Those with Thai GF, how are you managing the separation anxiety?

[smutcakes]

2 hours ago, donnacha said:

No farang-Thai couple currently apart due to C19 is going to be reunited anytime soon. This whole mess is going to last a lot longer than most people realize. 

Very few relationships will survive being apart for that long, particularly at such a stressful time. The economic, crime, and social unrest chapters of this strange period have not yet even started to unfold. It is only natural for a woman who has been left alone to worry about such things.

Some relationships may appear to endure during the enforced separation but, once re-united, the accumulated stresses will place a grinding weight upon being together. Expectations will be disappointed, connections will fail.

This doesn't necessarily mean that anyone has been bad, or has acted in bad faith, it just means that people grow apart when separated for a long time.

I am not sure about other countries but i could get on a plane to the UK tomorrow from Thailand. If UK nationals are desperate to see their better halfs why not have them fly to the UK.

[Tagged]

I put my company on hold, and stayed. I had the feeling this would take time, so I guess I made a lucky choice back then before the borders closed. 

[GeorgeCross]

she's been a lot happier since her brother started dropping round to make sure she's ok ????

 

 

 

 

[soi3eddie]

6 hours ago, Longchop said:

Thai ladies living well off farang money transfers are VERY attractive to Thai men

 

Lots of busy money transfer booths in Pattaya (mid August).

 

[soi3eddie]

8 hours ago, Chelseafan said:

I got married in January, a week after the wedding I had to fly back home for work. I booked flights to go back in April and August which obviously didn't happen. All in all I've spent 6 days with my newly betrothed in the past 8 months !!

 

I don't see Thailands borders opening up (in any meaningful way) this year so am working on a tourist visa for her to come to visit the UK. Incidentally, I assume their are flights out of Thailand ?

 

 

 

Sorry to hear your situation. When applying for the British visa be sure to supply plenty of evidence that she (and you too if possible) will be going back to Thailand at the end of her stay. The British Border Force will scrutinse closely to be certain that she is not intending to move and stay in the UK. If that is the case then a settlement visa is needed (long process, higher costs, income requirement and she will need to pass the English language test).

Yes, there are plenty of flights OUT of Thailand to the UK at present. Until regular scheduled return flights resume (as opposed to repatriation flights) and Thais can return easily to Thailand without CoE and Fit To Fly then I suspect issuance of tourist visas may be affected.   

[donnacha]

43 minutes ago, smutcakes said:

I am not sure about other countries but i could get on a plane to the UK tomorrow from Thailand. If UK nationals are desperate to see their better halfs why not have them fly to the UK.

My impression is that most Thai girls are happy enough to have a farang boyfriend but aren't so eager to leave their lives, their jobs, their families. They know that UK weather is miserable as we head into the winter, and that UK food is not yummy.

More importantly, the government and media keep telling them how well Thailand is doing against Covid while other countries are suffering a zombie apocalypse.

Zombies, freezing rain, and no somtam.


 

Edited September 7, 2020 by donnacha

[soi3eddie]

5 hours ago, Puchaiyank said:

every one of her new friends bar girl friends and family with men abroad have all moved onto men currently here ! 

 

If you have lived in Thailand for awhile...this should come as no surprise!

I recently witnessed the "gf" of a fellow foreigner back at "work" and he had only just landed in his home country! Only surprised at how soon she moved on. 

[Bender Rodriguez]

15 hours ago, Thaidude said:

I am one of those who is currently seperated with his Thai GF where both of us are stuck in their respective countries.

are you afraid you will start to STRAY ... you still can send money, but what if she gets lonely ...

 

on your return, you find "her brother" living with her, which in fact is .... not her brother...

[treetops]

12 hours ago, Chelseafan said:

Incidentally, I assume their are flights out of Thailand ?

Plenty flights out, and as you are married to a Thai you could also come back if you're prepared  to jump through some hoops.

[473geo]

I'm sure something good will happen to you negative guys someday, trouble is you probably won't notice or appreciate it ???? meanwhile just avoid the risk - keeeeeeeeeeeep renting

[BritManToo]

3 hours ago, soi3eddie said:

I recently witnessed the "gf" of a fellow foreigner back at "work" and he had only just landed in his home country! Only surprised at how soon she moved on. 

Most of them have moved on while the guy is still waiting to board the plane out. 

[473geo]

4 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Most of them have moved on while the guy is still waiting to board the plane out. 

Why not the transaction is complete? It's the way it works in the rent by day world.

I think this thread is more for those of us who made a little more commitment than just handing over a few baht.

[BritManToo]

Just now, 473geo said:

Why not the transaction is complete? It's the way it works in the rent by day world.

I think this thread is more for those of us who made a little more commitment than just handing over a few baht.

You think you've made a commitment, they haven't.

[473geo]

2 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

You think you've made a commitment, they haven't.

'They' being the rentals that have been let down so frequently 'they' don't consider anything less than marriage a commitment?

[BritManToo]

Just now, 473geo said:

'They' being the rentals that have been let down so frequently 'they' don't consider anything less than marriage a commitment?

