Expat dramas

[georgegeorgia]

Just watching YouTube videos of expats in the Philippines fighting each other even though these people were friends for years in that community and all  "cliques" or groups 

 

So whether your a expat in any south east Asia country do you get involved in your expat community?

 

 

Whether it's Bali , Vietnam, Cambodia Thailand or in this case Philippines 

 

This example I used was a smaller city in the Philippines

 

Do you avoid expats?

Have you found them to be great friends 

 

 

 

Edited February 13 by georgegeorgia

[flyingtlger]

7 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

So whether your a expat in any south east Asia country do you get involved in your expat community?

Mind your business. 

It's always safer and good for your health.....

[scubascuba3]

Select the expats you want to socialise and spend time with, most i know are fine, avoid the rest

[save the frogs]

1 hour ago, georgegeorgia said:

Do you avoid expats?

Have you found them to be great friends 

different types of expats.

quality vs non-quality

ask yourself this.

are you a quality expat?

if not, why would other quality expats want to hang out with you?

 

[ezzra]

I can't see that just because those expat lives in the same country they're abided by some kind of conduct code,

people are people everywhere be it living overseas or in their own countries...

[Lacessit]

I associate with other expats via sport.

As for sitting in bars or joining expat clubs to listen to others bitch about the world - hell no. I can do that here.

[BritManToo]

2 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

So whether your a expat in any south east Asia country do you get involved in your expat community?

Never, too many foreigners, I only mix with other Brits.

[AlexRich]

Two old guys swapping punches outside a cafe in Dumaguette over an issue that didn't involve them. 

 

A youngish American guy started a Dive Centre and needed funds for its expansion. Apparently another American retiree (ex Cop) didn't want to invest and (in the opinion of the young guy) tried to put off others from investing. So the young guy was hacked off with him, and bad mouthed him, and his Filipina fiancé.

 

So the young guy's business partner (an old American guy) and the ex Cop's American future brother in law, had a shouting match that turned into handbags at dawn. 

 

Reminds me of an episode of that American comedy classic "Soap".

 

Moral of the story ... avoid Dumaguette and American ex pats. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Nemises]

Reading their 💩 on AN is more than enough. 
 

 

Edited February 13 by Nemises

[KhunLA]

3 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

Do you avoid expats?

Have you found them to be great friends 

Both, but lean toward 'avoid' more recently.  Actually none now, at PKK.   When living at Udon Thani, met a few, and good friends, though 'great' would be a stretch.

 

Even after 15 yrs, how much time have you really spent with someone, as I only met most, once a month, at an expat meet up.   With only a few socializing at theirs or our house.

 

Not a hang out with you or at the bar everyday kind of guy, so no deep relationships here, or even at USA.  

[soalbundy]

I really can't say but any expat who wants to hang out with me must be a loser.

[Jenkins9039]

9 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

Just watching YouTube videos of expats in the Philippines fighting each other even though these people were friends for years in that community and all  "cliques" or groups 

 

So whether your a expat in any south east Asia country do you get involved in your expat community?

 

 

Whether it's Bali , Vietnam, Cambodia Thailand or in this case Philippines 

 

This example I used was a smaller city in the Philippines

 

Do you avoid expats?

Have you found them to be great friends 

 

 

 

Spent years staying out of close relations with Expats, opened up slowly in 2018 and got royally burned, during covid grew closer with the neighbours, one the neighbours wife did some dodgy stuff to her husband and was in the middle of the discussions and heated conversations between his friends and him.

 

Since reverting back away from proximity.

[JimTripper]

 

8 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

Select the expats you want to socialise and spend time with, most i know are fine, avoid the rest

Goes without saying. No reason to associate with people you don't enjoy being around. It's called "adulting".

 

Most of the problems I have encountered revolve around neighbors who I would not get involved with otherwise. People that you can't easily avoid or where there is some commonality that can't just be ignored.

Edited February 14 by JimTripper

[itsari]

I have met many foreigners here living in Thailand and one Californian man I was good friends with . He needed help with getting a visa and I loaned him 25000 to pay an agent . Now 8 months later still no return of the money even though he promised the money back in 2 months.

I do not want to see him again as I don't want any trouble. 

[John Drake]

11 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

Do you avoid expats?

Have you found them to be great friends 

 

I'm anti-social. I avoid everybody.

