Take care of me

[Kenny202]

22 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

When my mother married my mother many years ago he also agreed to take care of her and their kids together.

 

Oh my, same sex relationship way back then! How cosmopolitan lol

[StayinThailand2much]

39 minutes ago, Hummin said:

I have to disagree, many are good with money, but also the opposite. When you say they, it means everybody? And that is wrong. 

Remind me to never suggest to you that 'the sky is blue today'. The discussion would never end...

[simon43]

1 hour ago, Kinnock said:

...

I once showed her a news article that said men need to ejaculate at least 21 times a month to maintain good prostate health .... and she started a diary!

 

Why was that?  So she could remind you when to masturbate? ????

[Kenny202]

39 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

It seems all of them want somebody to take care of them. Everything, 100%.

Just think like if you have a daughter. You pay for EVERYTHING.

 

Personally I think that is fair if you get a pretty young cute girl who makes you happy every day.

 

But why would anybody take care of an old women who is just too lazy to do anything?

 

Just imagine she would ask you if you want to take care of her...

I agree with this. Whatever tickles your pickle and makes you happy. In my experience some of the older plainer ones are more trouble than the younger ones. Know several guys as we speak dealing with real problems from gambling. Two of them had to go back home to work again in their 60's 70's

[bkk6060]

Pratically impossible in western countries but taking care of a women lets say 30 years younger then you even if she has a kid, is no problem here if you have an acceptable income.  If you can't afford them, say no.

Also, these "good job" women usually have debt or other baggage.  Would rather have a non worker who has some freedom to travel, etc.

To add, if you are the sole provider you should have 99% control.  If you don't, shame on you.

[ThailandRyan]

45 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

It seems all of them want somebody to take care of them. Everything, 100%.

Just think like if you have a daughter. You pay for EVERYTHING.

 

Personally I think that is fair if you get a pretty young cute girl who makes you happy every day.

 

But why would anybody take care of an old women who is just too lazy to do anything?

 

Just imagine she would ask you if you want to take care of her...

Sure I would definitely take care of her after using all available holes to fill with money shots, then out the door she goes. Remember you pay them to leave not stay... 

[BritManToo]

3 hours ago, RafPinto said:

That's the one thing, most Thai women will ask you.

CAN YOU TAKE CARE OF ME.
What exactly are they talking about.

I tell them I can take care of them for for a short time 1,000bht.

Normally they say yes.

[Hummin]

13 minutes ago, Kenny202 said:

I think everyone wants something from a relationship even if it is some mutual respect, happiness or fairness. Probably guys out there in one way type relationships where the woman is pleasant and the guy is happy. More power to him. But usually one way relationships never last long. In my experience that's what many of these women want. Its all about them. Like I said in an early post ask her what she is bringing to the party. I bet she will have this weird look on her face....she has never thought of it in those terms lol. And usually they say something like "you get my body" or "I live with you every day". I must say the only thing they seem to be diligent in and take seriously is their sexual responsibilities. Maybe in their mind that's the deal. As I always explain to them sex for foreigners is very easy to find in Thailand and as a single man plenty of variety. If you are selling yourself in this way what happens when I get bored with you? You will have to come up with something better than that.

As I say to her, you and me against the world and the world we conquer! 

 

A little sentence says Alot, and thank God her parents play along and no stereotype we read about here to often. Her family is genuinely helping each other, and we are not talking about helping with money. 

 

Some would say I'm a idiot, but those who know us, see us, know it's true.

 

Said it many times, we live for 30k a month, where her parents get 10k when working a month helping out on the farm, if not working or doing something else seasonal work, they get nothing. 

 

We live a simple and easy life on the farm, which gives us freedom to do other things like travel. 

 

I just want to point out, not every gf/wife is poisoned and the same for their families.

 

Get to know her family and friends, then you know your coming gf/wife, and a good investment for future.

 

Living with the family before you get seriously involved with her, will teach you everything you want to know. 

