The downfall of my crazy old neighbor

[markclover]

She was always drunk and screaming.  She let her kids play in the road at all hours.  But I don't mind that it's good that kids put down the phone and play outside.

 

One day she comes up to me and shows me a picture of my cat in her garden.  She said it 'damaged her expensive plant'.  Okay so she has a problem with hello kitty.  A tiny white cat with a pink nose is a problem for her.  It keeps her up at night.  

 

This woman is always at home.  She doesn't work and I never saw her husband around.  Just her and the two daughters (which go to the same school that I teach at) so that's hilarious.

 

Next step she is standing outside my house at 8pm screaming.  She is shouting the name of the landlord.  The landlord doesn't live there as we rent it and we have told her many times.

 

She then starts throwing stones at the house.  I didn't know this at the time but someone else saw it and reported her for throwing stones at the house.  Apparently she was doing it when we were out as well.

 

She repeated the shouting thing a few times.  My girlfriend would talk to her and tell her we are not the house owners.  She would quiet down and walk off.

 

I leave for work about 7 in the morning.  She is there at the security gate telling them to not open it.  She said we don't pay the common area so they have to get out and open the barrier by themselves (we pay it directly to the landlord not to some crazy woman).  So I get out and do it she is making a video on her phone of me the whole time.  I just smile at her and open it then get back in the car.

 

So this is where she messed up. - She then shared the video with the entire village via a line group.  She said that we were leaving and the house is up for rent again.

 

She was immediately removed from the local council and they found out that she had been going around the houses asking for the common area money.  This money was not kept on their records.  They also removed her on grounds that she took a video of me without my permission.  We moved house to another village nearby.

 

''Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.''  -  Mark Twain

[Liverpool Lou]

Oh.

[Snugs08]

Did your cat damage the plants? I always seem to get entitled cat owners where I live, one used the small bit of grass I had as it's twice daily crapping ground, and it adds up quickly, the cat not the owner 555, the owner didn't have a care in the world, wouldn't contribute to any mitigation measures - even said he could come and collect the crap once a week, wasn't interested... well eventually he was but I won't go into what I did to get his attention.. 

If you insist your cat should roam, maybe you could of resolved the situation by inquiring about the state of the plant damage and something as trivial as 200 baht towards some netting? Or at least fein some interest instead of - well you and your daughters are at home all day so you should watch out for my cat.

 

Sounds like she won, possibly the battle and the war, you and your cat moved... she'll be back in the line group shortly.,

 

 

Edited April 19, 2023 by Snugs08

[Goat]

Yaba daba do.

[ravip]

Having just one crazy neighbour is a curse.

[proton]

At least she never had a few dogs or a sound system blaring out, they are the worst neighbours

[ravip]

3 minutes ago, proton said:

At least she never had a few dogs or a sound system blaring out, they are the worst neighbours

Very true!

[n00dle]

39 minutes ago, Snugs08 said:

Did your cat damage the plants? I always seem to get entitled cat owners where I live, one used the small bit of grass I had as it's twice daily crapping ground, and it adds up quickly, the cat not the owner 555, the owner didn't have a care in the world, wouldn't contribute to any mitigation measures - even said he could come and collect the crap once a week, wasn't interested... well eventually he was but I won't go into what I did to get his attention.. 

If you insist your cat should roam, maybe you could of resolved the situation by inquiring about the state of the plant damage and something as trivial as 200 baht towards some netting? Or at least fein some interest instead of - well you and your daughters are at home all day so you should watch out for my cat.

 

Sounds like she won, possibly the battle and the war, you and your cat moved... she'll be back in the line group shortly.,

 

 

with all  the information you have regarding this woman's behavior, your takeaway revolves solely upon your dislike of cats.

What is wrong with you?

[Hummin]

27 minutes ago, ravip said:

Having just one crazy neighbour is a curse.

when everyone else around you is crazy, it is when it gets spooky ????

[jak2002003]

You should not let your cat free roam to be a bother to other people.  Also, it can get easily killed on the road or get attacked my dogs or other cats. 

 

My neighbor has several cats that are a real annoyance to us.  They wake us up at night when they are fighting and chasing each other around our garden.  They crap and spray in our car port, scratch the motor bike seats, and it's distressing to see then killing baby birds from the nests in our garden. 

 

Our puppy also got it's eye badly scratched when it though it would try to chase a huge Tom cat off our patio sofa. 

Edited April 19, 2023 by jak2002003

[2baht]

Control your cat!

[ravip]

6 minutes ago, 2baht said:

Control your cat!

Pussys are difficult to control...

[VinnieK]

An abandoned woman, lashing out at a random male  (the o.p)

..because the husband is hard to get hold of.

Conflict resolution is a lost art here.

Your only option (being a non-citizen), is to leg it.

Good luck trying to 'win'

 

[ChipButty]

54 minutes ago, 2baht said:

Control your cat!

All cat owners think everybody should love their cats, I once had a neighbour who said one day how you dont see and dog or cat <deleted>, I said to him you should come in my garden and see it, He had 5 dogs and we lived in a moo baan that was all open plan, no garden walls or fences, 

[2baht]

Just now, ChipButty said:

I said to him you should come in my garden

They never do it in there own backyard! ☹️

[Bangkok Barry]

I wonder if she would have acted the same against you if you were Thai.

[Dazinoz]

17 hours ago, Snugs08 said:

Did your cat damage the plants? I always seem to get entitled cat owners where I live, one used the small bit of grass I had as it's twice daily crapping ground, and it adds up quickly, the cat not the owner 555, the owner didn't have a care in the world, wouldn't contribute to any mitigation measures - even said he could come and collect the crap once a week, wasn't interested... well eventually he was but I won't go into what I did to get his attention.. 