It's only 30bht for a divorce, hardly a commitment.

[473geo]

7 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

It's only 30bht for a divorce, hardly a commitment.

Ha Ha but it can be 3 million plus for the wedding, house, and car

 

Then you have to have the skills to keep life interesting, entertaining, and enjoyable..... not go and sit at the bar eyeing the girls with your mates

 

Is there any wonder so many fail ????

Edited September 7, 2020 by 473geo

[BritManToo]

Just now, 473geo said:

Ha Ha but it can be 3 million plus for the wedding, house, and car

 

Then you have to have the skills to keep life interesting, entertaining, and enjoyable..... not go and sit at the bar eyeing the girls with you mates

 

Is there any wonder so many fail ????

I paid 30bht for my Amphur wedding, had a wedding dinner in my local 30bht restaurant, just the 2 of us.

They noticed the posh clothes we were wearing (and the corsages the Amphur office gave us) and served our rice with chicken and basil in a dimmed room with candles. About 200bht for the whole day, and it was extremely romantic. 

Edited September 7, 2020 by BritManToo

[473geo]

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

I paid 30bht for my Amphur wedding, had a wedding dinner in my local 30bht restaurant, just the 2 of us.

They noticed the posh clothes we were wearing (and the corsages the Amphur office gave us) and served our rice with chicken and basil in a dimmed room with candles. About 200bht for the whole day, and it was extremely romantic. 

Nothing wrong with cheap and romantic but you gotta follow it up

 

 

[Keyser Soze666]

It's worse than mumsnet on here.

 

Worry not, I'm sure your Thai gf is being 'taken care of' " :-)

[473geo]

12 minutes ago, Keyser Soze666 said:

It's worse than mumsnet on here.

 

Worry not, I'm sure your Thai gf is being 'taken care of' " :-)

Anybody who thinks and behaves on the presumption a Thai woman cannot survive without them is going to fail

[smudger1951]

12 hours ago, PingRoundTheWorld said:

Dumped mine in April when it became clearer borders are not reopening anytime soon. There's simply no point for me to be in a relationship with someone I can't physically be with. The way it looks Thailand will not reopen for at least half a year without a huge sacrifice (quarantine and cost), so see you ya next year, LOS...

You must have loved her very much. 

[smudger1951]

21 minutes ago, 473geo said:

Anybody who thinks and behaves on the presumption a Thai woman cannot survive without them is going to fail

Yes, I've heard that before, thais can live on fresh air alone. Tell that to the increasingly large number of homeless or the ones in food queues.

[chilli42]

14 hours ago, Kadilo said:

Are you not worried that if they are playing away and your wife has these new friends that she is not doing the same?

 

Agreed with the living in Thailand analysis. It’s definitely food for thought with what has gone on and as you say likely to keep happening. 
 

For me it reinforced the feeling that we are not valued on iota whether single, married or property owner, we are all surplus. I’ve read it many times on this forum but now to see it is quite sad. 

I am not so sure I see the girls this way.  They are flexible and adaptable to their circumstances, they have to be they were born poor.  Many were born into families where they may not have had a father and often not a mother, being brought up by the grandparents.  What do you think their view of a committed relationship is?  Don’t be so quick to judge.  Maybe a bit more humble about what your value in this society is.  

[1FinickyOne]

17 hours ago, Boomer6969 said:

Wrote something about "Thai giks", but thought better and removed my text.

sort of...

[473geo]

19 minutes ago, smudger1951 said:

Yes, I've heard that before, thais can live on fresh air alone. Tell that to the increasingly large number of homeless or the ones in food queues.

Always exceptions to the rule, doesn't work trying to elevate them to be the 'norm'

[smudger1951]

6 hours ago, smutcakes said:

I am not sure about other countries but i could get on a plane to the UK tomorrow from Thailand. If UK nationals are desperate to see their better halfs why not have them fly to the UK.

smutcakes, if only it were so easy my wife would  come to UK, but returning to LOS is fraught with problems not just quarratine regs.

[sead]

Since jan 24. But she just arrived to Sweden. Schengenvisa took 4 days to get. 

[itsallmine68]

Your not even close to the time of seperation. I know of a lady that finally came to Canada as a Nanny and hadnt sen her son or Husband for 9 years. Not 9 months 9 years Reason so she could get a better job to support them in the Phillipines. Then a worker I had in Qatar and came to me pleading not to demobilize him at the end of a job. Found out he could go home every year to visit his wife and 5 children. He hadnt done it in 5 years reason scared to lose his job.

So 5,6,7,8,9 months come back later Also think of families from WW2, Korean Vietnam that didnt see sons for 5-6 years and there was no Line, Skype, manybe a letter once a year from a POW Camp 

[ronaldo0]

The what ?? ????

[Boomer6969]

Been giving it some thoughts; reminds my my time before moving to Thailand, when I was having lunch hours short time in Geneva, at THB 7000 to 10000 a pop, just after going to Western Union to send her her monthly 40000. With most things Thai it is all about money. And sex.