How do I stop myself from drinking too much?

[denvemosc46]

20 year old male here. Every time I go out for a drink, my nights usually start out pretty good, with me being in a good mood, and with a lot of confidence. But as the night passes on, 3 things happens. I get really tired, sad and depressed sitting in the corner not saying a thing, and so drunk that I throw up everywhere and can't remember a thing next day. I know I could just ''drink less'', but I somehow can't make myself do that, when I have had a couple of drinks. Has any of you dealt with the same situation?

[madmen]

How much do you actually drink? Throwing up every time is a huge drink. Try going out later say 10 pm to 1am and just pace your self. 

If your handsum man Get a girlfriend. That tends to settle most wild drinkers down a bit 

[Surelynot]

Start buying lady drinks...you'll soon run out of money for your own beer.

[richard_smith237]

20 years old... What are you doing in Thailand ? i.e. work wise.... or did you grow up here (parents working here etc). 

 

 

Its strange that a 20 year old is here as working here would be very difficult (too young to have a degree).

Spending any length of time here you’d have friends to socialise with and perhaps thats the key point. 

 

 

Going out and socialising rather than just drinking....  Look on Facebook etc for some sports groups, football etc and join those - limit the booze (i.e. not every night) i.e. limit to just weekends etc or weekends and a Weds night etc.

 

 

Drinking until you are drunk and throwing up is not going to make you popular in any bar, but sitting somewhere alone means you drink faster - try and strike up conversation with people. 

 

 

Do more in the day time - get up earlier...  don’t drink with dinner, when you go out, go out later, go home earlier. 

 

 

 

[BritManToo]

Why are you sitting in a corner on your own?

Might as well drink at home alone, it won't stop you throwing up, but at least you'll only be spending half as much.

[Boomer6969]

43 minutes ago, denvemosc46 said:

20 year old male here. Every time I go out for a drink, my nights usually start out pretty good, with me being in a good mood, and with a lot of confidence. But as the night passes on, 3 things happens. I get really tired, sad and depressed sitting in the corner not saying a thing, and so drunk that I throw up everywhere and can't remember a thing next day. I know I could just ''drink le, ss'', but I somehow can't make myself do that, when I have had a couple of drinks. Has any of you dealt with the same situation?

Seems you have a great future, here in Thailand. But if you are determined to squander this potential, I could suggest you develop your interest in wine.  Nothing beats sharing a nice bottle, over a juicy Tenderloin with a Thai lady.

 

Thai men are too for that "keeneeow" and seem to believe wine isn't masculine enough.

[Cake Monster]

Go to the Local Hardware Store and purchase a Large Bucket full of Self Discipline.

[Mops59]

Well no pretty message here. When you drink every day/night more than 3 glasses a day your body depends on it. In other words you are a alcoholic. Whem you are "sober" you are feeling great and when drunk feeling down. Probably your day to day feeling of live is catching up with you. So what is wrong. Why are you drinking soo much? And why are you drinking every day? Go to Rehab. Sort your troubles out. Stop drinking. Go excersize and find a job. Because in my point of view you are a piece of <deleted> not worth of a nice girlfriend.  Or in case you don't R.I.P. You will drink yourself to death

 

[jak2002003]

OP..sounds like you have some problems that are causing you to behave like this.

 

Stop drinking altogether for now till you have got your problem under control. Otherwise you will ruin your life...and at 20 year old that is such a waste....if you get older you will look back at that time in your life and really regret it. 

[Sheryl]

Moved to the Drink Too Much sub forum for better replies

 

[from the home of CC]

doubt the veracity of this post, sorry..

[holy cow cm]

Binge drinking. Start and don't stop until completely hammered. I drink heavily more than not, but do not throw up and do not black out. But I am old and still can stay in control when out. 20 years old is a problem. Are you mixing drinks? Say like beer and Thai rum? If so then stay on one alcohol only. Over the years you become more accustomed to handle drinking, but when young it can be a learning curve spiral.

[RichardColeman]

For me, though In never really drunk that much (and never smoked), the solution was simple  - start collecting something. When you see a collection growing and get enthusiastic about it you start realising that that 1000 baht for alcohol becomes a hard choice for something you really want to extend your collection. Good thing about it, is that my wife supports this, I'm home, I'm not drunk, i don't play around and what I buy is still money - though only God knows how I will get it all back to the UK in years to come.

[ding]

1 post but I'll have a go...

Yep, this is a "drink too mut" post, for sure.

 

Sounds like me. I tried EVERYTHING and nothing even slowed down that famous progression of the disease.

I had to go to AA at 26 yrs old. That was 35 years ago, never slipped, never went to a treatment center.

 

Life's good now, real good.

 

I do think treatment centers are a great intervention and may save many years of suffering, even save your life. I just didn't have the money. AA works as a stand-alone. Google AA meeting in your city for online meetings. Free, and it works.

[Curt1591]

17 hours ago, denvemosc46 said:

20 year old male here. Every time I go out for a drink, my nights usually start out pretty good, with me being in a good mood, and with a lot of confidence. But as the night passes on, 3 things happens. I get really tired, sad and depressed sitting in the corner not saying a thing, and so drunk that I throw up everywhere and can't remember a thing next day. I know I could just ''drink less'', but I somehow can't make myself do that, when I have had a couple of drinks. Has any of you dealt with the same situation?