 

 

 

 

[Hummin]

21 minutes ago, StayinThailand2much said:

Remind me to never suggest to you that 'the sky is blue today'. The discussion would never end...

I would suggest the sky is ???? ????, somebody else will point out it is grey and bad weather is coming.

 

Blue sky black death!

[Kenny202]

3 minutes ago, Hummin said:

As I say to her, you and me against the world and the world we conquer! 

 

A little sentence says Alot, and thank God her parents play along and no stereotype we read about here to often. Her family is genuinely helping each other, and we are not talking about helping with money. 

 

Some would say I'm a idiot, but those who know us, see us, know it's true.

 

Said it many times, we live for 30k a month, where her parents get 10k when working a month helping out on the farm, if not working or doing something else seasonal work, they get nothing. 

 

We live a simple and easy life on the farm, which gives us freedom to do other things like travel. 

 

I just want to point out, not every gf/wife is poisoned and the same for their families.

 

Get to know her family and friends, then you know your coming gf/wife, and a good investment for future.

 

Living with the family before you get seriously involved with her, will teach you everything you want to know. 

 

 

 

 

I dont think anyone is suggesting good relationships and decent people don't exist here. Just saying they are extremely hard to find

[RafPinto]

29 minutes ago, Kenny202 said:

I think everyone wants something from a relationship even if it is some mutual respect, happiness or fairness. Probably guys out there in one way type relationships where the woman is pleasant and the guy is happy. More power to him. But usually one way relationships never last long. In my experience that's what many of these women want. Its all about them. Like I said in an early post ask her what she is bringing to the party. I bet she will have this weird look on her face....she has never thought of it in those terms lol. And usually they say something like "you get my body" or "I live with you every day". I must say the only thing they seem to be diligent in and take seriously is their sexual responsibilities. Maybe in their mind that's the deal. As I always explain to them sex for foreigners is very easy to find in Thailand and as a single man plenty of variety. If you are selling yourself in this way what happens when I get bored with you? You will have to come up with something better than that.

You get my body.

That's exactly what one of them answered me.

She had a good job, made 70k a month, 39 years old but wanted to stop working because she was tired.
Keep working, enjoy the work environment and let's build something together.
NO: Why to work if prince rich farang can realise all her dreams NOW.

[scubascuba3]

1 hour ago, OneMoreFarang said:

It seems all of them want somebody to take care of them. Everything, 100%.

Just think like if you have a daughter. You pay for EVERYTHING.

 

Personally I think that is fair if you get a pretty young cute girl who makes you happy every day.

 

But why would anybody take care of an old women who is just too lazy to do anything?

 

Just imagine she would ask you if you want to take care of her...

Many of these girls have multiple sponsors, guys often think they are the only one

[Kenny202]

3 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Many of these girls have multiple sponsors, guys often think they are the only one

I think you are talking bar girls more than blokes living here with women, tho wouldn't put it past some of them. And as if worrying about exs and sponsors wasn't enough. How many of them are nipping into the bathroom everyday for an "only fans" shoot. That is huge here now. More money for less work why wouldn't they

[ThailandRyan]

5 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Many of these girls have multiple sponsors, guys often think they are the only one

But my girls different they say...nope just same same...

[jerrymahoney]

1 hour ago, OneMoreFarang said:

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Just imagine she would ask you if you want to take care of her...

From the copyright date that picture is at least 11 years old. Maybe she has since then found a rich farang with 200K baht to take care of her breast augmentation. 

[RafPinto]

The problem of one of my ex "longest relationship".
She had too much free time, always on her phone, facebook, line etc...
Family always needed money for something else.
When sponsor farang refused to chip in again, the cold treatment.
I played along because soon, she would come back with a friendly face.

Remember, family and mom always nr. 1.

She would never safe anything for us or our future. All gone to make mom and the rest happy.

She even paid to raise her sister's children in the village. She had 3, 4 or 5 kids (don't remember) from a few different guys.
She was enjoying lazy life in village whilst we were sending money to "mom" which again would help her daughter with all her kids.

