10 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

I never found any correlation between how they danced and enthusiasm in bed.

I normally found the energetic ones at work were burnt out by the end of the evening and morphed into starfish. 

8 hours ago, Tagged said:

I feel for the dogs, 

There’s a law against that. 

On 11/19/2020 at 5:33 PM, 2long said:

Maybe I'm just a boring old fart, or scared of screwing my life up for a quick jump.... but I don't play offside... although the temptation is always there in this fine land!

 

As far back as I can remember, I have always wanted to have sex with other women even when I was younger, e.g. at age 21 not bragging I was enjoying myself with 3 girls, not all at once, that would have been great, although I did get to experience that later in life here, 2 not three, don't think I could handle three later in life.

 

The above said, when I met my wife here, I told her upfront how I saw life, marriage and sex, and I am sorry to rub salt into your wounds, but your only as old as those you feel, and even at 60, eating extra cake has been great for the past 14 years, you see, I never wanted to have regrets in life, and marriages fall apart all the time because of all sorts of circumstances, cheating is one of the biggest, and although I was faithful in my first marriage of 12 years, I wanted extra cake, but suffered for not having it, however I have learnt with the tight partner, you can both overcome your infidelities, unfortunately society has taught us that marriage is sacred and you must not stray, well that in itself has made a lot of people cheat, but for those that can be upfront and have the right partner to understand, then you wouldn't have any regrets and be able to eat your cake as I have been.

 

It's not about how I would feel if she also played the field, naturally it is a mutual thing, but this was always about me being truthful to who I am and how my makeup is, I mean why do you feel the way you feel when you see other women, we are no different to dogs, same applies to females, so I know when I sleep with another female, it is accepted by my wife, because it's just sex, nothing more, and I don't have to feel guilty, yes a lot of females wouldn't accept what she accepts, but there are those that do, suffice to say the armchair critics can say what they want, they are entitled to it, as I am to entitled to enjoy my life the way I want with my wife's understanding.

 

As for up eating cake on the side, well as the Thai's say:

 

On 11/19/2020 at 5:33 PM, 2long said:

Many of us are fellas, living and married in Thailand.

 

Married and living in Thailand???   ????

 

<deleted> that, life's too short!!!

1 hour ago, Nemises said:

 

Married and living in Thailand???   ????

 

<deleted> that, life's too short!!!

Some live and learn early in life, and know the chasing is just a repeat of everything you have done before. When you get to that point, some earlier than later, it is quite comfortable to find a partner you can live with for life, if not, at least longer period of life with joy, instead of think you loosing out. 

 

It is Like going to the pub with your fellas, and realize you have done this for years, and not a single thing have changed. The same beer, the same stories, and the same girls, just different clothes and shapes. 

 

Theres is so many more layers to life than just that! Some already know, some will never know. Who do you want to be? 

49 minutes ago, Tagged said:

Some live and learn early in life, and know the chasing is just a repeat of everything you have done before

I rather repeat same act on different ones than repeat it on same one forever

51 minutes ago, Tagged said:

The same beer, the same stories, and the same girls, just different clothes and shapes. 

The same beer, the same stories, same clothes, just different girls in different shapes. 

3 hours ago, Nemises said:

 

Married and living in Thailand???   ????

 

<deleted> that, life's too short!!!

Life is too short to deplete one of the great every day pleasures with a coat of plastic. Prefer natural with my wife

2 hours ago, pattayadude said:

I rather repeat same act on different ones than repeat it on same one forever

Agreed.

 

Variety is the spice of life...

1 hour ago, Nemises said:

Agreed.

 

Variety is the spice of life...

For those who do not carry the ability to create and sustain a rewarding long term relationship, variety is a way of life

Reported offensive remark/post removed.

3 hours ago, 473geo said:

For those who do not carry the ability to create and sustain a rewarding long term relationship, variety is a way of life

And a road to the divorce court and or hospital!

On 11/19/2020 at 10:45 PM, BangkokReady said:

Perhaps, but, as all human beings are a product of nature, isn't murder, torture, rape, incest, paedophilia, etc., all natural too?

 

I understand the X is natural/unnatural, so we should/shouldn't do it argument, but sometimes it's a case of "it may be natural, but that doesn't make it right".

No. Animals other than humans ( with the exception of cats ) to my knowledge only kill to eat or defend. Animals other than humans have systems to avoid incest because that imparts genetic defects.

only idiots think that they are cheating when screwing another one, it's so ridiculous to even feel guilty.