If you insist your cat should roam, maybe you could of resolved the situation by inquiring about the state of the plant damage and something as trivial as 200 baht towards some netting? Or at least fein some interest instead of - well you and your daughters are at home all day so you should watch out for my cat.

 

Sounds like she won, possibly the battle and the war, you and your cat moved... she'll be back in the line group shortly.,

 

 

You have turned a story of crazy neighbour into blaming the OP because he has a cat.

 

WOW just WOW.

[Dazinoz]

17 hours ago, Snugs08 said:

Sounds like she won, possibly the battle and the war

He is the one who has won, he now hopefully has peace. The lady in question will probably never really change and she will do it again. Probably has nothing better to do with her life. If you could read past the word "cat" and read the rest of the post you possibly could understand it wasn't all about the cat.

[brianthainess]

17 hours ago, ravip said:

Pussys are difficult to control...

This one seems to like keeping the bush nice and trim. 

[jesimps]

18 hours ago, proton said:

At least she never had a few dogs or a sound system blaring out, they are the worst neighbours

I had the nicest Thai neighbours you could imagine. Unfortunately they had nine dogs, which they kept shut in the garden. Never walked. You can imagine the noise they made 24/7. Fortunately, they've moved and the present owner only has one dog which is fairly quiet because it is regularly walked by its farang owner. I don't have any dogs, which is bliss. Unfortunately others in the community do, usually the mandatory four or more.

[Mr Dome]

19 hours ago, Snugs08 said:

Did your cat damage the plants? I always seem to get entitled cat owners where I live, one used the small bit of grass I had as it's twice daily crapping ground, and it adds up quickly, the cat not the owner 555, the owner didn't have a care in the world, wouldn't contribute to any mitigation measures - even said he could come and collect the crap once a week, wasn't interested... well eventually he was but I won't go into what I did to get his attention.. 

If you insist your cat should roam, maybe you could of resolved the situation by inquiring about the state of the plant damage and something as trivial as 200 baht towards some netting? Or at least fein some interest instead of - well you and your daughters are at home all day so you should watch out for my cat.

 

Sounds like she won, possibly the battle and the war, you and your cat moved... she'll be back in the line group shortly.,

 

 

Signed "Not the crazy old neighbor at all, oh no"

 

????

[Snugs08]

1 hour ago, Dazinoz said:

He is the one who has won, he now hopefully has peace. The lady in question will probably never really change and she will do it again. Probably has nothing better to do with her life. If you could read past the word "cat" and read the rest of the post you possibly could understand it wasn't all about the cat.

If he allows his cat to freely roam without taking any responsibility just because its a little cat called hello kitty, then it won't be long before he's fighting another battle and moving again. It's pretty simple, cat was in her garden and damaged her plants she claims, he hasn't disputed this but nor has he volunteered what he done to compensate and future mitigate, whilst this woman might have some form of anger issues the seed is clear, don't let your cat roam, and if you do you better be taking responsibility if that means replacing plants, paying for netting, or coming to clean my garden of cat crap every 24hrs then so be it, as someone pointed out next time it could be car paint, a motorbike seat, a piece of neighbor grass as new litter box.

 

 

Edited April 20, 2023 by Snugs08

[BritManToo]

If anyone did this in front of my woman's house, she'd beat them unconscious.

Guessing the OP doesn't cohabit with a Thai lady.

Edited April 20, 2023 by BritManToo

[nahkit]

 

Just as well you don't live here then.

[Snugs08]

Is there any legal restrictions in Thailand on placing a deterrent on your own property if you become a repeat victim of an entitled cat owner  - garden filling with cat crap that they refuse to collect each evening, plants damaged and not replaced, motorbike seat ripped apart etc..  A deterrent being a cat trap, or some form of temporary non-lethal poison, I threatened a deterrent last time and it was enough to spur the owner to eventually do something - funnily enough I never saw that cat again I wonder if it ended its roaming days or he just bought a litter box for his own house.

 

Edited April 20, 2023 by Snugs08

[stoner]

3 hours ago, Dazinoz said:

You have turned a story of crazy neighbour into blaming the OP because he has a cat.

 

WOW just WOW.

i am going to buy a cat and train it to pee on your front door step every single morning. 

[Dazinoz]

3 minutes ago, stoner said:

i am going to buy a cat and train it to pee on your front door step every single morning. 

If you can find out where I live, no problem. Not going to destroy my life over a bit of cat pee.

 

Stupid comment.

Edited April 20, 2023 by Dazinoz

[The Theory]

"Okay so she has a problem with hello kitty.  A tiny white cat with a pink nose is a problem for her."

"She was always drunk and screaming.  She let her kids play in the road at all hours."

 

it seems you were both problems for the village. You can not judge others action while you are not doing right things on your side. 

[Kwaibill]

I have been the “ landlord” for over thirty cats at the same time! ( I only brought one spayed kitten with me, and adopted one that was attacked by a neighbors dog.)  Of course I had thirty acres of prime AZ desert, and two litter boxes for the indoor crowd. The rest were content with the outdoor “ cat house”  or one of the three outbuildings.

There seems to be an efficient “ jungle telegraph” involved for crazy old cat people, as more and more kept showing up. They never seemed to bother my hens, and really didn’t disturb my gardens much. Not a rodent to be found on the place, and several were “ pals “ with my beagles and horses.

I can’t keep any now because “ cat scratch fever” really is a thing, and it seems you are susceptible once you’ve had one bout; missing half a big toe due to sepsis/gangrene from a neighboring cat bite here in LOS. 

[NHBOB]

Possibly the dumbest discussion in the history of the internet