Any expats here who are not approached by Thai people much in daily life but still live in a densely populated area?

 

Please post tips on how you behave, interact or not, etc. Things I can do if I just want to be left alone in peace. I can avoid foreigners most of the time with avoidance body language, but the cues don't seem to work with Thai's.

 

I can't seem to get rid of Thai's "coming at me". I have tried various things, like no eye contact, just not responding, responding politely but superficially, not smiling, looking at the phone, etc but nothing seems to work particularly well consistently. Even tried some new age visualization aura shielding stuff.

 

The best technique so far is staring at the phone and not responding, but I can't do that all the time. Trying to avoid people is actually making it worse...??

 

Sorry if the post seems a tad anti-social...

Seems a tad stupid to me.

I have found that walking stark-naked with a sunflower tied to the end of my todger usually works quite well....

 

Seriously, if you pretend to be a nutter, then almost everybody (Thai and farang) will steer well clear of you.  I've found thatit also works with aggressive dogs.

10 minutes ago, simon43 said:

I have found that walking stark-naked with a sunflower tied to the end of my todger usually works quite well....

 

Seriously, if you pretend to be a nutter, then almost everybody (Thai and farang) will steer well clear of you.  I've found thatit also works with aggressive dogs.

Being a nutter attracts a lot of attention. I want to move through people and areas unnoticed (invisibility), not just unapproached...

Why do Thais approach you?  If it's in Pattaya or many areas of Bangkok they're probably prostitutes looking for a customer.  Just decline politely and walk on.

Just dress like crap, works for me

 

as for thais who walk in front of me, yes it seems in asia everyone likes to get in each others way. Try skipping deodrant too if you can

Stay home, get food delivered, nobody will bother you.

7 minutes ago, brewsterbudgen said:

Why do Thais approach you?  If it's in Pattaya or many areas of Bangkok they're probably prostitutes looking for a customer.  Just decline politely and walk on.

They don't usually say. They just gain my attention through eye contact, facial expression or being to close in personal space. I can just keep walking but the interaction/distraction has already occurred. That's the same as someone asking for something in that it diverts me energy into a distraction I don't want.

27 minutes ago, Mark1969 said:

Sorry if the post seems a tad anti-social...

A tad? Very is more like it.

Learn this phrase ...

... my mee baht

https://translate.google.com/?sl=auto&tl=th&text=have no baht&op=translate

 

Hat dark sunglasses over the ear headphones,  and a surgical mask

Appear totally unapproachable, and just ignore everyone completely

 

Just ask a question in English language and they will run. 

You don't need to have a question.. 

One word works

12 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

I can't seem to get rid of Thai's "coming at me".

 

And your bs continues.

Thais don't "come at people".

 

7 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

And your bs continues.

Thais don't "come at people".

 

they do walk in the way. If thats what he meant. Not just thailand too but in asia the sidewalks are smaller and they dont move out of the way until they are seemingly inches away from you

15 minutes ago, DrJack54 said:

Just ask a question in English language and they will run. 

You don't need to have a question.. 

One word works

That's an approach. I want invisibility.

I think AN needs an invisible button to disappear insipid threads like this.

1 hour ago, Mark1969 said:

They don't usually say. They just gain my attention through eye contact, facial expression or being to close in personal space. I can just keep walking but the interaction/distraction has already occurred. That's the same as someone asking for something in that it diverts me energy into a distraction I don't want.

 

This isn't about being approached, then, it's simply about being seen.

 

You can't stop people looking at you. You can't literally become invisible. If you can't handle it then you'll need to make adjustments to your lifestyle so that you live a mainly indoors existence.

2 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

I can't seem to get rid of Thai's "coming at me". I have tried various things, like no eye contact, just not responding, responding politely but superficially, not smiling, looking at the phone, etc but nothing seems to work particularly well consistently. Even tried some new age visualization aura shielding stuff.

 

Say "Hello"  politely and keep moving. In a restaurant say "Mai Ow Kap"  and look away.

18 minutes ago, JayClay said:

This isn't about being approached, then, it's simply about being seen.

 

You can't stop people looking at you. You can't literally become invisible. If you can't handle it then you'll need to make adjustments to your lifestyle so that you live a mainly indoors existence.

Probably not 100%. There are spycraft techniques people use to remain largely invisible, go around unnoticed, etc. That's what I was getting at. A grey man theory, but just the mental stuff, not so much clothing, etc.

 

Usually that's about blending in, acting as normal as possible and not being remembered. I wanted to take it a step further and not be noticed at all.

5 minutes ago, Mark1969 said:

Probably not 100%. There are spycraft techniques people use to remain largely invisible, go around unnoticed, etc. That's what I was getting at. A grey man theory, but just the mental stuff, not so much clothing, etc.

 

You should probably search out a spycraft techniques forum, then. I don't know why you'd expect to find people here who have experience with such like. Unless, of course, you've been speaking to a few of the ex-SAS dudes who hang out on bars and are hoping they are also members of this forum?

3 minutes ago, JayClay said:

 

You should probably search out a spycraft techniques forum, then. I don't know why you'd expect to find people here who have experience with such like. Unless, of course, you've been speaking to a few of the ex-SAS dudes who hang out on bars and are hoping they are also members of this forum?

