How soon did you get married

[Thongkorn]

Quite late really about 1400 

[Chazar]

Jan 1st 2006 met, shagged Jan 2nd married October 12th 2006, she's 29 me 41 no  kids, neither  married  before.

[billd766]

I first met my Thai wife back in 1993 when I was on a 3 month job. I went off on other jobs but kept in touch and the company sent me back to Thailand again from 1994 to 97.

 

My UK wife and son came out in 1997 and it was then I said that I wanted a divorce. Our son was 19 then. My divorce became final in 1999.

 

We lived together at the weekends as I was working up in Issan during the week. The job finished in 1997 and I went off elsewhere again for work but came back to Thailand when I could. I quit the company in 1999 and worked in Europe for a couple of years the came back to Thailand.

 

I asked my wife to marry me when we were staying with friends on New Years Eve 1999 and we married in 2000. It will be 20 years of marriage this month.

 

When we first met she was 28, never married or had kids and I was 49. I waited 7 years to marry her and she never asked to marry me at all.

 

Now I am 75 and she is 54 and our son is 15 and we live quietly in rural Khampaeng Phet.

[4MyEgo]

4 months.

 

I returned to Thailand 6 weeks after I met her and took her back to Australia on a 3 month tourist visa, the visa was coming up to the expiry date and I said to her to you want to stay longer, and the usual Thai response came, "up to you", so after enquiring to have her visa extended, I was told by immigration that no way she could extend, and would have to return to Thailand, I said you have got to be kidding, and the guy from immigration said, the only way she could stay was if I was willing to marry her in Australia and then apply for a bridging visa, and if approved them apply for her permanent residency application, which came through (2 years), she then applied for Citizenship a couple of year later.

 

She was 25, I was 46 

 

Two boys from previous abusive Thai partner, she left him when they were one years of age, he has never seen them since or tried to contact them. They are now 16 and I am the only father figure they have known, they are very respectful, good clean cut boys, for Thai's, their mother has done a great job in raising them with a stern hand, very different to the majority of Thai mothers I have seen. I love them like my own, am hard with them when I need to be and they don't rebel, well yet anyway, they trust us to guide them and admit when they are wrong, suffice to say teenagers are teenagers and will try us, they know that we have been where they are coming from, and that we want to remove some aspects of teenage hood from our own mistakes, drugs, wagging school, etc, etc.

 

Coming up to the very best 13 years of our lives this month, we have been into each other since the day we met, not in each others faces, she is undemanding, never asks for money, is a great cook, and just enjoys living with her partner.

 

We have two young girls together and the best part of the day for us is sitting on the front porch in the morning when the kids are still asleep, sipping on our coffees, discussing life in general and appreciating how fortunate we are to have met and what we have achieved in the time we have been together.

 

I can still remember the night clearly, was playing pool with my best mate and saw her walk in and go to the mirror to get something out of her eye, I looked at my best mate, he looked at me and I walked over to her and said, here let me help you, I put a tissue in her eye and removed a bug, she was very thankful, and right there I said to her, I am going to marry you, she laughed, the rest is history with not one regret. 

[Dan747]

Met my Thai wife in Tokyo 40 years ago. We dated for three years before we married. Not a Bar Girl, living with her sister. We had two children-Boy/Girl. Retired now and spend 6 months in Ubon, Thailand traveling throughout Europe and Asia and 6 months in Orlando, Florida (RV) traveling throughout North America. "Life is GREAT!!" 

[thaibeachlovers]

On 4/7/2020 at 4:01 AM, parafareno said:

we could be together all the time

Absence makes the heart fonder. Enjoy it while it lasts.

[Blackheart1916]

2 years. Met her when I was up north trying to track down an old mate. She was divorced, one daughter. I was 48, she was 33. Our first weekend away together was to the Anzac Day commemoration in Kanchanburi. Been married for a year now and living in Australia, happy days.

[maxisrael]

After several months we stayed together the family thought it will be decent to get married so we did and still after 18 years we are still  happy together 

[PaoloR]

15 years living together. No kids

Day one I said "I will never have another wife - do you accept this?"

