My wife is getting fat.

[advancebooking]

Have been married for 10 yrs. We have a daughter and so glad to have this experience in life, living the dream here etc.

 

When I married my wife she was slim. Her body was tight. Even after giving birth she stayed in shape. For example, she still had that gap between her upper inner thighs when standing up. 

 

Now 10 yrs on and she is getting rather large in the lower half of the body. 

 

Last night my child ran downstairs at 6pm to get mummies grab delivery. I inspected and found it was a sugary chocolate looking drink with round jelly balls floating inside. I was thinking what the hell. I go upstairs and she is drinking it and eating 2 min noodles from the original packaging that one can buy at the supermarket (full of palm oil and MSG). She wasnt eating my dinner that I cooked for us all. Grilled steak, roast potato/ pumpkin, steamed carrots and coccus. Cherry tomatoes on the side. 

 

Later that night I had to chat with her. No more sugar for a month etc. No more sugar drinks. 

 

It seems she doesnt respect her body anymore and this concerns me. 

 

I noticed when I purchased some strawberries at the market recently,  they include a small bag of sugar with each punnet. If one orders food from some restaurants using grab they often give a free bottle of coke with the delivery. Eat out at restaurants and the chefs add sugar to the food all the time. 

 

It might come to the point where Im not attracted to my wife anymore the way things are going. Ive never really been into big girls. Whats going to happen in another 10 yrs if she doesnt care about her bod. 

 

Thoughts?

[proton]

I'm divorcing mine if she goes above 47 kilo's there is a limit! 😄

[Dolf]

7 minutes ago, advancebooking said:

Have been married for 10 yrs. We have a daughter and so glad to have this experience in life, living the dream here etc.

 

When I married my wife she was slim. Her body was tight. Even after giving birth she stayed in shape. For example, she still had that gap between her upper inner thighs when standing up. 

 

Now 10 yrs on and she is getting rather large in the lower half of the body. 

 

Last night my child ran downstairs at 6pm to get mummies grab delivery. I inspected and found it was a sugary chocolate looking drink with round jelly balls floating inside. I was thinking what the hell. I go upstairs and she is drinking it and eating 2 min noodles from the original packaging that one can buy at the supermarket (full of palm oil and MSG). She wasnt eating my dinner that I cooked for us all. Grilled steak, roast potato/ pumpkin, steamed carrots and coccus. Cherry tomatoes on the side. 

 

Later that night I had to chat with her. No more sugar for a month etc. No more sugar drinks. 

 

It seems she doesnt respect her body anymore and this concerns me. 

 

I noticed when I purchased some strawberries at the market recently,  they include a small bag of sugar with each punnet. If one orders food from some restaurants using grab they often give a free bottle of coke with the delivery. Eat out at restaurants and the chefs add sugar to the food all the time. 

 

It might come to the point where Im not attracted to my wife anymore the way things are going. Ive never really been into big girls. Whats going to happen in another 10 yrs if she doesnt care about her bod. 

 

Thoughts?

Her body her choice.

[stoner]

13 minutes ago, advancebooking said:

She wasnt eating my dinner that I cooked for us all. Grilled steak, roast potato/ pumpkin, steamed carrots and coccus. Cherry tomatoes on the side. 

 

i'll be your wifey if you feed me like that. 

[Conno]

Don't worry about it dude. You are into crypto, so you will soon be making wife changing money. 

[macahoom]

20 minutes ago, advancebooking said:

Steamed carrots and coccus.

 

Coccus?

[zhounan]

Three possible solutions:

- throw away TV 

- don't let her drink sugar drinks 

- do sports together with her

 

Extreme solution: make her jealous, be kind to women more beautiful than her, so she will become competitive.

[steven100]

My wife is getting fat '    

 

leave her .......  many other spring chickens in the hen house.

[JensenZ]

You can nag her to death - she won't change. She'll just keep on getting fatter. You didn't say anything about age, as it makes a big difference to how fast you pile on fat.

 

It is possible that she's not happy in the relationship and food has become a way to overcome the stress of it. A lot of people eat for comfort. The problem could be you. Maybe you're too demanding?

 

Another possibility could be that she is seeing someone on the side who prefers some meat on the bones and she's catering to his (or her) preferences. Not everyone likes their partners skinny.

Edited March 8 by JensenZ

[Celsius]

just dump her Bob.

 

 

oh it's not Bob.....

[Prubangboy]

More chins than a Chinese phone book?

 

Otherwise -Meno-pause. It's like trying to stop the tide from coming in.

[QuantumQuandry]

Start up an exercise hobby with her (weight lifting, jogging, pickleball, tennis, whatever).  Good for you, good for her.  Takes away the 'blame' aspect and you can find something to enjoy together.

