son with my Thai wife. As I am old she will probably end up responsible for their education when i croak, although to spite everyone I hope to live to see them both fly the nest!

 

We are trying to bring them up trilingual, they already both speak fluent Thai and English, and we will try them on Chinese lessons later.

 

With those abilities they should be able to have a good choice of whether to stay in Thailand or work overseas, hopefully having had a happy, unpressured childhood if we can protect them from the crammer attitude that seems to prevail here.

[khunPer]

Thanks to @guest879 for opening this interesting thread, for all of us having Thai-related children, and thanks for answers from various forum members...

[helloagain]

19 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I'd like my son to have the chance to own his own home without slaving away all his life, and losing said home to a woman he mistakenly thinks loves him. So that country will be Thailand and not the UK.

 

My kids back in the UK don't seem to be having much fun or success, a couple of them are over 30 and own nothing but debt.

Well i lived in uk all my life until i retired here at 51. I bought my first uk home at 22.5 years old. I had no help either.

[TPI]

18 hours ago, Happy Grumpy said:

Them not being raised in Thailand is a bit of a disservice to them.

 

Being raised in Thailand and educated in an International school (before university in the West) gives them natural bilingualism and biculturalism. A fantastic future professional network, and fantastic employment opportunities with foreign MNC in Thailand, if they so wish, or a full range of professional advantages that monolingual/cultural don't have. While being Int. school educated with univeristy degrees from the West also give them great opportunities in the West, should they want that. 

 

 

They're missing out on fantastic opportunities. 

But who, except those on a generous package, can afford to send their kids to a bilingual, international school? I've 3 nieces, 2 just starting uni in Oz and one halfway through a diploma, who had to go to High school for 2 years (after finishing Thai HS) to even get close to qualifying for for their particular courses...all three had a GPA of over 3.75 for their HS years? And, who needs to hire a bi-lingual Thai/Ozy graduate in Oz or NZ and is prepared to offer high salary and conditions? 

 

Where in Thailand are there these opportunities?  Stay in NZ, use your Asian charm, marry as best as you can (love, if you have to) Come back to Thailand for a holiday!

[BritManToo]

5 minutes ago, helloagain said:

Well i lived in uk all my life until i retired here at 51. I bought my first uk home at 22.5 years old. I had no help either.

Do you think you could buy a house in the UK again now?

And keep a hold of it through a divorce?

[GarryP]

5 minutes ago, helloagain said:

Well i lived in uk all my life until i retired here at 51. I bought my first uk home at 22.5 years old. I had no help either.

Sounds like you are the exception. I don't know anyone that bought their first home at that age with solely their own money. Also house prices are very different to what they were 30 years ago, having increased by a much higher percentage than salaries.   

[BritManToo]

2 minutes ago, TPI said:

Where in Thailand are there these opportunities?  Stay in NZ, use your Asian charm, marry as best as you can (love, if you have to) Come back to Thailand for a holiday!

 

I don't believe you can compare opportunities for girls with opportunities for boys in the western world.

Much easier for a girl to get ahead, take from men, make money from accusations. Very hard for a guy these days.

[cardinalblue]

In a good month? OMG sales....

 

People in sales are there by their degree lacking in credibility and marketability...

 

there is always sales by default yet fill a vital role in a capitalistic society....where would we be w/o Honda dealerships and orthopedic sales reps?

[guest879]

59 minutes ago, khunPer said:

Thanks to @guest879 for opening this interesting thread, for all of us having Thai-related children, and thanks for answers from various forum members...

well thanks to everyone giving their replies and being civil about it.  civility is something that seems to be in short supply in online forms where there is so much we can all learn from each other.