I'm such a rube

[SinCityFinsFan]

Hello,

 

Brand newbie here. I wanted to get some advice from you gurus. This will be kind of long but, if you've got the time, I could use the help.

 

I visited Phuket in February for 2 weeks. I was supposed to meet a Filipina there but, that didn't work out (long story but I knew if that happened, I'd still have fun.)

 

So, single and ready to mingle. My mingling skills have certainly gotten rusty over the years. But, when I discovered I was going to be solo, I decided to join onto some dating sites. Got several nibbles right away. Finally worked through the Covid guantlet and got to my hotel on Patong Beach, a stone's throw away from Bangla. I walked to Burger King and got a delicious (but ridiculously expensive) mushroom burger and some fries (I'm such a farang). Decided I'd watch a little TV and unwind and hit Bangla later on. Woke up the next morning, bummed but rested. So much for night 1.

 

Around midday, I got a message on Tinder from a local girl looking for fun. We talked back and forth for a while and then decided she would come to my room and get to know each other better. Welp, she showed up and the hotel insisted on a negative Covid test before they'd let her in. So, we walked around looking for an instant test. Finally found one and she tested negative. Off to the room...

 

It took her less than 5 minutes before she was naked. Amazing body for her age (44). I certainly didn't want to be left out, so I also stripped. We enjoyed each other's company for a while and when we had finished, The topic of seeing each other again came up. I was open to a standard GFE and all that came with it, although I didn't request that. So, she agreed to come back the next afternoon.

 

She came back the next day. We had dinner and walked along Bangla. More gymnastics in the hotel room followed. She stayed overnight. She woke up early and said that she needed to go back to her room to water her plants. I should mention that she had made it clear that she expected a 2000 baht "tip" each day she spent with me.  I was OK with that. So, she collected her second "tip" and left. She also made it clear that our relationship was "No money, No honey." 

 

We spent the next 2 weeks sort of getting to know each other better. I say sort of because she didn't ask much about my life here in the US and I was afraid to ask her too much about her life. Some things are better left unknown. (She did carry 2 phones but I'm sure that's not a red flag) At the end of the 2 weeks, she arranged a ride with one of her friends to get me back to the airport. We said our goodbyes and agreed to try and make it work long distance until I could get back. It was also made clear that I would need to "help her out" with some of her living expenses (turns out "some" became "all"). 

 

I'm no pauper but, I'm not well to do either. But, I've been sending her around 18-19K baht each month. And we've stayed exclusive and say we're bf and gf. I have no idea what she does with her time when we're not chatting or doing video. Again, really don't want to know at this point. But, she claims she's remained exclusive and I've never seen any evidence to make me think otherwise.

 

I've booked another trip to Phuket in September. She's all excited and keeps talking about how she can't wait to eat "falong food" and go shopping. Great, that'll eat up another $1000 or so. She goes to great lengths to tell me that she's not with me for the money. That's usually followed up by a request for more money.

 

The sex was fantastic, among the best I've ever had. No problem there. But... I'm sort of starting to lose interest in the relationship. She finally picked up on it yesterday and commented how she's always the first one to text or video call. Her concerns magically melted away when the topic of money came up. Suddenly, she was my gf again and I was the best bf ever.  In her mind, she's decided that we'll stay together, with me continuing to bankroll her living expenses, until I can get her over to the US, probably on a K1 visa. 

 

I feel like I'm in so deep now that ending it would be a mess.  She won't want the gravy train to stop rolling and she claims that she really cares for me. (The L word has been tossed around, much more by her than me) I've told people here that are aware of my trip in September I'll either come back engaged or single. My gut says most likely the latter.  A part of me thinks that I should stick it out and make it work. Another part of me says that I should ghost her and start fresh in September. Still another part says that ghosting is a horrible, although extremely effective, way to end a relationship and that I should end it in person if I still feel the same way when I come back in September.

 

So, heres' where the sage advice from Thai gf veterans comes in. I'm doubtful that my enthusiasm for our relationship will return, but it might (who knows?). Is our financial arrangement unusual or unreasonable? Should I be concerned that I'm not her only financial contributor? What would happen if I told her I wanted to end it via video chat? What would happen if I ghosted her?  If I end it, should I be concerned that she'll round up some male friends and come looking for me in September? How do I handle her cries of poverty if I turn the money spigot off? It's really eating away at me and I'm not good at pretending everything is great when we video chat. So, any advice from experienced Thai gf wranglers would be greatly appreciated. Don't hesitate to ask me if I need to elaborate on anything.  

 

Thanks a lot. Us boys got to stick together.

 

[sipi]

You're an American.

Run Forest Run.

As your compatriot Phil Donahue once said "What she did to others she'll do to you". Or maybe it should be the other way around.

 

Edit.

I'll even quote another one " you gotta know when to hold them, know when to fold them, know when to walk away and know when to run"

Edited July 6, 2022 by sipi

[sipi]

If you met an American girl who got her clothes off in 5 minutes, asked for money, needed to rush home to "water the plants", and whatever else this one does, would you marry her?

I'm thinking you probably would.

[sipi]

[CharlieH]

Whats a "rube" ?

[Captain Monday]

Lets say you have a true story here. ???? 

 

You describe a professional girlfriend in Phuket. If she were to  any good at her job several foreign men are sending her money simultaneously. Totally normal mode of living good on her! Every word out of her mouth is what the dictionary would define as a lie. 100 percent. If you don't enjoy paying to play with anymore just block/ghost her and find another.  Dont send money/take care as to follow down the well worn farnag path of financial ruin and emotional devastation.

