Those with Thai GF, how are you managing the separation anxiety?

[Thaidude]

I am one of those who is currently seperated with his Thai GF where both of us are stuck in their respective countries. Haven't met each other since Feb this year. Those in similar situation like me, is there any way? Meeting in 3rd country is an option but probably not the best considering the quarantine rules everywhere.

[Boomer6969]

Wrote something about "Thai giks", but thought better and removed my text.

Edited September 6, 2020 by Boomer6969

[Puchaiyank]

You can Skype...Line...or use any number of video call apps...she can show you what you are missing...you can show her how well your equipment is holding up!  ????

[searcher22]

I also haven't seen my GF since February this year.

Seeing her via video actually makes me feel sadder that I can't be with her, so I mostly stick to text chats on a daily basis.

[RichardColeman]

Currently stuck in UK away from the wife of 5 years and daughter. Currently I managing OK, though trying to support one household and a bed and breakfast is not cheap. 

 

Couple of years ago, my tenant stopped paying me, and as I basically used that money to live with the wife, we had no income so had to return to the UK. Luckily for me - definitely not for him - my tenant was in hospital and died soon, so I go the house back quickly. The the drug fueled , fraudulent lying hippie had wrecked the house, broken windows, holes in the doors and walls, literally sh** everywhere as the front door had been open for 12 days. I had no income, and if you have ever been on uni credit, you'll understand why it took a year to do the house up and find a new responsible tenant.

 

So, away now for 5 months is not as bad as the previous 12 so far. 

 

Then - as now - we use facebook to talk as much as possible, chat to my daughter, etc - though I sure hope FB never get moderators on live chat if you know what I mean  ????  I missed my daughters first day at school, but what can you do ? 

 

I have to think positive and as it is my intention to bring the family here in a few years anyway, i have to think of this time as addition credit for the marriage visa with immigration. Every day is another day to show immigration !

 

I would say that what this whole thing has shown is that Thailand is NOT really an option moving forwards with my family and wife. There is no reason this will not happen again in a year or so , just as we go back to normal. Personally I have to travel back to the UK every 9 months , so even if I did get in though the hoops and expensive quarantine, I;d have to do it potentially again later. 

 

I would say, time to start planning your life more, and thinking hard IS Thailand good for you and your g/f. 

 

Lastly, and I hate to worry you, my wife a school teacher, has a best new friend of a married bar girl (our daughters play together b4 you ask) and from what I gather from the wife, every one of her new friends bar girl friends and family with men abroad have all moved onto men currently here ! 

 

 

[Enoon]

I haven't got any.

 

Have spent 6 months apart every year since 2011.

 

Just started month 5.

 

Ask me again Nov/Dec.

 

 

[Kadilo]

1 hour ago, RichardColeman said:

 

 

Lastly, and I hate to worry you, my wife a school teacher, has a best new friend of a married bar girl (our daughters play together b4 you ask) and from what I gather from the wife, every one of her new friends bar girl friends and family with men abroad have all moved onto men currently here ! 

 

 

Are you not worried that if they are playing away and your wife has these new friends that she is not doing the same?

 

Agreed with the living in Thailand analysis. It’s definitely food for thought with what has gone on and as you say likely to keep happening. 
 

For me it reinforced the feeling that we are not valued on iota whether single, married or property owner, we are all surplus. I’ve read it many times on this forum but now to see it is quite sad. 

Edited September 6, 2020 by Kadilo

[Chelseafan]

I got married in January, a week after the wedding I had to fly back home for work. I booked flights to go back in April and August which obviously didn't happen. All in all I've spent 6 days with my newly betrothed in the past 8 months !!

 

I don't see Thailands borders opening up (in any meaningful way) this year so am working on a tourist visa for her to come to visit the UK. Incidentally, I assume their are flights out of Thailand ?

 

 

 

[Meat Pie 47]

Well since I am old I am not really worried about not seeing my lady friend 

We talk every day on camera. I have not seen her since last November.

So I guess I won't see her again for a few years (if I am still alive)

[Upnotover]

Fear not you old romantics, as is well known in these parts you will not lose your girlfriend, you'll only lose your turn.

[Dan O]

I left my GF and Thailand in February this year and have not been back due to the covid situation and the fact I am not married or have no children there. I talk to my GF every day in the morning and in the evening and am not sure at this point when I'll be back. For now that's the best we can do. 

