Are you afraid of dying?

[zzaa09]

13 minutes ago, ballpoint said:

I'm more <deleted> off at the thought of dying than afraid of it.  I always want to see around the next corner.  I want to see my grandson grow up, get married, have children of his own.  I want to see what new discoveries will be made in physics, aiding our understanding of life, the universe and everything.  I want to see how it all ends.  I also agree with Christopher Hitchens that the thought that the newspapers will come out the next day, people will go about their everyday business, but I won't be around to see it, is a scarier thought than death itself. 

 

I was involved in a traffic accident a number of years ago and blacked out before impact, waking up in hospital with serious injuries which could very well have ended my life. Should I have died at that time, I wouldn't have known a thing about it, and certainly wouldn't have been able to care about how my loved ones in particular, and the world in general, were getting on without me in it, so I do know better than most that the actual moment of death is nothing to be afraid off, but the anticipation of it could very well be.  In short, I will not go gentle into that good night, but will rage against it.  I like to think that I did so while unconscious following my accident, which is why I'm still around today.

So..you can go in peace, knowing full well that we will never ever figure it out or solve anything. Rest assured - 

[seedy]

11 hours ago, ballpoint said:

In short, I will not go gentle into that good night, but will rage against it. 

Agreed - Kickin' and Screamin'

 

Or shot by a jealous teenage husband while climbing out the bedroom window !

 

[inThailand]

Are you afraid of dying?

 

If I was, I wouldn't be driving a motorcycle here. 

[abrahamzvi]

15 hours ago, WhiteBuffaloATM said:

Afraid of Any Pain, Fear or Family Grief preceding my Death.

Slow/Extended Death:Torture, Maiming, Laceration, Battering, Falling, Drowning, Fire, Freezing =Terrifying. 

Quick / Instant Death : Bullet, Explosion, Car Crash = Fearless

 

Join the club!

[RJRS1301]

15 hours ago, clivebaxter said:

No just don't want to be there when it happens ????

With apologies to Spike Milligan 

[RJRS1301]

I do not want a prolonged or painful death scenario.

Prefer, as most of us would, for it to fast and efficient and painless.

Have faced my mortality twice and it was ok, except for fractured sternum after an enthusiastic resus.

 

[Skeptic7]

15 hours ago, Zikomat said:

Yes, I am afraid to die. Life is all we have. Death does not exist : it is what we call when there is no life anymore. It is not a transition from one state to another, it is a transition from everything to nothing, from 1 to 0, something our mind is not ever able to grasp, accept or reconcile with. I try to be honest with myself and not to claim understanding or wisdom where there cannot be any.

Fear of not existing is real. Nilophobia or Eternal Oblivion. Mark Twain summed this up succinctly...

 

"I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it."

—  Mark Twain
 

[berrec]

Nop, as I won't have to put up any longer with Biden's BBB (Bumbling Boring BS) 55555

[CMBob]

[chilli42]

Not so much, as it has become clear to me that there are many things worse in life than dying.  In fact, in certain circumstances, dying might actually be the happy choice.  

[HashBrownHarry]

16 hours ago, CharlieH said:

Not at all, just hope it is quiet and painless.

 

Agreed - i just don't want to be p**sing and s****ing myself - yuk!

[worgeordie]

I am already well passed my sell by date of 3 score and 10 , 

when it happens I hope its quick and painless ,that's all I ask.

regards Worgeordie

[Gottfrid]

16 hours ago, mfd101 said:

But once dead, there is nothing to fear, it seems to me.

Well said! I would say, there is a slight chance that you might be right.

[GarryP]

15 hours ago, G Rex said:

I have had/am having a fantastic life - and I honestly have no ‘bucket list’.

As my body physically deteriorates , I may enact protocols to speed up proceedings.

Both of my parents died with dementia. I do not want to play that game.

In my working life I euthanised thousands of patients - so I have a more blasé attitude to the sanctity of life.

I am all about Quality Of Life.

 

Were you friends with Harold Shipman?  

[1FinickyOne]

16 hours ago, jak2002003 said:

I hope when I get older they will have legalised euthanasia and have some nice hotel style place I can go when I think the time is right....where I can say goodbye to friends and then down a bottle of fine brandy and eat chocolates then take a pill, go to sleep and not wake up. 

that's my dream too... maybe a month in a lovely resort w/all things peaceful... and fine. A gradual increase of some sort of sleeping med and pain killers and to fade away in lovely dreams... we should be able to accomplish that as a society... right? 

[1FinickyOne]

15 hours ago, G Rex said:

I have had/am having a fantastic life - and I honestly have no ‘bucket list’.

As my body physically deteriorates , I may enact protocols to speed up proceedings.

Both of my parents died with dementia. I do not want to play that game.

In my working life I euthanised thousands of patients - so I have a more blasé attitude to the sanctity of life.

I am all about Quality Of Life.

 

Where did you work - - and are they still in business... ??

 

Me too, - both parents had dementia and their last 10 years were very difficult for me to deal with... I would not want to inflict that on my family. 