 

Great wind up mate????. Unfortunately these stories are all too true the worst thing  to do is "bring her to America" after the green card they just dump the rube for an older guy with much more money. near every  time.

 

You want a foreign born Asian woman in USA choose one with residence already near your own age  very easy to find. 

[HappyExpat57]

You won't be the first one she had leave her quick fast and in a hurry. Maybe you haven't heard - in Thailand you never lose your girl, you only lose your turn. Get while the gettin' is good.

[Fat is a type of crazy]

Delete

 

Edited July 6, 2022 by Fat is a type of crazy

[Hummin]

 

When you finely get there, you will miss her, and then you deleted it up before even arriving, and after a few mishaps with other girls, you will go back to her. And she will punish you ????

[zzaa09]

Easier to rent them by the week without the faux commitments. 

 

[richard_smith237]

Trip-trap, trip-trap...... “Who's that trip-trapping over my bridge?" roared Aseannows’s latest 'member’ with an unimaginative pathetic attempt to troll.....

 

 

[patongphil]

59 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

Whats a "rube" ?

Good question.

[Lacessit]

1 hour ago, CharlieH said:

Whats a "rube" ?

According to Google, North American slang for a country bumpkin.

[LomSak27]

10 minutes ago, patongphil said:

1 hour ago, CharlieH said:

Whats a "rube" ?

Good question.

No better time to make use of google. Our hopes & prayers are with you, as always.  

[BritManToo]

2 hours ago, SinCityFinsFan said:

Amazing body for her age (44).

Is our financial arrangement unusual or unreasonable?

1. Didn't you post this same story yesterday about a 48 yo massage lady?

2. Paying 2,000 for 'long time' is reasonable, paying her when you're not there is stupid.

Edited July 6, 2022 by BritManToo

[2baht]

2 hours ago, SinCityFinsFan said:

I've been sending her around 18-19K baht each month

Give her a pay rise, she'll love you even more.

[4MyEgo]

I had to stop half way through because I couldn't stop......

need some coffee now

 

[1FinickyOne]

She managed to survive before you first arrived, she will survive after you... 

 

my experience says, once you have lost the taste, it doesn't come back, other than maybe briefly... 

[bbko]

You hired a hooker and she knows you're a noob, break it off or ghost her and the next time you come back to Thailand, visit another city.

[RichardColeman]

3 hours ago, SinCityFinsFan said:

I'm no pauper but, I'm not well to do either. But, I've been sending her around 18-19K baht each month

You and how many others ? LOL 2 weeks and sending money, she does that 26 times a year and she can retire soon

[Rhys]

Hi Player, going to dance, need to know when the music is over.  

[sipi]

1 hour ago, richard_smith237 said:

Trip-trap, trip-trap...... “Who's that trip-trapping over my bridge?" roared Aseannows’s latest 'member’ with an unimaginative pathetic attempt to troll.....

 

 

Too obvious.

[ezzra]

My 'Rub' story consist on what i put on my meats before i cook them..

[pomchop]

me thinks somebody is trying his hand at writing fiction or comedy to see how many people will buy it..

[OneMoreFarang]

3 hours ago, SinCityFinsFan said:

This will be kind of long but, if you've got the time, I could use the help.

 

3 hours ago, SinCityFinsFan said:

I walked to Burger King and got a delicious (but ridiculously expensive) mushroom burger and some fries (I'm such a farang). Decided I'd watch a little TV and unwind and hit Bangla later on. Woke up the next morning, bummed but rested. So much for night 1.

Who want to know that s$#t? Just get to the point!

[HappyExpat57]

I knew an absolute STUNNER learning to become a scuba instructor at the big place that used to be in Jomtien. She was juggling 5 guys and doing short times in between. She sounds exactly like the woman you describe in your post.

[Onerak]

Good sex, go for it. Relationship, don't expect much.THese ladies are to please men and as long as she is able to do it, She should be OK. If expecting a relationship, forget it. 

[FalangJaiDee]

please stop sending her money if you're not in thailand.....

I have girls on my line that I've BONED since 2018 and i only contact them when im in thailand. when i leave its radio silent. they're quick to answer and all is well. As much as you want to believe you're casanova and she actually likes *you* and not those other CHUMPS, i'm sorry to say...you're one of those chumps. buy the ticket, take the ride, and leave the amusement park, rube

 

 

Edited July 7, 2022 by FalangJaiDee

[Lacessit]

Ending is dead easy, just stop sending money and she will drop you like a hot potato.

There are thousands of women, if not hundreds of thousands of women, in Thailand that enjoy good sex. Younger and older. I've been told by a few the comparative size of Thai and foreign todgers has a lot to do with that. Except for the 35 kg girls, perhaps.

 

I would be 99% sure when she says she is exclusive to you, she is lying like a pig in doo-doo.

Two phones is another dead giveaway.

 

If you want, hook up with her on the 2000 baht/day deal when you are in Thailand. Plenty of other fish in the sea if she won't agree, but I suspect she would with a guy who is also shelling out for expensive restaurants.

 

I do hope you have the sense to use condoms. She is still capable of pregnancy, not to mention the STD factor.

 

 

[Lacessit]

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

1. Didn't you post this same story yesterday about a 48 yo massage lady?

 

Probably the same woman, it seems to be quite normal for hookers to lie about their age here.