 

I see some married people that complain about being away and I certainly understand how difficult it is emotionally but at least they have an avenue to return due to marriage and\or children.  I think many of those may have existed on border runs and short term visas and maybe they will reconsider that approach and convert to whatever appropriate long term visa works for their situation as this virus will be with the world for quite some time and there may be others to follow making life without a long term visa more difficult. 

 

 

 

[ChakaKhan]

My Gik and a bottle of sangsom have been the remedy....as is the way in the LOS.....and your mia noi too

[PingRoundTheWorld]

Dumped mine in April when it became clearer borders are not reopening anytime soon. There's simply no point for me to be in a relationship with someone I can't physically be with. The way it looks Thailand will not reopen for at least half a year without a huge sacrifice (quarantine and cost), so see you ya next year, LOS...

[Longchop]

Thai ladies living well off farang money transfers are VERY attractive to Thai men

[Kadilo]

1 hour ago, Dan O said:

I left my GF and Thailand in February this year and have not been back due to the covid situation and the fact I am not married or have no children there. I talk to my GF every day in the morning and in the evening and am not sure at this point when I'll be back. For now that's the best we can do. 

 

I see some married people that complain about being away and I certainly understand how difficult it is emotionally but at least they have an avenue to return due to marriage and\or children.  I think many of those may have existed on border runs and short term visas and maybe they will reconsider that approach and convert to whatever appropriate long term visa works for their situation as this virus will be with the world for quite some time and there may be others to follow making life without a long term visa more difficult. 

 

 

 

One of the things that pisses me off is not being able to renew my extension as it’s taken a few years to get to his point. ( I work so out of the country ) As of yet the Thai Gov has shown no interest in anyone on a Long term Visa, more interested in how they can make a quick buck so even having one means nothing. 

Edited September 6, 2020 by Kadilo

[Fat is a type of crazy]

My girlfriend went home to Thailand from Australia in March. Didn't mind for a while as we normally spend time apart. They've just announced here months more of lockdown with no flights to Thailand in sight so it's getting old. Talking on line each day is something but that gets old too. Miss the holidays..miss the fun..long time between...drinks.

[Puchaiyank]

every one of her new friends bar girl friends and family with men abroad have all moved onto men currently here ! 

 

If you have lived in Thailand for awhile...this should come as no surprise!

[473geo]

I guess I am lucky, used to long periods apart as worked away for years, always the plan to build a future for when we can be together full time, All working out well, and the time is close now. In fact if my company decide to terminate my contract, always a possibility in the current circumstances, then actually would move my arrival forward.

 

I am currently working from home and right now closing in on 10:30 Sunday evening not finished for the day. Not a lot of time to get bored!! just stopped now and started writing this, enough is enough!!

 

I have trust in my wife, and am lucky there too, in all the years I have never been concerned she would stray. There is always temptation, but I genuinely believe she is content with what we have achieved, together, moving forward, enough to appreciate we make steady progress. We seem to be a 'good fit'

 

My wife will happily inform people who ask, and they do frequently in Thailand, that we are not rich, we 'have enough'. I think that is where our minds meet, not brash, but confident we will make it through any challenge and come out better for it, together, with strength and self belief.

 

Covid has not even 'tested' our relationship, of that I am proud, and also feel very fortunate. We communicate daily, messenger texts, and video chat, always something to plan, discuss, laugh about.

 

I am confident all will work out for me and my family, currently a little patience is the main requirement.

I genuinely wish the same for you guys, and hope a happy reunion is not too far away

 

 

[ezzra]

Watch a lot of porn...

[izod10]

3 hours ago, Chelseafan said:

I got married in January, a week after the wedding I had to fly back home for work. I booked flights to go back in April and August which obviously didn't happen. All in all I've spent 6 days with my newly betrothed in the past 8 months !!

 

I don't see Thailands borders opening up (in any meaningful way) this year so am working on a tourist visa for her to come to visit the UK. Incidentally, I assume their are flights out of Thailand ?

 

 

 

..but not back

[steven100]

Thai women will always look at the thai guys when the farang is not around. Chances are it's happening to most here and they don't realize. It's not easy in thailand, as an earlier post mentioned, there's zero compassion or respect for the farang.

[473geo]

8 minutes ago, steven100 said:

Thai women will always look at the thai guys when the farang is not around. Chances are it's happening to most here and they don't realize. It's not easy in thailand, as an earlier post mentioned, there's zero compassion or respect for the farang.