Edited March 8 by QuantumQuandry

[save the frogs]

there was a lawyer who said he literally had a client who put a clause in the pre-nup about his wife getting fat during the marriage 

[HauptmannUK]

Given that she doesn't want to eat what you'd cooked and was instead eating junk food suggests a relationship problem and depression.  Further red flags are that you say she doesn't respect her body and (it seems) was 'upstairs' and not eating with you.  She could potentially become obese in a lot fewer than 10 years....

I would suggest getting to the root of her  depression. A woman who is happy and positive about life will take pride in her physique.

My wife of 12 years is still the same weight as the day we married.  She gets up early and is very active - exercises every day and avoids sweet stuff.

[Captain Monday]

5 hours ago, advancebooking said:

Have been married for 10 yrs. We have a daughter and so glad to have this experience in life, living the dream here etc.

 

When I married my wife she was slim. Her body was tight. Even after giving birth she stayed in shape. For example, she still had that gap between her upper inner thighs when standing up. 

 

Now 10 yrs on and she is getting rather large in the lower half of the body. 

 

Last night my child ran downstairs at 6pm to get mummies grab delivery. I inspected and found it was a sugary chocolate looking drink with round jelly balls floating inside. I was thinking what the hell. I go upstairs and she is drinking it and eating 2 min noodles from the original packaging that one can buy at the supermarket (full of palm oil and MSG). She wasnt eating my dinner that I cooked for us all. Grilled steak, roast potato/ pumpkin, steamed carrots and coccus. Cherry tomatoes on the side. 

 

Later that night I had to chat with her. No more sugar for a month etc. No more sugar drinks. 

 

It seems she doesnt respect her body anymore and this concerns me. 

 

I noticed when I purchased some strawberries at the market recently,  they include a small bag of sugar with each punnet. If one orders food from some restaurants using grab they often give a free bottle of coke with the delivery. Eat out at restaurants and the chefs add sugar to the food all the time. 

 

It might come to the point where Im not attracted to my wife anymore the way things are going. Ive never really been into big girls. Whats going to happen in another 10 yrs if she doesnt care about her bod. 

 

Thoughts?

What is your bod like? I would start on a strict diet myself and then to a gym or sports activity twice a day

 

[scubascuba3]

The problem is they don't know what to do to lose weight and get it under control, some get on diet pills, easy fix short term

[Ben Zioner]

10 hours ago, advancebooking said:

Thoughts?

Yes, a question rather, how often do you have sex? 

[EVENKEEL]

10 hours ago, proton said:

I'm divorcing mine if she goes above 47 kilo's there is a limit! 😄

Some guys like that munchkin look.

[sirineou]

10 hours ago, advancebooking said:

It might come to the point where Im not attracted to my wife anymore the way things are going. Ive never really been into big girls. Whats going to happen in another 10 yrs if she doesnt care about her bod. 

I wonder what has happened to you in the past 10 years and what would happen in the next 10

We all change as we get older,

Do you think she will find you attractive in 10 years? does she find you attractive now? 

After decades of marriage physical attraction plays a smaller part than when you were younger.  

Having said that ,eating unhealthy and at all times of the day and night is...... well unhealthy. 

[Jake72]

Time to find a Mia Noi if you can afford one. 

[fredwiggy]

Hauptmannuk hit it on the nose to my thinking. Many women stay slim hoping to find a man, then go back to their normal eating ways after he's hooked. It isn't intentional and could be depression. Many people either eat a lot or eat very little if they have depression. People who would just divorce a woman they're supposed to love in sickness and health, till death aren't looking at that woman as their wife but as a sex object and or cook, basically a live in slave. Many men think they look great when in actuality they're fat or out of shape. Women usually have a harder look at their own bodies, thinking they are fat when they're just fine.

Asking yourself if you wife is still getting the attention she needs from you is the first thing. Not to say this is in fact the reason she doesn't eat with you and eats more fattening food now, but it's always a possibility. If you're still loving her the way you did at the start, then I would think underlying issues like depression or worries over something. talking about it in a non judgemental way, asking her how she feels about her weight gain and telling her she's still beautiful can go a long way.

I'm sure if she was lean for a long time and is now heavier it's really bothering her, but eating is a way of coping that always backfires. Try doing something healthy together, such as daily evening walks. Sharing , meaning real communication, lets her open up and know she's being heard and not judged. Anyone can lose and gain weight. It happens easier as you age, and no one's immune unless you starve yourself. Eating is fun, although eating junk isn't good long term.