 

Did your parents retain some semblance of their personality? My mom was mostly sweet and my dad was constantly difficult... as they were before D. 

[wannascuba]

No one makes it out of this world alive, we will all die eventually. So it come down to did you live a life worth living? Did you do the most you could for your fellow man, family, and loved ones?

[Purdey]

Dying in your sleep is fine, but cancer and other ailments that cause extended suffering during the process of dying is what many people fear. 

[HAPPYNUFF]

Well at my  advanced age, Ive found that all the wrong parts get stiff now, but  luckily, Ive still got most of my marbles up top, like to laugh, enjoy the world most times, just  regret  it doesnt go one forever, though I do say, all things being equal, and  ignoring the chaos around  the world, this  is the most peaceful time of my life. Have had  two bad turns, thought it was the end each time, and strangely enough I wasnt scared, confused a little, but not scared., full of regret I was leaving my wife .

[grain]

A few years ago in Pattaya there was an old farang in his late 80s who died while getting a HE massage. The old boy's heart gave in while he was enjoying his final orgasm. That's what I call winning first prize in the lottery of death. 

[G Rex]

26 minutes ago, 1FinickyOne said:

Where did you work - - and are they still in business... ??

 

Me too, - both parents had dementia and their last 10 years were very difficult for me to deal with... I would not want to inflict that on my family. 

 

Did your parents retain some semblance of their personality? My mom was mostly sweet and my dad was constantly difficult... as they were before D. 

I had a veterinary practice in East Gipplsland in Victoria. The practice is still there - I sold out my share.

My Dad started showing signs - sundowners syndrome etc from about 78 , but deteriorated rapidly. He had a minor stroke and was admitted to care, but died shortly afterwards. He was very placid when he had dementia, much easier to deal with than before!

My Mum , deteriorated more slowly , but required high care for her last 5 years. During this period, she did not know who I was, (or who she was for that matter). She was constantly crying, with intermittent bouts of anger. It was bloody awful - and if she was my patient I would have put her down. (Sounds harsh I know - but she had no Quality of Life).

I know many of the early signs to look out for in myself (!) and have instructed my wife to take me for a walk in the forest if I lose the plot! 

[shackleton]

No not at this time hopefully a lot more years of living yet

Might have a change of heart nearer the time 

If I die in my sleep no problem as long as its not with a prolonged illness towards the end 

[toofarnorth]

17 hours ago, ezzra said:

Die in my sleep, best outcome i can hope for...

Many years ago a very good friend of about 40 years gave up on life , I was about 2 weeks away from coming out here. His mother said as I left their house ' I wish I didn't have to wake up in the morning '.

Very sad but I know why she said that.   As for me here in 2021 ,  If dying means the same as before being born , i e knowing nothing fine , if more is yet to come , fine.    A priest asked Steven Fry who didn't believe in the hereafter ' How about meeting your parents again '  To which he replied something like ' How awful talking to them for an eternity '.

[wwest5829]

17 hours ago, jak2002003 said:

No......not of dying.

 

If I could just die of 'old age' in my sleep.

 

I am afraid of pain and long suffering from a disease or health problem though....but not of the dying part at all.  

 

I hope when I get older they will have legalised euthanasia and have some nice hotel style place I can go when I think the time is right....where I can say goodbye to friends and then down a bottle of fine brandy and eat chocolates then take a pill, go to sleep and not wake up. 

Legalised euthanasia is available in some enlightened areas of the globe.

[Pedrogaz]

Have no fear of death.....but do have a fear of a long lingering death where I am dependent on other people to care for me, or for doctors to prescribe pain medication (which they do very poorly)

[toofarnorth]

41 minutes ago, grain said:

A few years ago in Pattaya there was an old farang in his late 80s who died while getting a HE massage. The old boy's heart gave in while he was enjoying his final orgasm. That's what I call winning first prize in the lottery of death. 

Go as you come , a great way to go , just hope if I am still here at 80 to get that happy ending.

[toofarnorth]

2 hours ago, RJRS1301 said:

With apologies to Spike Milligan 

If you don't go to other peoples funerals they won't go to yours.  That's only fair.

[toofarnorth]

' I am ready to meet my maker , whether my maker is ready for the ordeal of meeting me is another matter '. Sir Whinston Churchill .

[alyx]

Kind of a diffuse feeling.

I am more worried about it will happen and falling asleep without any prior "hint" would be great.

I guess that I am afraid to be afraid 

 

[ramrod711]

18 hours ago, WhiteBuffaloATM said:

Afraid of Any Pain, Fear or Family Grief preceding my Death.

Slow/Extended Death:Torture, Maiming, Laceration, Battering, Falling, Drowning, Fire, Freezing =Terrifying. 

Quick / Instant Death : Bullet, Explosion, Car Crash = Fearless

 

Good answer, I, like you, do not fear death, I fear a long painful process. I think all humans should have the option of requesting a pill. We are much more humane with our pets than we are to each other.