Respect is achievable, you have to know what it takes to earn it, and put the effort in, many haven't a clue

[steven100]

1 minute ago, 473geo said:

Respect is achievable, you have to know what it takes to earn it

It may be achievable in some situations, I don't think it has to do with earning respect ..... I think it's more a case of either they are a good person or they are a cheat and lair. I have seen many farang do the right thing only to be kicked out once the house and car is achieved. Many Thai's are like this. imo

[Odysseus123]

30 minutes ago, steven100 said:

It may be achievable in some situations, I don't think it has to do with earning respect ..... I think it's more a case of either they are a good person or they are a cheat and lair. I have seen many farang do the right thing only to be kicked out once the house and car is achieved. Many Thai's are like this. imo

Or..if they have achieved citizenship in the "farang's" country once they have married and have gone to live abroad when they then fall in with other Thai "friends".

 

It's a minefield...

[donnacha]

No farang-Thai couple currently apart due to C19 is going to be reunited anytime soon. This whole mess is going to last a lot longer than most people realize. 

Very few relationships will survive being apart for that long, particularly at such a stressful time. The economic, crime, and social unrest chapters of this strange period have not yet even started to unfold. It is only natural for a woman who has been left alone to worry about such things.

Some relationships may appear to endure during the enforced separation but, once re-united, the accumulated stresses will place a grinding weight upon being together. Expectations will be disappointed, connections will fail.

This doesn't necessarily mean that anyone has been bad, or has acted in bad faith, it just means that people grow apart when separated for a long time.

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, donnacha said:

Very few relationships will survive being apart for that long, particularly at such a stressful time.

They'll last as long as you keep sending the money.

[BritManToo]

3 hours ago, 473geo said:

Respect is achievable, you have to know what it takes to earn it, and put the effort in, many haven't a clue

Any woman prepared to sleep with me won't be getting my respect.

I will also extend my lack of respect to any other Thai women banging fat, balding old white guys.

Edited September 7, 2020 by BritManToo

[bkk6060]

11 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

They'll last as long as you keep sending the money.

Yeah the hot one who left my room this morning said she had 4 sending her money before, now only one.

Since it is all indefinite at this point I do not think I would continue, unless a wife and family.

 

 

[donnacha]

29 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

They'll last as long as you keep sending the money.

But isn't that money a fairly compelling incentive for them not to tell you that the relationship is, in fact, as far as they are concerned, over?

I think the point of proof will be when these long-separated couples are re-united and try to find their previous flow and ease with one another. Any money you may have sent won't count for much at that stage. It will either work or it won't.

[trucking]

23 hours ago, RichardColeman said:

Currently stuck in UK away from the wife of 5 years and daughter. Currently I managing OK, though trying to support one household and a bed and breakfast is not cheap. 

 

Couple of years ago, my tenant stopped paying me, and as I basically used that money to live with the wife, we had no income so had to return to the UK. Luckily for me - definitely not for him - my tenant was in hospital and died soon, so I go the house back quickly. The the drug fueled , fraudulent lying hippie had wrecked the house, broken windows, holes in the doors and walls, literally sh** everywhere as the front door had been open for 12 days. I had no income, and if you have ever been on uni credit, you'll understand why it took a year to do the house up and find a new responsible tenant.

 

So, away now for 5 months is not as bad as the previous 12 so far. 

 

Then - as now - we use facebook to talk as much as possible, chat to my daughter, etc - though I sure hope FB never get moderators on live chat if you know what I mean  ????  I missed my daughters first day at school, but what can you do ? 

 

I have to think positive and as it is my intention to bring the family here in a few years anyway, i have to think of this time as addition credit for the marriage visa with immigration. Every day is another day to show immigration !

 

I would say that what this whole thing has shown is that Thailand is NOT really an option moving forwards with my family and wife. There is no reason this will not happen again in a year or so , just as we go back to normal. Personally I have to travel back to the UK every 9 months , so even if I did get in though the hoops and expensive quarantine, I;d have to do it potentially again later. 

 

I would say, time to start planning your life more, and thinking hard IS Thailand good for you and your g/f. 

 

Lastly, and I hate to worry you, my wife a school teacher, has a best new friend of a married bar girl (our daughters play together b4 you ask) and from what I gather from the wife, every one of her new friends bar girl friends and family with men abroad have all moved onto men currently here ! 

 

 

 

On the subject of renting , you might do better selling the house and getting 2 studio flats instead.

 

That way , you only have 1 room to worry about and the external of the property is taken care of. Should you get a bad tennant you only have the one room to put straight. Also, the rent from 2 studios would probably be more than the rent for a house.