She at least has a few daughters and can one day expect a pension scheme/sponsor/sinsod.

My ex, now 40, never married and no kids, who will sponsor her.
This was a wake-up call for her.
Probably now to chat up another rich german because all her thai friends in germany get at least 50,000Baht monthly salary 555555

[starky]

2 hours ago, Kenny202 said:

It means they want you to give them millions of baht and gold firstly...then take care of them, their kids and their extended family in everyway including past debts, credit cards, gambling loans and any perceivable problem that will arise in the future. You will be expected to provide a mansion of a house and 2 vehicles, in her name.... befitting an Isaan village Princess (even though her previous  accommodation was a single dirty cold water room with a fan and mattress on the floor). You should also factor in a 20-30k per month allowance (pocket money to be p$$ed up the wall) and fanned out for Facebook selfies. She will not be prepared to perform even the most basic of household chores, probably wont know how to cook and for the most part be grumpy and irritable and treat you like an inconvenient annoyance. Oh milk teas will need to be regularly provided during the seldom occurrence of her not being asleep. Just to humor yourself....ask her what she will be bringing to the relationship? I bet she has a gormless open mouthed stare as if she never even considered that question and then says something like "I live with you everyday"....lucky you! 5555

At least you could order the milk teas through food panda or grab. That's a bonus

[OneMoreFarang]

46 minutes ago, Kenny202 said:

Oh my, same sex relationship way back then! How cosmopolitan lol

OMG! NO! I am a proud child of a mother and a father, real male and real female, just like in the good old times.

[OneMoreFarang]

35 minutes ago, ThailandRyan said:

Remember you pay them to leave not stay...

Charlie Sheen did that, or at least he said that he did it. But I doubt YOU do that.

[scubascuba3]

12 minutes ago, RafPinto said:

The problem of one of my ex "longest relationship".
She had too much free time, always on her phone, facebook, line etc...
Family always needed money for something else.
When sponsor farang refused to chip in again, the cold treatment.
I played along because soon, she would come back with a friendly face.
 

The farangs don't seem to realise, it's work for the girl, the farang is their job

[OneMoreFarang]

19 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Many of these girls have multiple sponsors, guys often think they are the only one

If guys are only here on holiday and they think their darling will wait the rest of the year for them in the rice field alone are just dreaming.

But if a guy invites a girl to live with him all the time then he should have the situation a lot better under control. And if the are not compatible to each other then they can separate again. No problem. 

[Kenny202]

2 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

nd if the are not compatible to each other then they can separate again. No problem. 

Have you ever tried getting rid of one of them lol. Usually results in one or many horrible scenes. Screaming at back gates. Must be great to have a keyed / gated condo

[RafPinto]

2 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

If guys are only here on holiday and they think their darling will wait the rest of the year for them in the rice field alone are just dreaming.

But if a guy invites a girl to live with him all the time then he should have the situation a lot better under control. And if the are not compatible to each other then they can separate again. No problem. 

They are very smart:

 

Mine got lazier and lazier.
Once, by chance, another mobile phone was making noises.
I didn't even know she had 2.

Even going to the bathroom, she was protecting her phone like Fort Knox.
She took a shower and from the 2nd bedroom that noise.
She forgot to hide it.
Messages from a lot of farangs.
Questioned her: not my phone. Don't know them 5555

Even having a secret facebook account.

They are specialists in hiding and inventing.

 

I showed her the door in 15min.

[RafPinto]

1 minute ago, Kenny202 said:

Have you ever tried getting rid of one of them lol. Usually results in one or many horrible scenes. Screaming at back gates. Must be great to have a keyed / gated condo

Tell me about:

 

Living in a condo. She refused to leave.

Can get scary if a fuse burns and there are many fuses wrongly wired.

[Lacessit]

If I was a Thai woman, I'd be looking for a farang to take care of me too. Because once they get to their forties, fifties and sixties, the future is pretty bleak.

