My Friends,

 

I am truly in love with a Thai woman (For the Very First Time).

 

Normally, I would not declare my love for a woman publicly, unless my love were not so strong that I felt some need to shout it to the world.

 

My love, the object of my love, has so many good points:

 

1.       She is selfless and caring.

2.       She invariably sacrifices personal wants for the good of her family and friends.

3.       She is a wonderful mother.

4.       She is smart and intelligent, and quick of mind.

5.       She is resourceful, and she is strong.

6.       She keeps herself fit, and her figure is something for gods to drool over.

7.       She possesses an exquisite sense of humor.

8.       She has eyes nothing like the sun.

9.       Coral is far more red than her lips’ red.

10.   When she walks, she treads on the ground, yet, by heaven, I think my love walks on air.

11.   She is attractive to me in every way.

12.   She is married.

 

I am truly in love, and there is no retreat. Truthfully, I have been secretly in love with this woman for several years.

 

I cannot be with her.  And, I cannot be without her.

 

When I am near her, I sometimes feel such pain in my loins.  And, when I am apart from her, I feel it in the gut. Such emptiness.

 

Have you ever been in love with a married woman, or an engaged woman, in Thailand?

 

If you have, then you know my constant feelings of pain and bliss.

 

I do not seek a closer relationship to the married love of my life.  Yet, my strong feelings for her preclude my living happily in peace, just knowing that she is out of my reach.

 

I have been dreaming about giving her a hug, and feeling her breast against mine, loin by loin.

 

This will never happen because she and I will never overstep the boundaries of moral rectitude and social acceptability. Still, every day, I dream of holding her, or just being close to her. She is so often on my mind that I cannot concentrate, sometimes, on much else.

 

Such a heavenly hell it is to be in love with a married woman.

 

And so, what is the accepted practice when one falls in love with a married woman in Thailand?

 

For example, is it permissible to send love letters to the woman one loves, even knowing that things will never go further than this?

 

Is it OK to love a married woman in Thailand, especially knowing that one never would wish to see such a relationship go any further than an all-encompassing love, from afar?

 

Love is pain, particularly when one loves too much, the wrong person.

 

I never anticipated falling in love with a married woman. Yet, she is just too beautiful, to me.

 

Isn’t there anything in Thai culture which allows this loving to happen without overly many strictures, or negative consequences, if one were to take one’s love even further? I have heard that it might be possible to fall in love with a married woman, in Thailand, and that doing so might, in some cases, be perfectly acceptable.

 

If so, then what are these cases?

 

Anybody know?

 

Note: I KNOW that you know.  So, please provide me some advice concerning my deep loving for a married woman whom I have known for years, and still care about so much.  Thank you.

Note:  When I say that I am in love, I mean...TRULY in Love.

Why don't you tell her husband how much you love her and come back and wright about it.

1 minute ago, GammaGlobulin said:

What is the accepted practice when one falls in love with a married woman in Thailand?

I would hope that you would respect and honor the fact that she has already proclaimed her love for another.

As the fantasy in your mind is blissfully intoxicating, keep in mind that it is a one-sided affair, and that she has not demonstrated any hidden desire to love you back.

 

It is common knowledge that Gik's exist in Thai culture to fuel the passion and carnal desires between two consenting adults, but love from afar I'm afraid is not anymore accepted in Thai culture, just as it is not acceptable in the West.

20 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Note:  When I say that I am in love, I mean...TRULY in Love.

No. What you are experiencing is merely a genetic program, transmitted by chemicals to stimulate certain emotions. It's no more than a genetic imperative to ensure survival of the species.

Be strong and resist the dark side.

31 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Is it OK to love a married woman in Thailand, especially knowing that one never would wish to see such a relationship go any further than an all-encompassing love, from afar?

It's called unrequited love, and it's something men have experienced for millenia. I've been there, and it's not a happy experience.

 

This too, shall pass, and fade away to a mere memory. In the future, you will give yourself a good mental kicking for being so foolish, but for now, you must remove yourself all contact with the temptress, less you get a real kicking from the husband.

Obviously a troll post. Don't take the bait.

I'm her husband. 1m baht and she's yours. Cash and carry. Meet up at Foodland near her workplace (Thanon Patpong 1). 

