Do you have them? Do you want them? Does she want them?

 

Relationship expert, Cameron Diaz, says they're a must:

 

https://edition.cnn.com/2023/12/20/health/sleep-divorce-separate-bedrooms-wellness/index.html

 

Me: No. I miss her when I sleep alone.  She turns the a/c down to 18, so sometimes I can see my breath in the bedroom.

i have a friend who says the main reason he s still with his wife is because they sleep seperately. She says the same!!

If it's gone that far I'd prefer to progress directly to separate homes.

The conjugal bed is a must, but his and hers ensuite bathrooms are the imperative in our house. Not so much about toilet seat debates (that's a western construct) but more about having her own space for all her crap.

25 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

Relationship expert, Cameron Diaz

 

Even film star Cameron Diaz has an opinion.

 

 

We def have separate spaces. The living room is very neat and minimalist.The bedroom I refer to as the world's largest handbag.

 

If I had to live in the handbag full time, not just for Netflix and sleep there, that wouldn't work. 

it s when her family come to stay and everyone sleeps in the same room that makes me wanna sleep seperately. MIL snores like a drunk docker!!

2 minutes ago, nikmar said:

it s when her family come to stay and everyone sleeps in the same room that makes me wanna sleep seperately. MIL snores like a drunk docker!!

 

I've never slept with a drunk docker. What's it like?

We have separate rooms for master bathe

In TH = same king sized bed but an adjoining "sitting" bedroom has the wardrobes, home gym, book shelves, & big screen with a couch that opens into a bed....

So there is a "separation" of space - stuff wise = bedroom - her array of stuff...The other room is arranged my way & I spend quiet time there if the house is busy.....But, we always are together in the same bed....

Currently in the US RVing & sharing a queen sized bed....

I'm an active sleeper & she sleeps like a log so she favors her side close to the edge....

7 hours ago, Prubangboy said:

Do you have them? Do you want them? Does she want them?

 

Relationship expert, Cameron Diaz, says they're a must:

 

https://edition.cnn.com/2023/12/20/health/sleep-divorce-separate-bedrooms-wellness/index.html

 

Me: No. I miss her when I sleep alone.  She turns the a/c down to 18, so sometimes I can see my breath in the bedroom.

Other relationship experts say it is a sign of a failing marriage.     

My old best friends parents slept in seperate bedrooms. Apparently, they were still intimate regularly, it was just the physical act of sleeping that they did seperately. Maybe they wanted to toss and turn without another body there or just wanted a whole bed to themselves.

All I would say is beds.

 

The bigger the bed the better.

 

We have stayed in hotels where the beds are so small, you can't get your space.

 

In both our homes in the US and Thailand, we do King size.

 

MrsG is a terrible sleeper, she writhes around causing chaos. I get into bed assume the position and don't move.

 

If I had to sleep in a bed small enough that her writhing around would bother me, I'd be in a separate bedroom too!

Great TOPIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

YES!

YES!

 

If I ever decide to have another GF, I will INSIST on separate bedrooms.

 

This is the most civilized way.

 

Sleep separate and then...

 

Use either the Kitchen or the Living Room...to conjoin, when the desire strikes.

 

I have lived this way most of my life, when I had GFs and Wives.

 

I am totally IN FAVOR of separate bedrooms.

 

Separate bedrooms means that you can read in bed, whenever you want, and not worry about disturbing your partner at 3:00AM!

 

And, if you have a very FAT Wife, you will not need to listen to her snore, either!

 

Such freedom!

 

 

19 hours ago, NanLaew said:

The conjugal bed is a must, but his and hers ensuite bathrooms are the imperative in our house. Not so much about toilet seat debates (that's a western construct) but more about having her own space for all her crap.

Crap? So she is a bad cook?

Separate double beds, or separate rooms. Both work for us after 40 years. Quite ridiculous to judge the state of a relationship on this issue. Some couples will be best suited by sleeping in the same bed, others not. 

19 hours ago, NanLaew said:

 

I've never slept with a drunk docker. What's it like?

Maybe like a steve you adore? I wouldn't want to know.

Mrs can't get to sleep, up half the night on her phone so started separate bedrooms about a year ago. At first I did not like it but found you can have a better time farting and moving about on your own. We can get the unpleasant sex business done elsewhere without messing up my bed!

20 hours ago, BritManToo said:

If it's gone that far I'd prefer to progress directly to separate homes.

 

Bloke I knew in Bang Na did that, bought 2 houses next to each other, one for him one for the mrs. She was a real cow though.

The key question:

 

Do Thai ladies with Thai husbands usually sleep in separate beds?

 

Answer: only if the marriage is failing.

30 minutes ago, Thingamabob said:

Some couples will be best suited by sleeping in the same bed, others not. 

 

Or, if Mormon....

 

It's possible to have up to 5 in one bed, or even more, if the bed is wide enough.

 

Why restrict oneself to just couples coupling?

 

 

People settle for too little too easily. Marry someone you can't live without, or don't marry them. 

No. We love sleeping together. On a huge king bed, of course. And she gets cold easily, so no issues about the AC at 18. LOL. 

 

The only issue is when she has been drinking with her friends, who all seem to be like fish. Very thirsty. She snores. A good breath strip is mandatory for her, if more than 2 beers. 

1 hour ago, proton said:

 

Bloke I knew in Bang Na did that, bought 2 houses next to each other, one for him one for the mrs. She was a real cow though.

 

If she truly was a real cow, why did he waste his money on a house when a byre would have sufficed? There's a name for folk that ____ animals.

22 hours ago, NanLaew said:

 

I've never slept with a drunk docker. What's it like?

I am going to guess, they snore heavily... based on the context. 

1 hour ago, CecilM said:

Marry someone you can't live without, or don't marry them.

To each his own - we are not co-dependent. 

 

I think we thrive because we can live w/o each other.. We thrive as individuals and as a couple... 

Separate bedrooms only when one of us is sick.

10 hours ago, GinBoy2 said:

I get into bed assume the position and don't move.

 

little spoon ? :)

 

I like peace, quiet and darkness when I sleep. My wife likes chaos, noise and light when she sleeps (TV on, phone on and lights on). The compromise is pretty obvious.

12 hours ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Great TOPIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

YES!

 

 

If I ever decide to have another GF, I will INSIST on separate bedrooms.

 

I have lived this way most of my life, when I had GFs and Wives.

 

 

Separate Bedrooms  maybe the cause/problem that you had So Many GF's and Wives.