Some Thai women are abandoned by their husbands or partners because they are no longer beautiful, or they have a child/children the Thai male does not want to support.

 

Presumably there are Thai men who remain in a marriage, even if they play around, which I understand is quite common. Mia nois and giks. Having said that, I am astounded by the number of quite attractive Thai women I meet that are single, and not by their choice.

 

It's a contract of mutual support. I can expect to be looked after when I am messing my diapers, in return for the money I provide.

 

A case in point is my regular Thai massage lady. 60 yo, hard worker. When she was 30 yo, her husband told her she was no longer beautiful, and split. Her daughter hasn't spoken to her for years.

 

She's actually better off than many rural Thais, owns her own house, car, and scooter. However, if she stops working, she will only be getting the government handout of 500 or 600 baht/month, which is a sick joke.

 

Standard questions I get from just about every middle-aged Thai woman are "Where are you from?" Second question invariably is " Do you have a Thai GF?" Quite sad, really.

 

[jerrymahoney]

So great for the holiday down-time. Another chance for the AN/TV rank-&-filke to play ¿Quien es mas Macho?

 

[Gecko123]

53 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Said it many times, we live for 30k a month, where her parents get 10k when working a month helping out on the farm, if not working or doing something else seasonal work, they get nothing. 

Wouldn't it be more accurate to say you're paying the parents 300 baht per day when their labor is needed rather than 10K per month?

 

And by the way, what work are you paying the parents to do? Spray the pesticides and herbicides you'd rather not be exposed to? Laying irrigation pipes, cutting sugar cane or harvesting manoiac under the mid-day sun?

 

If true, kind of undercuts the 'Our House' portrait of communal bliss you're painting, doesn't it?

 

 

Edited May 4, 2022 by Gecko123

[RocketDog]

2 hours ago, Kinnock said:

Time for all the Thai Girl clichés to be dusted off and recycled.

 

I take care of my Thai partner, and she takes care of me in a way no Western girl could match.

 

In addition to the usual housekeeping and cooking, she manages all the bureaucracy and bills plus things like 4:00 am airport pick-ups where she greets me with a smile and an iced drink.

 

I once showed her a news article that said men need to ejaculate at least 21 times a month to maintain good prostate health .... and she started a diary!

 

I hear you loud and clear Kinnock.

I suspect many of the cynical responses thus far are from emotionally wounded men.

No doubt many Thai women are guilty as charged, but certainly not all.

Generally the lucky ones of us that find good matches don't join these pity parties. When we do we are mocked as being naive.

The truth is that many western men are quite happy with the matches they made in the Kingdom. I am one, just for the record.

If any readers of this post are of those happy forum members then a click an appropriate emoji will show if you and I are truly really unique.

Let's see what happens.

[Hummin]

17 minutes ago, Gecko123 said:

Wouldn't it be more accurate to say you're paying the parents 300 baht per day when their labor is needed rather than 10K per month?

 

And by the way, what work are you paying the parents to do? Spray the pesticides and herbicides you'd rather not be exposed to? Laying irrigation pipes, cutting sugar cane or harvesting manoiac under the mid-day sun?

 

If true, kind of undercuts the 'Our House' portrait of communal bliss you're painting, doesn't it?

 

 

They deal is normally 4 days a week, most due to have a few days without anyone around the farm except me and my misses. 
 

We do not use pesticides, so their work is to cut gras, feed the animals, clean around land, build fences, take care of trees and vegetables and keep vegetable garden shade in shape, water, and whatever needed, and also live there when we are not there with full responsibility of farm and animals. 
 

To be true, their work is more of social character and helping out than hard labour work, which we normally rent others to do. Digg ditches and clear land. 

[Hummin]

53 minutes ago, RafPinto said:

Probably now to chat up another rich german because all her thai friends in germany get at least 50,000Baht monthly salary 555555

A german giving 50 k a month, is a fat lie, and most likely they work in one of the bordellas over there.