My girlfriend/wife is 35 years younger.......

[Carlotta]

My girlfriend/wife is 35 years younger than me.... someone posted that a few days ago. It sounded pretty proud. But what can he be proud of? Has he ever thought about what it would be like to be with a woman who is 35 years older than him? Why does this man think the woman is with him? Because she loves his big belly so much? Or his wrinkles? Or his bad teeth? This woman has a financial interest and is playing her part. She may have a husband, her family and several children to look after. And the man? Buys a partner to escape being alone. Maybe he's already part of the leftover ramp? And what kind of image of man is being spread here? Is it all about sex and not about a lasting, resilient partnership? Does the man I described above think his lady will be happy if he has sex with her for a few minutes every few days under the influence of Cialis and can feel his smelly breath? I was born in Italy and I miss respect in this forum. There is hardly any discussion, everyone thinks their opinion is the only right one. Other opinion holders are denigrated and dragged into the mud. Why is that? Is it because of the origin of the members? Are the majority from the UK? Old, bitter, disappointed? There are about the same number of Germans in Thailand. I'm not treated so rudely by them. Maybe they come from a different background. So, dear members: Respect! Women are not sex objects!

 

 

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[transam]

Why are you concerned.......? 🤔

[OneMoreFarang]

You sound jealous.

 

What is your problem when a guy has a young gf?

She made that decision. And if she doesn't like it, then she can walk away. What's the problem?

 

Ah, Carlotta, that sound like a female name. Yes, I understand it is hard for you when the guy prefer young sexy Thai girls and not you. So sad.

[Dolf]

I would marry a rich old woman. Why not? 

[Woof999]

19 minutes ago, Carlotta said:

Has he ever thought about what it would be like to be with a woman who is 35 years older than him?

 

Why would he? He's not.

[stoner]

who are you to judge two consenting adults ? also. what if she is 50 and he is 85 ? 

[noobexpat]

If she's a looker ...some old boys get paranoid ...when a younger, wealthier, funnier guy like me starts chatting to them and you can see they want to trade up 😃

[Ben Zioner]

Rant.

[Mavideol]

35 minutes ago, Carlotta said:

My girlfriend/wife is 35 years younger than me.... someone posted that a few days ago. It sounded pretty proud. But what can he be proud of? Has he ever thought about what it would be like to be with a woman who is 35 years older than him? Why does this man think the woman is with him? Because she loves his big belly so much? Or his wrinkles? Or his bad teeth? This woman has a financial interest and is playing her part. She may have a husband, her family and several children to look after. And the man? Buys a partner to escape being alone. Maybe he's already part of the leftover ramp? And what kind of image of man is being spread here? Is it all about sex and not about a lasting, resilient partnership? Does the man I described above think his lady will be happy if he has sex with her for a few minutes every few days under the influence of Cialis and can feel his smelly breath? I was born in Italy and I miss respect in this forum. There is hardly any discussion, everyone thinks their opinion is the only right one. Other opinion holders are denigrated and dragged into the mud. Why is that? Is it because of the origin of the members? Are the majority from the UK? Old, bitter, disappointed? There are about the same number of Germans in Thailand. I'm not treated so rudely by them. Maybe they come from a different background. So, dear members: Respect! Women are not sex objects!

 

 

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what's your point... by any chance are you related to the "someone" guy who posted it..... jealousy it's a bittersweet 

[Keeps]

18 minutes ago, noobexpat said:

If she's a looker ...some old boys get paranoid ...when a younger, wealthier, funnier guy like me starts chatting to them and you can see they want to trade up 😃

Funny in what way? Funny to look at?

[Lacessit]

There's a Thai saying, old cattle prefer young grass.

Contrary to the OP's opinion, it's possible to form a lasting relationship with someone much younger.

There are quite a few men in Australia who are saddled with women their age. The women have aged badly.

They are petrified at the prospect of a split, where the woman will take half the assets quite legally.

No one can tell me such a relationship is healthy.

 

[bkk6060]

30 years difference is my minimum.

The west has brainwashed people to think it is wrong or bad.  No law against it with adults, just the jealous judgemental thinking of many westerners especially females who are old and alone mostly due to their fat and poor attitudes. 

[Lemsta69]

Troll.

[NoDisplayName]

1 hour ago, Carlotta said:

My girlfriend/wife is 35 years younger than me....