Still together - although this 24hrs together, every day, is getting a little tedious!

[KKr]

On 4/6/2020 at 11:01 PM, parafareno said:

.the problem is that if we get married we could be together all the time and

If that is the problem, than move on.

 

before Thailand, I married too quick several times. strange enough “just” relations were stronger and lasted longer than marriages.

Here, married a young girl, only mid forties (both grown up kids), after about a year or so and no regrets about that at all.

[Mbaki]

Met my wife through one of her friends on a dating site, she had been divorced for 18mths with a baby son and had gone back to uni, travelled back and forth to Thailand for 6 years before getting married and moving here for good, been happily married for 8 years, and I am 21 years older than her.

[spidermike007]

If you are going to get involved with a Thai woman, take into account the fact that many are immature and emotionally undeveloped. I highly recommend looking for a woman who is the eldest child in the family. They are given far more responsibility growing up, and it shows. And remember, you are no longer in the West, which means you do not have to check your cajones at the door. Do not behave like you behaved back there. If you do that, she will take over. And take your time. Time is your ally. If it is good, it is only going to get better. If there are real issues, they will reveal themselves over time. Do not allow a woman to push the agenda. Be a man. Push back. Be strong.

 

I waited 9 years. I know that is extreme, but I recommend waiting at least two years or longer. It takes a long time to really get to know someone. I hear alot of horror stories, and most of the time the guy moved too fast. As I said, they are always going to try to push the agenda and the timetable. It is up to you to push back. 

 

My wife was quite young, and had no kids. We still do not have kids, 15 years later, and do not plan on having any. I like kids. But the last thing in the world either of us need is to have kids running around the house. Just not our thing. We have an outstanding relationship, and I adore her. Every day spent with her is a very good day. She is funny, very smart, clever in the right ways, level headed, strong, has a light heart, a very good heart, and a great family. 

 

[EVENKEEL]

2 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

If you are going to get involved with a Thai woman, take into account the fact that many are immature and emotionally undeveloped. I highly recommend looking for a woman who is the eldest child in the family. They are given far more responsibility growing up, and it shows. And remember, you are no longer in the West, which means you do not have to check your cajones at the door. Do not behave like you behaved back there. If you do that, she will take over. And take your time. Time is your ally. If it is good, it is only going to get better. If there are real issues, they will reveal themselves over time. Do not allow a woman to push the agenda. Be a man. Push back. Be strong.

 

I waited 9 years. I know that is extreme, but I recommend waiting at least two years or longer. It takes a long time to really get to know someone. I hear alot of horror stories, and most of the time the guy moved too fast. As I said, they are always going to try to push the agenda and the timetable. It is up to you to push back. 

 

If you're going to cherry pick, pick one with no family.

[spidermike007]

2 minutes ago, EVENKEEL said:

If you're going to cherry pick, pick one with no family.

Well, I think I was very fortunate. Her family are hard working, honest and really good folks. We count on them alot to help us with our orchard, and they are always there for us. They are self supporting, and generous on many levels. But, as I said, I took a long time to get to know my wife, and her family, so I knew what I was getting into. And I realize she was alot more patient than most women here. But, the bottom line is there are plenty of good women here, so if she is not willing to wait long enough for you to get to know her, and develop a comfort level, better to either walk away, or show her the door. Doors can be very useful instruments. 

[Rockhopper]

Too soon!

[Darkside Gray]

Which time?

[Bangkok Barry]

Married exactly two weeks after meeting, 29 years ago. She was close to 30, no kids, not previously married, worked in Tokyu beside MBK. Travelled the world with me for 18 months as I worked as a journalist, then based in London for, I think, about the same period, then we moved to Thailand. After 15 years in Bangkok, moved to within a kilometre or two of most of her family in Kalasin Province. Life continues.

[AgMech Cowboy]

On 4/6/2020 at 11:01 PM, parafareno said:

and she is not ready at all.

Then you should definitely not be ready. Have you even asked her?? A woman not ready to marry is still playing the field. You are 10 meters out of 100. 