 

I actually know few happy married foreigners here let alone both of them being loyal. In some cases the guy doesn't but then the wife does hehe.

 

Enough ways to have discrete fun outside though.

For me you left off the most important reason for not cheating on your wife, because you love her, the reason you married her in the first place, obviously too many think with their little head over here as can be seen daily in what many posters write. If you are single its fine to play the field as many of us have  but once you make a commitment and marry someone you love(or did you marry for convenience) its supposed to stop, to be honest I find your reasons your reasons pretty pathetic

6 minutes ago, seajae said:

For me you left off the most important reason for not cheating on your wife, because you love her, the reason you married her in the first place

I doubt most Thai girls and wives agree with you on that, unless you loving the bank account and benefits counts too lol.

1. Family
2. Money
3. Friends
4. Others

5. Husband

8 minutes ago, ChaiyaTH said:

I doubt most Thai girls and wives agree with you on that, unless you loving the bank account and benefits counts too lol.

1. Family
2. Money
3. Friends
4. Others

5. Husband

I think that you are correct about that ...guess me ( married nearly 20 years now and we have lived both in the UK and here) and a few others have been very fortunate ........................bad luck mate if you are not one of them ....of course YMMV  ????

23 minutes ago, JAS21 said:

I think that you are correct about that ...guess me ( married nearly 20 years now and we have lived both in the UK and here) and a few others have been very fortunate ........................bad luck mate if you are not one of them ....of course YMMV  ????

I'd rather say it is good luck as I keep my money and freedom. There is no shortage of fish in the sea.

17 hours ago, seajae said:

For me you left off the most important reason for not cheating on your wife, because you love her, the reason you married her in the first place, obviously too many think with their little head over here as can be seen daily in what many posters write. If you are single its fine to play the field as many of us have  but once you make a commitment and marry someone you love(or did you marry for convenience) its supposed to stop, to be honest I find your reasons your reasons pretty pathetic

 

It's possible to love someone and have sex with someone else. Sex is not love, IMO, though having sex with someone that one loves makes it better.

On 11/19/2020 at 10:03 PM, pattayadude said:

normally you meet a girl/woman who later becomes wife.If my girl had plans to circumcise me against my will and she shared this with me, she'd be my ex-girl, not future wife

She has no plans to do it, the plans would be mine to get it done to myself if I cheat. Big difference. I’ve done a little research and it’s not uncommon in Southeast Asia including Philippines for some women to do this to unfaithful spouses. I’m not sure if she really would or not, but I don’t plan to cheat so it doesn’t matter. If you think you might cheat, then like you say, better make her your ex.

On 11/20/2020 at 6:15 PM, federico said:

I never cheated on my Thaï wife, we are married 10 years now....

the reason why ?

I dont say i am not tempted (mostly When i am in Thailand) but She just doesn’t deserve it, i merely cannot imagine myself in bed with an other woman.

the story was much different concerning My ex farang wife. She deserved to be cheated, and god knows She got what She deserved.... ????

cheers

Fred 

Maybe you should try a katoey..... 555

On 11/23/2020 at 5:53 PM, fordguy61mi said:

She has no plans to do it, the plans would be mine to get it done to myself if I cheat. Big difference. I’ve done a little research and it’s not uncommon in Southeast Asia including Philippines for some women to do this to unfaithful spouses. I’m not sure if she really would or not, but I don’t plan to cheat so it doesn’t matter. If you think you might cheat, then like you say, better make her your ex.

but I don’t plan to cheat so it doesn’t matter...... Most people cheating didn't plan.  55555

Wish I'd read this thread before going out last Friday.

33 minutes ago, Surelynot said:

Wish I'd read this thread before going out last Friday.

I'd have no problem cheating with your wife when you're out.

5 hours ago, talahtnut said:

I'd have no problem cheating with your wife when you're out.

5555....make sure you stump up the cash.

18 hours ago, jomtienisgood said:

Maybe you should try a katoey..... 555

why? have you tried?

On 11/19/2020 at 2:33 PM, 2long said:

My reasons for not doing so (in addition to the main one which goes without saying) are as follows...

 

- if the other girl is single, and pretty. Why is she single? Is she a nutjob? 

let's say the "other girl" is an 19yo. most 19 year olds are single because they are just too young.and single, and available. and very fresh. I like the way you justify being married. but your "nutjob" excuse won't fly for a little side fun of infidelity

5 hours ago, pattayadude said:

why? have you tried?

Would you like the phone # ?

5 hours ago, pattayadude said:

why? have you tried?

 

Havnt we all?