Weird demand form my boyfriend

[kellyoinkoink]

Hello folks,

It is weird a bit when I am an only girl in this group who asks your advices about sensitive issue of relationship. And I know most of you are men. I think it’s better because I can understand what is happening in man’s brain beside his neurons.

 

Well, story is that my weird boyfriend keeps mentioning about a weird of relationship which I cannot accept it -3somes.

 

I think it violates moral standard. Moreover, as a official girlfriend, who wants bf “abcdxyz” with another girl in front of her, then that girl touch to her body.....that is so ewww. that girl is stranger, who knows if she gets HIV or not. 2 girls use 1 man. And that is my man. Whenever I imagine that situation, I just want to kill that girl and choke my bf’s neck. No mood for “abcdxyz”. For me, it’s like he cheats me under my permission.

 

As a man, please tell me your thoughts.

 

Thanks for listening my story.

Hope you have a nice day.

 

Edited January 27, 2021 by kellyoinkoink

[kingofthemountain]

Hi 

it could help to give a good advice with more informations

like your age and since how many time you are in the relation

plus what are the mutual involvments (Child? Owning a house or a condo together? And so on)

 

Anyway you are not forced to accept his demand if you don't agree or even 

if you aren't comfortable with the idea. Just expose to him your feelings

and explain it's not negociable for you. His fantasm is a classic for a man

(The ''harem'' syndrom) maybe he should be less comfortable if you propose the 

other way, you with 2 men?

 

Be prepared to a possible break in your relation soon or later

a disagreement in the sexual life in a young couple is often the begining of the end

 

good luck

 

[Maha Sarakham]

23 minutes ago, kellyoinkoink said:

As a man, please tell me your thoughts.

 

You've already outlined how you feel about the situation.

 

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For me, it’s like he cheats me under my permission.

 

Either you're ok with it or you aren't.  Sounds like you are not.

[timendres]

The first thing to understand about men is that they think about sex much more than any woman can possibly imagine. Second, these thoughts often drift into fantasy. These fantasies are driven by many things, but the "threesome" fantasy is very common. Personally, having indulged in said fantasy numerous times, I can honestly say that the fantasy is always better than the reality. In fact, this is true of almost every fantasy.

 

So, the first thing you want to do is try to understand this aspect of men. Then, you should make it very clear to your bf where you stand on this question. There are women who are perfectly willing to explore some fantasies with their lover. And every woman has limits to what they are willing to explore. Simply make this clear, but in a non-confrontational manner. Explain how you feel about the idea. Explain that you understand that your bf has these fantasies, but that they must remain just that, unless he wishes to jeopardize your relationship.

[kingdong]

Tell your " boyfriend " you,d like to have a threesome with him and another male see how he reacts to that.

[kellyoinkoink]

1 minute ago, kingdong said:

Tell your " boyfriend " you,d like to have a threesome with him and another male see how he reacts to that.

He said: let’s do it. 
I don’t know what to say then....

[samisaurus]

He sounds awesome. Hope he replaces you for not behaving properly. 

[AlexRich]

Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it Kelly. Have a go, and then update us all with your thoughts. 

[sirineou]

Please don't feed the trolls, they get used to hanging around humans and sooner or later someone is going to get hurt. 

[kellyoinkoink]

5 minutes ago, samisaurus said:

He sounds awesome. Hope he replaces you for not behaving properly. 

Awesome? How can u agree to share your girlfriend with another guy? Are u jealous at all? just a bit ? No? If u are not jealous , are u sure that it’s love?

[kellyoinkoink]

Guys, After telling him my thoughts and asked him what if I and he and another man do it, he said “ let’s do it”.....I don’t know what to say! 
This man’s fantasy happens with you guys? 

[sirineou]

28 minutes ago, sirineou said:

Please don't feed the trolls, they get used to hanging around humans and sooner or later someone is going to get hurt. 

So First post in this community and it's a doozy  ,

then when I make a round and about accusation of trolldom, this first time poster knows exactly what a troll is and posts a Sad emoji for calling him so.  

Edited January 27, 2021 by sirineou
typo

[kingofthemountain]

4 minutes ago, kellyoinkoink said:

Awesome? How can u agree to share your girlfriend with another guy? Are u jealous at all? just a bit ? No? If u are not jealous , are u sure that it’s love?

It's a complex and difficult question

you don't own the other, his mind and his body

it can be a proof of love to let the other chose how and with who to

use his\her body (The swingers for example)

 

the exclusive sexual notion between 2 persons in a couple is something created by the

western societies to deal with and organize the parental filiation

few others society and civilizations recognize polygamy and even the polyandry

[kingofthemountain]

6 minutes ago, kellyoinkoink said:

Guys, After telling him my thoughts and asked him what if I and he and another man do it, he said “ let’s do it”.....I don’t know what to say! 
This man’s fantasy happens with you guys? 

I am more into the gang bang thing

 

[kingdong]

43 minutes ago, kellyoinkoink said:

He said: let’s do it. 
I don’t know what to say then....

If this is a serious post and not a wind up,tell him to sling his hook,

Edited January 27, 2021 by kingdong

[kingdong]

45 minutes ago, kellyoinkoink said:

He said: let’s do it. 
I don’t know what to say then....