 

Shouldn't be a concern.  If the person is on a valid retirement visa, he (or she!) is in compliance with Thailand's age of consent.

 

[NativeBob]

in ancient china that was considered as "extension of life". 

if he is 55 and she is 20 >>> why not? 

[Ralf001]

32 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

There's a Thai saying, old cattle prefer young grass.

Contrary to the OP's opinion, it's possible to form a lasting relationship with someone much younger.

There are quite a few men in Australia who are saddled with women their age. The women have aged badly.

They are petrified at the prospect of a split, where the woman will take half the assets quite legally.

No one can tell me such a relationship is healthy.

 

 

Ive a mate who drops his wife off to school then gets on the tins with his mates all day.

[save the frogs]

33 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

There's a Thai saying, old cattle prefer young grass.

Contrary to the OP's opinion, it's possible to form a lasting relationship with someone much younger.

There are quite a few men in Australia who are saddled with women their age. The women have aged badly.

They are petrified at the prospect of a split, where the woman will take half the assets quite legally.

No one can tell me such a relationship is healthy.

 

 

But that has more to do with laws in the west.

If you marry a much younger girl in the west, there's a high chance she might abuse the system and dump you and take half you crap. 

 

[jak2002003]

34 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

There's a Thai saying, old cattle prefer young grass.

Contrary to the OP's opinion, it's possible to form a lasting relationship with someone much younger.

There are quite a few men in Australia who are saddled with women their age. The women have aged badly.

They are petrified at the prospect of a split, where the woman will take half the assets quite legally.

No one can tell me such a relationship is healthy.

 

So....the women age badly....but the Aussie men look so fit and handsome? 

 

These days both men and women work...both will have paid for the house, cars, bringing up kids etc...then at say 20 years of marriage, you don't agree with splitting assets half and half if there is a relationship breakdown? 

 

How would u feel if the boot was on the other foot?  Your wife leaving you for a young gold digging Asian man from a poor country, while she spends all your money on him, and leaves you with nothing?  All because you don't look as sexy as you did 30 years ago? 

 

 

 

 

[Elkski]

It is a good OP post to discuss.  

One must consider how much preconceived notions or brainwashing affect our thinking.  

Many westerners are brought up thinking we  are supposed to meet someone of similar age ( maybe the female 2-4 years younger) and get married in mid to late 20's, after college and landing a respectable job.   Buy a house, have 2.2 kids, send all kids to college, so at 55-60 the kids are gone and it's an empty nest.  Hopefully you have saved a nest egg and can retire and then live and die together with your 1 life long partner.    

Any deviation from this entire checklist is considered failure. 

Now lets look at the economics.   In that traditional life the couple are both on the poor end of the economic ladder, all the expenses of a home, raising children, college, etc.  really not lots of money left to enjoy their life between the womans age of 25-60.  Not lots of time to dedicate to sexual enjoyment so men being young and selfish!, I'm sure many womens needs are not fulfilled whether they know or not. I admit my/our guilt. 

Or consider the young woman  who has an older man who has financially made it at say 55 and she is much younger.   

This man will be much more keen to sexually fulfill her needs Cialis or not.  Actually much less need for Cialis when the woman is young, fit, with  smooth  skin  and a hard body.  His skills in the bedroom should be able to rock her World and why not do it every other day?  They have money for a maid, going out ro dinner or I guess these days delivered food, nice clothes, vacations, better schooling if children, nicer cars, travel   all while the woman is young and can really enjoy these things.  Most men should be able to perform well into 80's so the gal has had a full sexual life until her natural desire wanes.  I forgot to talk about this sexual desire mismatch in the traditional equal age case  above. Most Women have an instinctive ability or desire to care for people when they get older.   So the woman outlives the man in both cases usually but in this case she will be closer to 55 or 65 and can enjoy financial security for her remaining life.  Maybe not even to late to find a new partner like the OP.  Haha. 