 

 

Just now, gargamon said:

Obviously a troll post. Don't take the bait.

No. Gamma is just bored IMO, but if not for his entertaining posts there would be little to comment on anymore, as the supply of interesting posts seems to be going through a low phase on the Pub, especially as the chief entertainer seems to have gone AWOL.

“When I am near her, I sometimes feel such pain in myloins.  And, when I am apart from her, I feel it in the gut. Such emptiness.”

Proper Mills & Boon stuff this. 

Just now, Kadilo said:

“When I am near her, I sometimes feel such pain in myloins.  And, when I am apart from her, I feel it in the gut. Such emptiness.”

Proper Mills & Boon stuff this. 

Don't mock it. Mills and Boon have made millions from such. We should have been so lucky.

7 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Don't mock it. Mills and Boon have made millions from such. We should have been so lucky.

Yeah he has a natural gift. He may get talent spotted before not too long. 

In Thailand you can fall in love every day ! (or even hourly). This time next week, you'll be saying that it was just a phase and now you've found the real thing. 

24 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

No. Gamma is just bored IMO, but if not for his entertaining posts there would be little to comment on anymore, as the supply of interesting posts seems to be going through a low phase on the Pub, especially as the chief entertainer seems to have gone AWOL.

Thank you.  But, in this case, you are mistaken.  I am writing from the heart. No Joke.

This is a song about wanting someone else wife. Thus the title. 

 

Someone Else's Wife

The Go Betweens

 

Can't find my way down my own street,
Got to get my dream feet back on its feet.
I'm trapped in my house
On first name terms with its mouse.
Don't say this house is a shack.
We had it once, can I get it back?
It's a fine line between love and despair;
Do you know the times I've waited on your stair?
Don't say you've got a home and new life,
I won't stand in your way 'cause
You're someone else's wife.

I'm trying to set things straight
But I can't see straight.
I'm gonna drive if it takes me years,
Gotta learn to live with fear.
Don t say this house is a shack.
Lightning hit it so I struck back.
It's a fine line between love and despair;
Do you know the times I've waited on your stair?
Don't say you've got a home and new life,
I won't stand in your way 'cause
You're someone else's wife.

Don't say this house is a shack.
Thunder cracked so I cracked back.
It's a fine line between love and despair;
Do you know the times I've waited on your stair?
Don't say you've got a home and new life,
I won't stand in your way 'cause
You're someone else's wife.

27 minutes ago, Fat is a type of crazy said:

This is a song about wanting someone else wife. Thus the title. 

 

Someone Else's Wife

The Go Betweens

 

Can't find my way down my own street,
Got to get my dream feet back on its feet.
I'm trapped in my house
On first name terms with its mouse.
Don't say this house is a shack.
We had it once, can I get it back?
It's a fine line between love and despair;
Do you know the times I've waited on your stair?
Don't say you've got a home and new life,
I won't stand in your way 'cause
You're someone else's wife.

I'm trying to set things straight
But I can't see straight.
I'm gonna drive if it takes me years,
Gotta learn to live with fear.
Don t say this house is a shack.
Lightning hit it so I struck back.
It's a fine line between love and despair;
Do you know the times I've waited on your stair?
Don't say you've got a home and new life,
I won't stand in your way 'cause
You're someone else's wife.

Don't say this house is a shack.
Thunder cracked so I cracked back.
It's a fine line between love and despair;
Do you know the times I've waited on your stair?
Don't say you've got a home and new life,
I won't stand in your way 'cause
You're someone else's wife.

“O, beware, my lord, of jealousy;
It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock
The meat it feeds on; that cuckold lives in bliss
Who, certain of his fate, loves not his wronger;
But, O, what damned minutes tells he o’er
Who dotes, yet doubts, suspects, yet strongly loves!”

 

(Obviously, Shakespeare. Probably Othello.)

 

41 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Thank you.  But, in this case, you are mistaken.  I am writing from the heart. No Joke.

I was only referring to the number of posts you make, not to the content.

However, as I have your attention, run, run as far from her as you can. You will only make yourself miserable by remaining in a situation where you are constantly reminded of her. I know- been there done that, got the T shirt.

