Wasnt greener on the "other side"was it !

[Henryford]

Covid is a bit of a bummer but life is still good here. If he wants depressing he should try Doncaster UK on a wet night in January.

[1FinickyOne]

1 hour ago, georgegeorgia said:

But as the saying goes ...."it aint always greener on the other side "

So, the guy is a braggert and reality hits like a popped balloon,,, with no young ladies to call handsome man when he walks past.. [some guys do actually believe it]

 

sorry but he does not sound like a charming guy in the best of times...

 

 

[1FinickyOne]

56 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

of course you always have your pet dogs to keep you company...i should of suggested that to MICK

naw, much better to trash your friend on a public forum... 

[Gottfrid]

41 minutes ago, worgeordie said:

In the 35 years of living here I have never been to Pattaya

That must be an impossible mission for most people. Is there any reason you have avoided that city? I mean, a visit can be made by everyone. If you like it or not, is another ball game.

[mickyr55]

56 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

It aint life, cirucunstances or geography thats the problem, its your attitude toward it.

If aint right, fix it, dont rely on others to do it for you.

 

 

Agree with you completely loneliness is a state of mind I am happy in company of others equally I am happy in my own company I have been here 3 years now 30 months of which I was with a partner but after living alone previously I am by my choice on my own again here in Thailand, and very happy to be so, I don't get lonely in my own company, things could certainly be better than the current situation, but its what it is at the moment, I ain't crying about it. 

[bendejo]

2 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

i want to go back to Australia and work back with you guys"...i miss work "

he then kept asking about people at work..."hows tim going ? etc etc.....then asking about minute types of things at work eg, "are they watering my pot plants that i had near my desk?

He now has all the time in the world, and he would prefer to spend it back at his job.  Hmm...

The phrase I've heard Americans use too often is live like a king.  It means having a maid to clean up your mess and being able to drink all day.  That last one can get ugly depending on circumstances.

 

 

Edited August 10, 2021 by bendejo

[Denim]

2 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

But as the saying goes ...."it aint always greener on the other side "

OP's friend sound like the archetypical loser. Manages to tread in dog poo and fall in the mud wherever he finds himself. 

Meanwhile, the OP is getting all the female company he can handle :

 

 

 

[bobandyson]

I had relatives who returned back to England after living in Spain for several years and remember them saying. "It's one thing to go somewhere for a holiday but it's entirely different to go and live there."

 

So I remembered that advice when I first went to my wife's village in Nakhon Phanom and I was in a "Wow!! I want to live here the rest of my life" phase. So I gave myself a year of living there before deciding whether to buy land and then build a house. After only 3-4 months of living there I realised it wasn't the life for me. Nor did I want to live in the heart of Bangkok when I found work there. I rented a townhouse in a muuban on the outskirts of BKK for over a year and realised I'd found what I was looking for. The village was surrounded (at the time) by green fields and was on the city's doorstep. A nice fusion of up-country and big city living. 

 

Since then I've known a handful of guys who've tried to settle down here only to end up pulling up stakes and returning to their homeland. Whether for them they decided to leave in a bout of jadedness or they've had personal problems back home, I'll never know. But for those who think about pulling up roots back home and coming here to live I'd advise them to do a trial run first. Try long holidays first, i.e. months at a time instead of a couple of weeks here or a couple of weeks there. And never burn any bridges if you can help it. They'll burn themselves over time.

 

 

 

Edited August 10, 2021 by bobandyson

[phetphet]

Loneliness can be a killer for people that can't handle being by themselves. And being stuck in a small studio staring at four walls can't be great for his mood.

Even in these strange times with no tourists and everything shut, there are things to do. Even for a barfly. But it's up to the individual to either get out there and do something about it, or seek help. Staring at the bottom of a glass is not the answer.

There must be a lot of expats in the same boat, and not just in Pattaya. All looking for friendship or a bit of company.

Edited August 10, 2021 by phetphet

[worgeordie]

3 hours ago, Gottfrid said:

That must be an impossible mission for most people. Is there any reason you have avoided that city? I mean, a visit can be made by everyone. If you like it or not, is another ball game.