 

My own girlfriend gained a few kilos and she talks to me abut everything so that's one of the topics. My clothes are too tight. All I suggest, as she knows I know diet and exercise, is maybe cutting back on the rice, and explained why, meaning sugars burn first in the body before stored body fat. I always tell her she still looks great to me, so leave it in her hands. They know their bodies. Many people don't know about dieting healthy, and if you look at what stores sell, they're pushing sugar like cocaine, knowing people get addicted and buy more. It's a life change always eating healthy, or at least an occasional splurge when you get to your best weight. Asking her how she's feeling is the best start.

[fredwiggy]

11 hours ago, proton said:

I'm divorcing mine if she goes above 47 kilo's there is a limit! 😄

Will she leave you when you get fatter?

[Henryford]

Thai women just like to eat. You didn't mention her age but over 40 they are going to put on a few kgs. Unless she gets really overweight is that so bad? My tgf was 39 kgs when i met her, now 50kg, but hey that's still not bad compared to any western woman.

[Nick Carter icp]

4 minutes ago, Henryford said:

Thai women just like to eat. You didn't mention her age but over 40 they are going to put on a few kgs. Unless she gets really overweight is that so bad? My tgf was 39 kgs when i met her, now 50kg, but hey that's still not bad compared to any western woman.

 

   So your Wife had the average weight of al a 11 year old girl when you met her (39 kilos)  and now she weights 50 KG, which is the average weight of a 14 year old ?

[Old Croc]

Why on earth are you the cook?

One of the reasons I married a Thai was to avoid these tiresome household chores that Thai woman still regard as their territory!

 

But seriously, some observations.

Most Thais I know wouldn't touch that western style meal you expect her to enjoy. They much prefer their traditional rice and spice themed dishes. She is probably binge eating separately.

 

Thais consume more sugar in their food than most other cultures (US is one major exception) They either over sweeten or over salt most of their food with little thought of the health risks. Liver, kidney disease and cancer are rife in Thailand. 

I think this diet catches up with many as they age. Most of the older women I see in my part of Thailand are spreading.  It's disappointing to see, they should retain their youthful figures in the same way as we western men! 

[CharlieH]

Meanwhile on Facebook and in Thai " my farang husband is insensitive, uncaring and a control freak, should I dump him, take the house and cancel his visa, sue for child support and maintenance".

[Wobblybob]

11 hours ago, advancebooking said:

Have been married for 10 yrs. We have a daughter and so glad to have this experience in life, living the dream here etc.

 

When I married my wife she was slim. Her body was tight. Even after giving birth she stayed in shape. For example, she still had that gap between her upper inner thighs when standing up. 

 

Now 10 yrs on and she is getting rather large in the lower half of the body. 

 

Last night my child ran downstairs at 6pm to get mummies grab delivery. I inspected and found it was a sugary chocolate looking drink with round jelly balls floating inside. I was thinking what the hell. I go upstairs and she is drinking it and eating 2 min noodles from the original packaging that one can buy at the supermarket (full of palm oil and MSG). She wasnt eating my dinner that I cooked for us all. Grilled steak, roast potato/ pumpkin, steamed carrots and coccus. Cherry tomatoes on the side. 

 

Later that night I had to chat with her. No more sugar for a month etc. No more sugar drinks. 

 

It seems she doesnt respect her body anymore and this concerns me. 

 

I noticed when I purchased some strawberries at the market recently,  they include a small bag of sugar with each punnet. If one orders food from some restaurants using grab they often give a free bottle of coke with the delivery. Eat out at restaurants and the chefs add sugar to the food all the time. 

 

It might come to the point where Im not attracted to my wife anymore the way things are going. Ive never really been into big girls. Whats going to happen in another 10 yrs if she doesnt care about her bod. 

 

Thoughts?

Remember your marriage vows, you promised to love her in 'plumpness and in health till death do us part' 🤥

[Henryford]

1 hour ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   So your Wife had the average weight of al a 11 year old girl when you met her (39 kilos)  and now she weights 50 KG, which is the average weight of a 14 year old ?

 

er we are in Thailand, not Europe. Look around you most younger Thai women weigh 40-50 kgs.

[tmd5855]

13 hours ago, zhounan said:

Three possible solutions:

- throw away TV 

- don't let her drink sugar drinks 

- do sports together with her

 

Extreme solution: make her jealous, be kind to women more beautiful than her, so she will become competitive.

Good idea, keep saying her sister/best friend/her Mum&Dad/Neighbour are all beautiful with shapely waist and legs.

Hide all knifes and swap all metal for cardboard before you start.

[n00dle]

13 hours ago, Dolf said:

Her body her choice.

indeed, just as it is his choice to cut her loose if he no longer finds her attractive.