There are people out there that just seem do it naturally. It's not a training issue for them.

"Coming at you "really ,never experienced that before , well only

on the roads , but never just walking around .

 

regards worgeordie

43 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

And your bs continues.

Thais don't "come at people".

 

Actually, Mark asked a good question.

 

I recently moved to my girlfriend's house, from Pattaya South, to a 100% Thai community on the outskirts of Pattaya. It is a Thai housing community of about 6000 people (my rough estimate). They are mostly working-class people with families. Basically, it's where the Thai people who work in Pattaya live. I haven't seen any bar girls who live here, as they prefer to live closer to the action. I'm not joking when I say I might see a foreigner or two every week. Very few live here, yet I'm only 5km from Terminal 21 or Pattaya Klang.

 

When I first arrived, I didn't know how to behave. Should I be greeting all the neighbours I meet in the corridors and car park? Would they view me as unfriendly if I didn't and become hostile toward me?... so I asked my girl how to behave. She said she hardly talks to anyone at all, including the close neighbours, and that's normal Thai behaviour. She doesn't look at them or talk to them, so I followed her advice. I do greet some here and there, but no one has "come at me" or tried to start a conversation. I'm just behaving the Thai way, and they seem to accept it. It's going on 5 months now, and I live here very peacefully, minding my own business.

 

I rented a room 2km from where I live to set up my home gym. I ride there every day to exercise, passing by farms and rice fields. It's a very different life from living in Pattaya Central, where I lived for 20 years. At the room where my gym is located, it's the same thing. I don't talk to neighbours, and they don't talk to me. If eyes meet, I greet them, and that's it.

 

 

15 minutes ago, Mark1969 said:

There are people out there that just seem do it naturally. It's not a training issue for them.

Maybe but if they are this type, I would guess they are comfortable in their own skin.  It seems you may have insecurity issues and lack the confidence to be seen.  Would it not be easier to solve why you want to be invisible and alter yourself so you don't need to be invisible?

One does not BECOME invisible.

 

One just IS invisible.

 

15 minutes ago, JensenZ said:

Actually, Mark asked a good question.

 

I recently moved to my girlfriend's house, from Pattaya South, to a 100% Thai community on the outskirts of Pattaya. It is a Thai housing community of about 6000 people (my rough estimate). They are mostly working-class people with families. Basically, it's where the Thai people who work in Pattaya live. I haven't seen any bar girls who live here, as they prefer to live closer to the action. I'm not joking when I say I might see a foreigner or two every week. Very few live here, yet I'm only 5km from Terminal 21 or Pattaya Klang.

 

When I first arrived, I didn't know how to behave. Should I be greeting all the neighbours I meet in the corridors and car park? Would they view me as unfriendly if I didn't and become hostile toward me?... so I asked my girl how to behave. She said she hardly talks to anyone at all, including the close neighbours, and that's normal Thai behaviour. She doesn't look at them or talk to them, so I followed her advice. I do greet some here and there, but no one has "come at me" or tried to start a conversation. I'm just behaving the Thai way, and they seem to accept it. It's going on 5 months now, and I live here very peacefully, minding my own business.

 

I rented a room 2km from where I live to set up my home gym. I ride there every day to exercise, passing by farms and rice fields. It's a very different life from living in Pattaya Central, where I lived for 20 years. At the room where my gym is located, it's the same thing. I don't talk to neighbours, and they don't talk to me. If eyes meet, I greet them, and that's it.

That's one thing I forgot to mention. Thai's don't seem to do it with other Thai's in a lot of situations. It's more just incognito interactions.

 

I have suspected for some time that I'm doing something to elicit the approach in some way that other people don't get.

 

For example, perhaps I'm vibing an avoidance which causes others to approach because they feel I need something, need help, or whatever. Or, they know I speak english and they don't so they get nervous about me being there, so it sends off a weird connection about a possible question or something.

2 hours ago, KhunLA said:

my mee baht

 

I think you meant....

 

Mei Mi Baht.

 

My and Mei are not equal (meaning equivalent).

 

26 minutes ago, Mark1969 said:

There are people out there that just seem do it naturally. 

 

...how could you possibly know that?

Unless they are beggars or hookers, I cannot think of ever being approached.

And, in Bangkok if not in lower Sukhumvit never approached.

3 hours ago, Mark1969 said:

Any expats here who are not approached by Thai people much in daily life but still live in a densely populated area?

 

Please post tips on how you behave, interact or not, etc. Things I can do if I just want to be left alone in peace. I can avoid foreigners most of the time with avoidance body language, but the cues don't seem to work with Thai's.

 

I can't seem to get rid of Thai's "coming at me". I have tried various things, like no eye contact, just not responding, responding politely but superficially, not smiling, looking at the phone, etc but nothing seems to work particularly well consistently. Even tried some new age visualization aura shielding stuff.

 

The best technique so far is staring at the phone and not responding, but I can't do that all the time. Trying to avoid people is actually making it worse...??

 

Sorry if the post seems a tad anti-social...

If everyone ignored you I bet you would be complaining.