[Dap]

On 4/7/2020 at 3:44 AM, Damrongsak said:

I don't recall exactly when I met my future wife, but I think it was the start of Khao Phansa, July 1977.  She was in the market in Loei selling clothing with her sister.  Soon hired her to do my laundry as it wouldn't dry in the rainy season if I did it.  We married Oct 7, 1978, so perhaps 15 months.  It was then or never as my Peace Corps tour ended in March 1979. (We did hang around for another year or so as I got a job interviewing Lao and Khmer refugees for resettlement in the U.S.)

 

She didn't speak English at the time, though she knew a few words.  We got along fine just as friends.  Now after 42 years, her English is way better than my Thai.  And she's a worth adversary. 

 

Oh, she was never married and we were young.  I was 25, she was a couple years younger. Lovely couple.  Then and now:

 

 

Stellar! and absolutely enviable 

[wwest5829]

I have been here 8 years now. It did not take me long to realize the ideal was a cute Thai girl who was sterile and an orphan. Yea, well, the best laid plans of mice and men ... We have been together now three years, along with her 14 year old Daughter. Daughter has not had any relationship with Father so I am Papa (I swear, if Da were to leave, the Daughter would say "bye, I'll miss you"). Da does want to have marriage but is willing to wait till I deem ready (ha! too old and "shell shocked" for it to be important to me). Find the right Thai girl, traditionally raised (as I have) and, well ... you see we are posting plenty of positive stories here.

[NoshowJones]

"How soon did you get married".

We lived together for five years first.

[Blackheart1916]

2 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Well, I think I was very fortunate. Her family are hard working, honest and really good folks. We count on them alot to help us with our orchard, and they are always there for us. They are self supporting, and generous on many levels. But, as I said, I took a long time to get to know my wife, and her family, so I knew what I was getting into. And I realize she was alot more patient than most women here. But, the bottom line is there are plenty of good women here, so if she is not willing to wait long enough for you to get to know her, and develop a comfort level, better to either walk away, or show her the door. Doors can be very useful instruments. 

Same here. My wife and her family are hard workers. Farming, breeding fish, contract tractor work, and run a small shop. They've never asked us for anything, and treated me well always, and also my family when they came to Thailand for the wedding. Now back in Australia, the only time my wife complains is when there is no work to do, she gets bored, so onto the tablet for a Thai TV show. She starts a job here next week, hope she likes it!

[natway09]

Which time ? 555

[Kalasin Jo]

2 years. She was then 35. No children. Both married several times before. . Somehow we are still, 8 years on from when we met, keeping it together ! Many challenges!!!

[Thingamabob]

7 years.

[Suitcase]

On 4/7/2020 at 9:56 AM, roo860 said:

I can see by the smile on your faces you're still a very happy couple!!!!

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What smile?

They look as unhappy as any couple could be

[bkk6060]

An old saying: Why buy the cow when the milk can be rented for 1000 b?

 

Many guys come here and have a move in or get married quickly.  Even online proposals without even meeting them or knowing much about this place.  

[toofarnorth]

TOO SOON !   But that was my first wife in England , a lovely daughter and 3 grand daughters came from it . They visit when the covid allows.  My eldest g/daughter with my now Thai wife.

[EvetsKram]

About 20 months,  she was a widow with teenager & adult child

[khunPer]

On 4/6/2020 at 6:01 PM, parafareno said:

I wonder how long did it take for you to get married with your Thai girlfriend. 

Also mention her age, and if she has kids or she was married before.....

17 years and still counting...

 

Her age?

If by marriage I don't know, she says that she will marry me when I'm 90, so could be 58; I've never been married, so parhaps Okay to try it by that time...????

Anyway we have 32 year between us, she was 22 when we met.

 

Kids before?

No, but she has one now, I presume I'm the father...????

 

Married before?

Yes, village marriage – unregistered, many girls might have been village married, not any way of checking if not told – even twice, but neither of them worked; the longest lasted for 3 month. More-or-less arranged by families, which could also have to do with face, or not loosing face.

????