Love my wife but at 60+ I'd not marry again. Probably F-around until I couldn't and then find a hot milfy 40yo to care for me in my dying days.

 

 

RENT

3 minutes ago, Sticky Rice Balls said:

a life without love and passion...hence the grumpy old guy that yells at you for being on his lawn and keeps your frisbee.......sits in front of the tv all day or online and feeds off the hatred...

Could be lifestyle, diet, drinks, sleep, hormones ? Low self esteem? 

12 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

฿1500 ph & int

Our phone internet is about b120 each pm. That can't be right. We have 70gb (300mbs allegedly ????)

 

Food is cheap and bg Issan food cheapest.

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

So she pays 50% of everything in your relationships, 50% of restaurant bills, utils, housing, food?

.......... I think not.

Yes. You think wrong. In fact when I was younger, they would often pay more. If I had more I would happily pay, but it wasn’t an issue in any of my relationships. 
I wasn’t joking when I wrote that your experience has skewed your thinking. But that’s not a big deal. We are all shaped by our experiences. Thank goodness we aren’t all fighting over the same woman. 
What works is what works. If you are able to sustain your relationship when others cannot, who is right and who is wrong? 
I have my way and you have yours. But when you make definitive statements that are waaaaaaaaaaaayyyyy off the mark, they need to be challenged. 
I’ve had girlfriends who used to buy all of my clothes and jewellery etc I didn’t ask, they just did it. I doubt that I’m the only one. 
 

Just now, Seamaster said:

Our phone internet is about b120 each pm. That can't be right. We have 70gb (300mbs allegedly ????)

 

Food is cheap and bg Issan food cheapest.

phones are ฿350 each (service & fast int) and house int is 631 a month.

1 hour ago, Hummin said:

The question should have been, how much you should pay a girl to rescue you and take care of you! Save your life from degrading yourselves in Thailand, do all the mistakes you possible can do and end up sour, grupmy, annoying and or alchoholic

That happens to many who hook up with the ‘wrong’ woman too. 

1 hour ago, bignok said:

Why not just live your life. Thats what I do.

My life is keen to know why I should have (as a foreigner in Thailand) a vasectomy.

 

If you dont think I should ask this question you are more than welcome to jog on and pester someone else.

2 minutes ago, NextG said:

That happens to many who hook up with the ‘wrong’ woman too. 

Then you have a choice to stay, or leave! Of course difficult if you make someone pregnant and also invested to much in a life in Thailand. 

 

Since we are here at this topic, three basic common sense rules!

 

Take your time, there is no rush to get to much involved to early. 

Know her family and her friends. 

Do not invest more than you can walk away from without looking back. 

 

And last but not least, yesterday was yesterday, and today is today. Doesnt help to much to live in past, and use that as an excuse for tomorows sorrow. 

 

It is so simple, yet so complicated. 

 

 

1 hour ago, Lacessit said:

Luk Kruengs are not treated well in Thai schools.

Tiger Woods is a luk krueng, a big exception.

Who is tiger woods and why should I know him (I assume it is a male you refer to)?

1 hour ago, Hummin said:

My wife have a full time work, taking care of the farm together with me, and where did I say a wife with full time job is not a decent woman? She can stil be in charge of the household? Right. 

 

I think we just complicate the matter of who is in charge of the monthly budget, and spending time on not so important issues here ????

 

 

‘She can’ and ‘she is’ is not synonymous. 
There is no rule stating that she needs to be in charge of the household. I have no issue with the sharing of responsibilities and deferring whenever appropriate. 
Your situation suits you. I don’t need to pay for my women. They have their own. What works is what works. 

2 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Then you have a choice to stay, or leave! Of course difficult if you make someone pregnant and also invested to much in a life in Thailand. 

 

Since we are here at this topic, three basic common sense rules!

 

Take your time, there is no rush to get to much involved to early. 

Know her family and her friends. 

Do not invest more than you can walk away from without looking back. 

 

And last but not least, yesterday was yesterday, and today is today. Doesnt help to much to live in past, and use that as an excuse for tomorows sorrow. 

 

It is so simple, yet so complicated. 

 

 

I’m not interested in the local women….

many have tried and end up being taken to the cleaners losing 1000 s of $

 

her pimp organises a scam

How about option F?

 

"Don't get romantically involved with a prostitute, like a sad son of a bitch"?

6 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

Guys pay 10-20k for a fake girlfriend, some as much as 50k sad but true

For some people 50K is not much.

1 minute ago, PJ71 said:

For some people 50K is not much.

the more you pay the more the lady dislikes you

Seems to me around 100K-150K a month is fair. A 9 or 10 makes that or a multiple of it. Toss in a little shopping at Armani or Chanel as a treat. Nice clothes make her feel sexy. The problem I have found is she wants a lot more sex than I want. Must be because she's just 21. I'm content with twice a day, but she's always angling for another schtupping. The only time I get any privacy is when I 'go where the king goes alone', so to speak. She even goes to the gym with me (which has benefits for her backside, so I don't mind).