 

Edited March 18 by Elkski

[SAFETY FIRST]

1 hour ago, Carlotta said:

My girlfriend/wife is 35 years younger than me.... someone posted that a few days ago. It sounded pretty proud. But what can he be proud of? Has he ever thought about what it would be like to be with a woman who is 35 years older than him? Why does this man think the woman is with him? Because she loves his big belly so much? Or his wrinkles? Or his bad teeth? This woman has a financial interest and is playing her part. She may have a husband, her family and several children to look after. And the man? Buys a partner to escape being alone. Maybe he's already part of the leftover ramp? And what kind of image of man is being spread here? Is it all about sex and not about a lasting, resilient partnership? Does the man I described above think his lady will be happy if he has sex with her for a few minutes every few days under the influence of Cialis and can feel his smelly breath? I was born in Italy and I miss respect in this forum. There is hardly any discussion, everyone thinks their opinion is the only right one. Other opinion holders are denigrated and dragged into the mud. Why is that? Is it because of the origin of the members? Are the majority from the UK? Old, bitter, disappointed? There are about the same number of Germans in Thailand. I'm not treated so rudely by them. Maybe they come from a different background. So, dear members: Respect! Women are not sex objects!

 

 

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Don't believe everything you read on AN forums. 

 

Lots of story tellers, playwrights and screenwriters here. 

 

A few of the members have a Phd in Creative writing 

 

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[sirineou]

Fourth post and you lead in with this! 

You gonna fit fine here . Welcome to the forum . 

Unless..... 

[bunnydrops]

There is a woman's side Locally, her much older husband died. Left her a nice house and a bit of money. She is nearly 55, not the beauty she was 30 years ago when she met him. She is very lonely. The only men she can attract now are looking more at the house and the swimming pool than at her. A very good chance she will live the rest of her life alone. Thai women worry a lot about that outcome.

[Doctor Tom]

1 hour ago, Carlotta said:

Because she loves his big belly so much? Or his wrinkles? Or his bad teeth? This woman has a financial interest and is playing her part.

Brad Pitt is nearly 60.  So he could go out with a 25 year old and be criticized by the OP.  Yeh, right mate, you should be so lucky.  

[Elkski]

6 minutes ago, sirineou said:

Fourth post and you lead in with this! 

You gonna fit fine here . Welcome to the forum . 

Unless..... 

Maybe he is considering things, realizing there is a whole World full of women.  And much younger is an option.   Its only 16/17 years for us but I see the looks from Western  men with same age wives.  It happens  when we are USA or Thailand.  

 

And my teeth are just fine, and I dont think I stink or have bad breath more than I did 40 years ago   in fact we learn what our bodies need have plenty of time for personal hygiene.  And  also older men cook better, have mastered so many skills in life so life overall goes so much smoother.   For the woman its like living with a teacher of life.  And for a Thai woman married to an older Western man it's like a hyper jump

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[Hummin]

Every marriage is an arrangement one way or the other.

 

An 35 years younger wife I would consider being a nurse with benefits if the man is 70+ with bad health. 

 

I met a skydiver who had a 50 year younger Phillippina gf, he paid her education to become a nurse. True

[Hummin]

4 minutes ago, Doctor Tom said:

Brad Pitt is nearly 60.  So he could go out with a 25 year old and be criticized by the OP.  Yeh, right mate, you should be so lucky.  

Not everyone is Brad Pit, even some believe they are,  when walking around in red light districts 

[sirineou]

1 minute ago, Elkski said:

Maybe he is considering things, realizing there is a whole World full of women.  And much younger is an option.   Its only 16/17 years for us but I see the looks from Western  men with same age wives.  It happens  when we are USA or Thailand.  

close to the same age difference as you.

If I had to do it over again, I would chose a wife closer to my age, 

In general man die earlier than women, add to that the age difference.... 

The thought that one day , long before her, I will die and leave her alone disturbs me .

[Nick Carter icp]

You are ruining the woman's life , she likely to be  widow at 45 years old , past it and unable to reproduce and find another husband and no work experience and then will be banging felangs cheaply hoping one of them will marry her  

[Elkski]

1 minute ago, sirineou said:

close to the same age difference as you.

If I had to do it over again, I would chose a wife closer to my age, 

In general man die earlier than women, add to that the age difference.... 

The thought that one day , long before her, I will die and leave her alone disturbs me .

But it usually happens that the woman outlives the man if equal in age.   Seems like more options left for a 60 -70 yr old than a 80 year old widow.  

[Nick Carter icp]

9 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Every marriage is an arrangement one way or the other.

 

An 35 years younger wife I would consider being a nurse with benefits if the man is 70+ with bad health. 

 

I met a skydiver who had a 50 year younger Phillippina gf, he paid her education to become a nurse. True

 

   You can get that arrangement with students in Thailand , you be banging them whilst paying to get them through Uni , its quite common in Thailand as well