 

48 minutes ago, kellyoinkoink said:

He said: let’s do it. 
I don’t know what to say then....

Ask him if i can watch

[RichardColeman]

 

38 minutes ago, kellyoinkoink said:

This man’s fantasy happens with you guys? 

I am sure many of us have sexual fantasies, but that's mostly where we keep them.

 

[kellyoinkoink]

13 minutes ago, kingdong said:

If this is a serious post and not a wind up,tell him to sling his hook,

I’m serious with my post. Not troll or post it for fun. Wanna to know what men think. I even tried to search about this on google to understand what men think. Sometimes I thought oh maybe I’m Asian, Western men can think differently. 

[Maha Sarakham]

1 hour ago, kellyoinkoink said:

Guys, After telling him my thoughts and asked him what if I and he and another man do it, he said “ let’s do it”.....I don’t know what to say! 

 

You asked for it ????

[richard_smith237]

 

Threesomes... the real ones, not the ones with a girl and two guys, can be great fun...  up the ante and go for an awesome foursome !!!.... 

 

 

..... seriously though.. don’t do anything you don’t want to do - its that simple. There’s no need to compromise yourself. 

Edited January 27, 2021 by richard_smith237

[techietraveller84]

2 hours ago, kellyoinkoink said:

Well, story is that my weird boyfriend keeps mentioning about a weird of relationship which I cannot accept it -3somes.

It seems pretty clear that you think your BF is weird and has weird desires. Maybe time to consider letting him go and finding someone you are more compatible with. It's quite possible that even if you say no, he will find ways to get what he wants, maybe without you knowing. Once a man gets an idea in his head, it can be very hard for his mindset to change.

[ezzra]

Don't know,  what's next, my bf ask me to drop my knickers turn around and bend forward?...sound like a wind up and a hoax, why would anyone feel the urge to post such topic at 3am? and why bring to the attention of thousands other strangers? such issues should, if they're true, be worked out between the 2 adults and no amount of dear Abby advice can help

[ThaIrish Sean]

1 hour ago, kellyoinkoink said:

Guys, After telling him my thoughts and asked him what if I and he and another man do it, he said “ let’s do it”.....I don’t know what to say! 
This man’s fantasy happens with you guys? 

IMO find somebody else as this will not go away and you will not be happy.

[Lacessit]

I would be asking the BF how he proposes to service both of you without risking transmitting an STD. Will he be willing to clean himself between bouts with both of you? What other fantasies does he have?

It's a mild fantasy to men, me included. But in reality, one woman hot to trot is all any man can handle.

It's kinky, but harmless in his mindset. It's harmful to you if you go along with it feeling uncomfortable.

 

 

[bkk6060]

Sounds like a fun idea.

If you were my GF and not up to it, I would dump you.

[scorecard]

3 hours ago, kingofthemountain said:

Hi 

it could help to give a good advice with more informations

like your age and since how many time you are in the relation

plus what are the mutual involvments (Child? Owning a house or a condo together? And so on)

 

Anyway you are not forced to accept his demand if you don't agree or even 

if you aren't comfortable with the idea. Just expose to him your feelings

and explain it's not negociable for you. His fantasm is a classic for a man

(The ''harem'' syndrom) maybe he should be less comfortable if you propose the 

other way, you with 2 men?

 

Be prepared to a possible break in your relation soon or later

a disagreement in the sexual life in a young couple is often the begining of the end

 

good luck

 

QUOTE from above:  "

Anyway you are not forced to accept his demand if you don't agree or even 

if you aren't comfortable with the idea. Just expose to him your feelings

and explain it's not negociable for you"

 

In my opinion very wise words and advice. Some people can accept these situations/arrangements, most can't and you are 100% entitled to say NO if that's your wish. 

 

You can't 'force' yourself to like this. If it goes ahead I very much doubt it would be a 'once only' event. It would probably continue with the same 2nd girl or perhaps many 2nd girls. Then there's risks about disease and always on your mind 'what's next', 'when will he want it again? 'Is he grooming other girls to be ready for the next 'event', and more. 

 

A key question for you. Will It stop (totally go out of his thinking) after one event? I believe NO.

 

You obviously have to consider the whole picture and make a decision.

 

May be better to move on and put this totally behind you. 

 

Good luck.

[tifino]

hopefully it is still at just a fantasy stage with him....

 

otherwise; he has already done it, and now coming in to try to justify himself 

 

 

 

or he might have found Chaturbate 'couples' especially the multi-person columbian channels ????     (and you are 'Free' instead)

[ChipButty]

2's company, 3's Pleasure

[Fat is a type of crazy]

This has a clickbait title 'Weird demand' like 'This one weird way to lose body fat' .

Interesting name too. Kelly Oink Oink . 

 Be firm - just say it's not your cup of tea. Then see how he reacts over time and decide what it says about the relationship that you want for the future.

 

 

 

 

 

[Tagged]

I believe it is a wind up, but for those girls who is in a relationship they more or less can not leave, it is a serious situation.

 

How many girs in Asia is bound to stay no matter what happens? They have nothing to go back to, especialy after they have passed 30 and already have kids. Be nice

 

Many asian girls have one shot, and we have many options.