 

I'm sure all the guys here are stud muffins, and even Lisa Blackpink is weak in the knees for you. Lisa can even pay you for services rendered. Personally I don't care about a woman's past, as few non-bargirls are virgins, so what's the difference between if her previous schtupping was for money, or because she was just horny? Horny is a 'good girl' and for money is a 'bad girl'? Whose moral code is that? What man in his right mind would want a virgin anyway? Have you forgotten your own teen years? Those first few partners were fun? Hardly.

 

Bottom line to the OP: let everybody do what he wants, pay what he wants, live whatever fantasy he wants. Others' wallets or bedpost notches are not my concern, nor are any other man's desires. Is there some scorecard we all get on the last day of existence, where extra points are given for schtupping the non-bargirl who has only had 25 partners? (If you can pick her up, someone else has likely done the same before you.) Extra points for hooking up with the hi-so woman who pays OUR way? Somebody needs bragging rights? Why?

 

In the end the only thing that matters is if you've had fun and enjoyed your relationship. (There's a touch of sarcasm here and there.)

1 minute ago, scubascuba3 said:

the more you pay the more the lady dislikes you

I never mentioned anything about ladies, merely that for some people 50K a month is not a lot of money.

 

I've spent more than that with a nice meal and night out lately.

 

Not all people here are pensioners just 'surviving'

 

Personally, i'm under 50 and F*&king loaded.

3 minutes ago, PJ71 said:

I never mentioned anything about ladies, merely that for some people 50K a month is not a lot of money.

 

I've spent more than that with a nice meal and night out lately.

 

Not all people here are pensioners just 'surviving'

 

Personally, i'm under 50 and F*&king loaded.

50k is enough... for two weeks.

6 minutes ago, PJ71 said:

I never mentioned anything about ladies, merely that for some people 50K a month is not a lot of money.

 

I've spent more than that with a nice meal and night out lately.

 

Not all people here are pensioners just 'surviving'

 

Personally, i'm under 50 and F*&king loaded.

No you haven't And no you aren't. ???????? Must be a sad existence if lying to other old men on the internet in an attempts to impress said old men is how you spend your time.

Whatever you pay her she will go to visit her "brother" now and then until you find out he isn't. 

If you choose a bar girl you are playing with fire and you are fully aware of this and you want to continue playing and winning because you are smarter than the others who have lost everything.

Good luck because that's what this is all about.

4 hours ago, KhunLA said:

Bingo ... we have a winner.  

 

Free buffet is available, but some prefer to pay, and for lower quality.   Does boggle the mind.

To an old bloke.......

9 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

50k is enough... for two weeks.

for some people it's enough for longer than that, horses for courses.

6 minutes ago, HandsomeTallFarang said:

No you haven't And no you aren't. ???????? Must be a sad existence if lying to other old men on the internet in an attempts to impress said old men is how you spend your time.

OK bubblegum whatever you say.

One may want to have in mind the possible risk in such a situtation if the fine long term hired lady has a secret Thai boyfriend, lover or even a husband back up in the North (or South!)

 

The union can end up tragically for the falang ca$h cow, as per the stories one regularly  reads.

 

Hope I am wrong however ...

Just now, observer90210 said:

One may want to have in mind the possible risk in such a situtation if the fine long term hired lady has a secret Thai boyfriend, lover or even a husband back up in the North (or South!)

 

The union can end up tragically for the falang ca$h cow, as per the stories one regularly  reads.

 

Hope I am wrong however ...

One doesn't have to be with a bar girl or ex bar girl for that stuff to happen................

Just now, transam said:

One doesn't have to be with a bar girl or ex bar girl for that stuff to happen................

Obvisouly and even not just in Thailand, fully agree.

 

But if I may, the topic here was on the bar girl so obviously the initial comment was related to that.

 

Thank you,

 

Have a nice evening.

18 minutes ago, PJ71 said:

I never mentioned anything about ladies, merely that for some people 50K a month is not a lot of money.

 

I've spent more than that with a nice meal and night out lately.

 

Not all people here are pensioners just 'surviving'

 

Personally, i'm under 50 and F*&king loaded.

No one cares how much money you have but throw loads of money at women (or men or LBs if that's your thing) and they will just milk you plus have others on the side, nothing good comes from overpaying

9 minutes ago, transam said:

To an old bloke.......

Anyone, any age, as I got here @ 45, after the divorce here, all of 47, still wouldn't bother with P4P, as too easy and more enjoyable to go to the buffet ????

 

Personality dependent of course, if you have one.

6 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

So, how many? Many of us think there is a sort of sliding scale of damage.

In my opinion, up to 150 men (beginner), no big deal.

 

Too funny mike. 

 

Some payments have gone towards tossing sum salad , water sports,  (or use your imagination for for worse scenarios that can not be mentioned here) from prospective German, Arab and Indian future husbands. No emotional damage... beginner - you say.

 

Edit:

 

I have nothing against bargirls, but when talking about them it is important to avoid talking BS