Pattaya is usually the first destination for Farangs getting off the plane,

Don't know why I haven't made it there, been all over the North , North East,

Middle, the South, and Islands. I don't drink alcohol , or hang around in

bars, I have not really avoided Pattaya ,might get there one day and I am

sure I will marvel at all the attractions I didn't know I was missing ????

regards Worgeordie

[Gottfrid]

18 minutes ago, worgeordie said:

Pattaya is usually the first destination for Farangs getting off the plane,

Don't know why I haven't made it there, been all over the North , North East,

Middle, the South, and Islands. I don't drink alcohol , or hang around in

bars, I have not really avoided Pattaya ,might get there one day and I am

sure I will marvel at all the attractions I didn't know I was missing ????

regards Worgeordie

Actually, there are some places to see but not so many. I have never been much for Pattaya either, but been there a couple of times. Especially, like you say, in the early days of travelling to Thailand. I do drink, so I am probably getting more out of a visit than you. However, if that is in a good or bad way can be left to consider and dwell about in the early morning. ???? 

 

Thing that you might consider visiting if you make your trip can be The Sanctuary of Truth, The Stone Park, Crocodile Farm and Jomtien Night Market. Anyway, for that to be a good experience things have to go back to normal first. Now it´s just better to stay put and enjoy the garden. ???? 

[Gottfrid]

4 hours ago, FritsSikkink said:

Find your friends in other places than bars.

What? It´s the only place I go to.

[Kwasaki]

6 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

But as the saying goes ...."it aint always greener on the other side "

So your in Australia talking about someone in Pattaya, that is Soooo funny. 

[473geo]

25 minutes ago, Gottfrid said:

What? It´s the only place I go to.

Must be quite few guys who read the opening post, thinking he got something wrong somewhere! For sure no matter where you are in the world not having the need to get up to go to work, is great start to the day.

[VocalNeal]

6 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

But as the saying goes ...."it aint always greener on the other side "

I think technically as far as Pattaya is concerned "It is greener on the Darkside"

[rumak]

6 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

But as the saying goes ...."it aint always greener on the other side "

As others have said.... he's only one person.   the saying "no matter where you go,  you will always find yourself"   might be appropriate ????

so georgie,  take a good look in the mirror before you decide to come here....... 

[madmen]

Oz is a <deleted> hole for elderly single men. I hope he enjoys playing lawn bowls ????

[OneMoreFarang]

5 hours ago, tonray said:

I've got a girlfriend who doesn't mind having my guitars hanging on the living room wall in her house...you just can't get that in America

I always think it's funny when I read or hear what some girlfriends allow their sponsor to do.

And this is not about how many other girls he can have - I understand that is a difficult conversation.

 

But if I want to hang guitars or electronic parts or flowers or motorcycles on my walls it is entirely up to me. If my gf doesn't like it she may tell me that she doesn't like it. So what?

Why do so many guys need to ask their girlfriends about these little things?

If she doesn't like it then she should look for another sponsor. That concept is easy enough to understand.

 

[tonray]

2 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I always think it's funny when I read or hear what some girlfriends allow their sponsor to do.

And this is not about how many other girls he can have - I understand that is a difficult conversation.

 

But if I want to hang guitars or electronic parts or flowers or motorcycles on my walls it is entirely up to me. If my gf doesn't like it she may tell me that she doesn't like it. So what?

Why do so many guys need to ask their girlfriends about these little things?

If she doesn't like it then she should look for another sponsor. That concept is easy enough to understand.

 

Thanks for a truly idiotic response. Your use of the word sponsor tells a lot about your demeanor and how you view relationships as transactional events. Grow up a bit you might find a real GF who you don't need to pay off.

[OneMoreFarang]

2 minutes ago, tonray said:

Thanks for a truly idiotic response. Your use of the word sponsor tells a lot about your demeanor and how you view relationships as transactional events. Grow up a bit you might find a real GF who you don't need to pay off.

I guess you are one of the smart guys who would never every pay for female company. You probably married a grown up women and have kids with her. And then one day when she walk away and wants at least half of everything then maybe you will realize that you paid a lot more than others.

Or to quote a friend who was once married: Leasing is a lot cheaper than buying.