 

"Every time I go out for a drink, ..." 

Unfortunately, when one cannot control the outcome of a drinking encounter, once initiated, one is in trouble. Blackouts are a classic sign of serious drinking problems.

The only thing you can do is not start. "Drinking less" isn't going to happen. Been there; done that!

[ChakaKhan]

I worked in bars for 20 yrs so it was free for me.....not always a good thing....some tips overheard

 

Only drink beer..no hard stuff....I always load up with fat=protein b4 i go out...hence c. burger and fries-etc

 

Dont start until later...tough in LOS as you have after hrs places to access it.....drink water....  1 drink+1 water

 

If you end up alone-leave and go elsewhere--or call it a night....there were weekly expat-tourist meet ups in Cm

where expats and tourists met up and picked a diff place weekly to keep it fresh....depends on WHERE u drink

 

I drink alone and wander in CM always met ppl along my adventure..be open and friendly-- I always went to same place to start--bought a sangsom small set and that small bottle was all I needed to get me thru the night..as soon as that was gone then I could gauge my intake..I always shared my bottle with thais-share!

 

If ur puking that is your body telling u----Im guessing hard stuff or shots....body needs time to build tolerance as in my bar days I could drink a ton and work --20 yrs took a toll on me too....rarely drink at all nowadays, as my  sangsom nights were maybe one a week max......as I would host weekly get togethers in Cm for tourists......

 

The older you get the slower the recovery----from quantity is now about  quality..hence the sangsom-premium!!

 

The old saying everything is ok..in moderation....age plays a large factor and who we have to answer to ????

 

 

[1FinickyOne]

AA groups are everywhere... works for some... give it a try. 

 

Hi. My name is Bob - I am an alcoholic.

Hi Bob... comes a mumbled group response... 

[tonray]

Get a GF to nag you so you have a reason to drink

[teacherclaire]

OP, go to see others with the same problem.

 

It's not a nice way to live, first you'll get a fat liver, then a cirrhosis is just around the corner.

 

   Many people are like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hide when drinking a lot.

 

They always think that they are right, but that's not true. Alcohol destroys friendships, marriages and lives.

 

 

 

   

 

   

[anchadian]

Stick to water.

[Jai Dee]

A troll post as well as a reply have been removed.

[KKr]

AA before it is too late.

[PETERTHEEATER]

How do I stop myself from drinking too much?

Spill most of it.....

[BritManToo]

10 hours ago, Curt1591 said:

Unfortunately, when one cannot control the outcome of a drinking encounter, once initiated, one is in trouble. Blackouts are a classic sign of serious drinking problems.

Would disagree, I had blackouts when I drank Chang, nothing like that before or after.

[kingstonkid]

OP

 

as has been stated get a life.  I am not being sarcastic but just saying that you need something in your life besides bars.

 

Join a gym, take lessons in Thai, start dating with online services (do not take them to a bar on your date)

get a job,  go to university

there are a million things to do in Thailand you just have to find something else other than booze.

 

Booze is a crutch. get out go to places there are a ton of young girls looking just to date in this country not looking for a husband (well some are)

 

 

[Lacessit]

Recognize alcohol is a depressant, and a Class 1 carcinogen. The OP is exhibiting all the symptoms of an alcoholic at age 20.

Some people can handle alcohol, some can't. Winston Churchill was able to function despite heavy alcohol consumption.

The OP needs to either learn to handle his intake, or give it up completely.

[Grumpy one]

If you are serious about cutting back on your drinks.

After ordering your first one pick a fight with the biggest nastiest mongrel at the bar.

You wont be wanting a second drink  

[FritsSikkink]

On ‎11‎/‎5‎/‎2020 at 2:40 PM, RichardColeman said:

For me, though In never really drunk that much (and never smoked), the solution was simple  - start collecting something. When you see a collection growing and get enthusiastic about it you start realising that that 1000 baht for alcohol becomes a hard choice for something you really want to extend your collection. Good thing about it, is that my wife supports this, I'm home, I'm not drunk, i don't play around and what I buy is still money - though only God knows how I will get it all back to the UK in years to come.

He is collecting beers.

[Grumpy one]

On 11/5/2020 at 2:40 PM, RichardColeman said:

For me, though In never really drunk that much (and never smoked), the solution was simple  - start collecting something. When you see a collection growing and get enthusiastic about it you start realising that that 1000 baht for alcohol becomes a hard choice for something you really want to extend your collection. Good thing about it, is that my wife supports this, I'm home, I'm not drunk, i don't play around and what I buy is still money - though only God knows how I will get it all back to the UK in years to come.

I tried the collecting thing, all I ended up with was 3 ex-wives  ????

[DaLa]

On 11/5/2020 at 2:40 PM, RichardColeman said:

For me, though In never really drunk that much (and never smoked), the solution was simple  - start collecting something. When you see a collection growing and get enthusiastic about it you start realising that that 1000 baht for alcohol becomes a hard choice for something you really want to extend your collection. Good thing about it, is that my wife supports this, I'm home, I'm not drunk, i don't play around and what I buy is still money - though only God knows how I will get it all back to the UK in years to come.

Exactly this, see how many girls he could have collected at 1000 baht a pop.

 

Oh poo, missed the bit about being married.