In my case it was resolved when she moved far away. I felt a whole lot better soon as she left.

6 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

I was only referring to the number of posts you make, not to the content.

However, as I have your attention, run, run as far from her as you can. You will only make yourself miserable by remaining in a situation where you are constantly reminded of her. I know- been there done that, got the T shirt.

In my case it was resolved when she moved far away. I felt a whole lot better soon as she left.

I cannot leave her.

And, I cannot think of a reason why I should.

2 hours ago, GammaGlobulin said:

I am truly in love with a Thai woman (For the Very First Time).

That's wonderful news. 

You should write poetry to her , probably in the form of a haiku. Thai women love that. Do not give her money or jewelry, Thai women don't like that at all. , 

And most importantly you should confess the love you feel for his wife to the Thai husband, Thai people value honesty above  all other things.

Good luck and Please post video .  

Strangely enough, my grandfather received the Croix de Guerre for acts of bravery during the Great War, in the trenches, before returning, in order to commit acts of adultery.

 

My grandfather was a medic who saved many lives; hence the medal.

 

Maybe adultery was just his way of blowing off steam after returning from France.

 

Or, maybe adultery runs in my family.

 

 

 

2 hours ago, RichardColeman said:

In Thailand you can fall in love every day ! (or even hourly). This time next week, you'll be saying that it was just a phase and now you've found the real thing. 

As I age I find I need a day's rest between falling in love.... P.S its 3 minutes not 1 hour.

Maybe, non-monogamous cultures are better?

 

We are not monogamous beings.

 

So, why try to force a square peg into a round hole?

 

Seemingly, many cultures around the world are becoming ever less monogamous, year by year.

 

Marriage is far less sacrosanct than it once was.

 

And so, if someone might love someone, then this is a good thing.

You havnt said if she knows, and how she feels ?

 

3 hours ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Note:  When I say that I am in love, I mean...TRULY in Love.

Of course you are.....

22 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

You havnt said if she knows, and how she feels ?

 

a.  She knows.

b.  She feels, one might guess, that it would be better if I were younger, more handsome, and if I were expecting a substantial inheritance.

c.  She is such a lovely and kind person.

d. I cannot live without her.  (I mean that I can live without her; it is only that I would not wish to live without her.)

 

 

7 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

a.  She knows.

b.  She feels, one might guess, that it would be better if I were younger, more handsome, and if I were expecting a substantial inheritance.

c.  She is such a lovely and kind person.

d. I cannot live without her.  (I mean that I can live without her; it is only that I would not wish to live without her.)

 

 

Dorsnt say how she feels, takes two to Tango.

If she is not intetested, game over really and you are left in fantasyland.

"B" does not paint her at all like your OP and above more like a materialistic gold digger.

14 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

Dorsnt say how she feels, takes two to Tango.

If she is not intetested, game over really and you are left in fantasyland.

"B" does not paint her at all like your OP and above more like a materialistic gold digger.

Yes, you are correct.

 

Although she is definitely not a gold digger, by any means, yet one can hardly expect that most women do not dream of meeting a prince charming, one with charisma, good looks, and money.

 

Still, the woman I mentioned, above, is one of the few who can settle for less, and yet remain thankful for what she has received. And this is a rare quality which I both love and appreciate.

 

(I am definitely not speaking of a "fictional" woman, here.)

Okay 2 comments. I think you got number 9 <deleted> about perhaps? Or are you saying Coral is better than your missus' lips?

  2 I love how you generally are the first one to post on your own topics. You write the world's longest ops and still don't manage to get it all in. 

15 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Yes, you are correct.

 

Although she is definitely not a gold digger, by any means, yet one can hardly expect that most women do not dream of meeting a prince charming, one with charisma, good looks, and money.

 

Still, the woman I mentioned, above, is one of the few who can settle for less, and yet remain thankful for what she has received. And this is a rare quality which I both love and appreciate.

 

(I am definitely not speaking of a "fictional" woman, here.)

If that were true, the "substantial inheritance" would not even be mentioned.

 

you still havnt said how she feels ? Or is it that you dont actually know ? and all this is just something you have convinced yourself of, based on a rose tinted observation and perhaps a polite smile from her and your fertile imagination has run riot.