[Liverpool Lou]

6 hours ago, Gottfrid said:

7 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

Now the "Poor B" is sitting and wallowing in a studio apartment in Jomtien by himself ,im thinking he might even neck himself.

Let us all remember that you are talking about a friend. To me it seems like you should consider how much of a friend you really are to him.

...and he could well be reading this very specific and unsympathetic information posted by his "friend"!    As the saying goes, "with friends like you..."

[ivor bigun]

I must admit living in a tiny studio all on your own must be <deleted> ,but ,i bet he would be in the same boat if he went back ,except it would be lots more expensive ,cold half the time and like many pensioners who live alone lonley .

i am glad we live here now ,was talking to my daughter last  night ,she said they had a great Thai take away ,74 pounds for three.

well we had a great takeaway last night about a fiver at most, we live in a detached house(ours) not a terrace like back home in the UK with a large garden ,drive a car ,cheap petrol,cheap servicing ,its warm and we go for walks by the seaside here in Pattaya ,where would i prefere to be? yes here .

[Boarn]

Wasnt greener on the "other side"was it !

Yes it was

 

[pgrahmm]

1 hour ago, 473geo said:

Must be quite few guys who read the opening post, thinking he got something wrong somewhere! For sure no matter where you are in the world not having the need to get up to go to work, is great start to the day.

Took me about a year to deprogram myself from the "rush" of life & the drive/guilt of not going to work....I didn't really miss anyone or anything about work - just the hardwired response that I HAD to get up and go....Work had never been a centerpiece of my life, but it still took a period of time to make the adjustment.....

Fortunately, I got myself out & about taking on new challenges...

Something a little more difficult to do taking in today's environment....

I never was a bar goer, so was never surrounded by, or beholden to that crowd....

Hopefully Mick can do something, even if mundane like power walking or bike riding away from people, just to see the outside, the sun, wind, sea.....Mild exercise at home = something to break up his routine of nothingness....

We have people we haven't, can't see + a university sweetheart of a daughter that wants to come home for holiday - wife says nope = no safety.... Don't know the who, what, wear of her interactions....

 

Unfortunately, we're stuck with the temperamental, flighty, bratty-ish daughter in house - unfortunately - I can't trade them..

Mick's going to have to make some positive changes & weather the storm....

 

[VocalNeal]

50 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I guess you are one of the smart guys who would never every pay for female company.

DIY is OK but sometimes it is good to hire a professional?

[473geo]

There is a very enjoyable past time - people watching - one of those things anybody can do, in the malls, on the beach, especially sitting alone with a beer in bars. I guess covid has killed that off in the main and could well have created a huge gap in the entertainment schedule of the participants

[OneMoreFarang]

1 hour ago, 473geo said:

There is a very enjoyable past time - people watching - one of those things anybody can do, in the malls, on the beach, especially sitting alone with a beer in bars. I guess covid has killed that off in the main and could well have created a huge gap in the entertainment schedule of the participants

That is obviously a interesting way to spend some time. But to be sure everybody should have some more options than only people watching. 

[ronster]

Hindsight is a marvellous thing . If everything in life worked out as planned and was all hunky dory then it would be a pretty dull life.

Better to have lived a day as a wolf than a week as a sheep !

[Tongjaw]

Mick if he is real is probably a member of TV. I’m sure he will be more depressed that his friend?? in Australia has just posted and gloated about his situation in Thailand.
OP, you hadn’t heard from your friend in a few months. You said he was miserable, depressed and you think he might commit suicide, yet, you callously ended the call early. As the saying goes who needs enemies with friend like you around. 
If this story and the name Mick is real I really hope he doesn’t read this

post.
If your real and you do read it Mick take no notice and stay strong mate. Reach out and if you need a chat drop me a private message. The first thing you should do is delete the OP from your contact list and block him mate. No one needs people like this in their lives.
 

[chicowoodduck]

It all looks like a giant windup to me....????????  Could never figure out why folks get so very bored living by themselves?  Enjoy the moment and be thankful you can be on your own schedule and burp and fart whenever the mood strikes you...life is good, be thankful for every single moment...????????????????????????