[Lacessit]

8 minutes ago, itsari said:

I have met many foreigners here living in Thailand and one Californian man I was good friends with . He needed help with getting a visa and I loaned him 25000 to pay an agent . Now 8 months later still no return of the money even though he promised the money back in 2 months.

I do not want to see him again as I don't want any trouble. 

It is always disappointing when you trust someone, and they repay your trust with deceit.

If he needed 25,000 for a visa, odds are pretty good he will need it again when it comes to extension time.

There's only one friend here I trust with money when he is a bit short on cash, and he has always paid me back.

[2baht]

13 minutes ago, itsari said:

I have met many foreigners here living in Thailand and one Californian man I was good friends with . He needed help with getting a visa and I loaned him 25000 to pay an agent . Now 8 months later still no return of the money even though he promised the money back in 2 months.

I do not want to see him again as I don't want any trouble. 

Can you lend me 25,000??? 

[uttradit]

11 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

Just watching YouTube videos of expats in the Philippines fighting each other even though these people were friends for years in that community and all  "cliques" or groups 

 

So whether your a expat in any south east Asia country do you get involved in your expat community?

 

 

Whether it's Bali , Vietnam, Cambodia Thailand or in this case Philippines 

 

This example I used was a smaller city in the Philippines

 

Do you avoid expats?

Have you found them to be great friends 

 

 

 

I just do what I want to do. Don't go looking for guys to drink with. In 90% of Thai cities you don't see many foreigners.

 

If you have a vehicle, woman and a map why do you care about foreigners? 

[G_Money]

49 minutes ago, itsari said:

I have met many foreigners here living in Thailand and one Californian man I was good friends with . He needed help with getting a visa and I loaned him 25000 to pay an agent . Now 8 months later still no return of the money even though he promised the money back in 2 months.

I do not want to see him again as I don't want any trouble. 

 

Sad to hear.  Lesson learned.

 

IMO any expat that can’t come up with 25k baht for his visa or whatever is a major red flag.  
 

A high probability he’s asking others for money for various reasons also.  Avoid these types like the plague.

[scubascuba3]

15 minutes ago, uttradit said:

 

 

If you have a vehicle, woman and a map why do you care about foreigners? 

Some of us have travelled loads already so have moved on from that

[jesimps]

I've turned into your typical elderly grouch. The older I get, the more I enjoy my own company.

[itsari]

1 hour ago, 2baht said:

Can you lend me 25,000??? 

Sure , but you need 30000 deposit

[Prubangboy]

48 minutes ago, G_Money said:

 

 

A high probability he’s asking others for money for various reasons also.  Avoid these types like the plague.

My absolute fave of the 48 Laws of Power:

 

Avoid The Unlucky.

 

 

[JimTripper]

1 hour ago, itsari said:

I have met many foreigners here living in Thailand and one Californian man I was good friends with . He needed help with getting a visa and I loaned him 25000 to pay an agent . Now 8 months later still no return of the money even though he promised the money back in 2 months.

I do not want to see him again as I don't want any trouble. 

No wonder he never paid you back.

[itsari]

Just now, JimTripper said:

No wonder he never paid you back.

Because I don't want trouble I presume you mean.

I would see red looking at him , better to stay away than cause trouble over a relatively small amount of money.

 

[Keeps]

3 hours ago, Kinok Farang said:

As long as you avoid the "septic tanks" the farangs in Thailand are usually ok.

Ruskies and "missing links"too.

If you had included the bogans it would have been the perfect post. 

[JimTripper]

22 minutes ago, itsari said:

Because I don't want trouble I presume you mean.

I would see red looking at him , better to stay away than cause trouble over a relatively small amount of money.

That's not really a small amount, its around $700 usd. Ask that guy nicely next time you see him, maybe he forgot about it, figured you were wealthy and did not care, or was not able to contact you. He could have the money now and just pay you on the spot.

 

A lot of people are not responsible, or just confused and flakey in general, so you have to pester and remind them to do things or it never gets done.

Edited February 14 by JimTripper

[itsari]

2 minutes ago, JimTripper said:

That's not really a small amount, its around $700 usd. Ask that guy nicely next time you see him, maybe he forgot about it, figured you were wealthy and did not care, or was not able to contact you. A lot of people are not responsible and are just flakes in general, you have to pester and remind them to do things.

I agree what you say and I have pestered him with messages that get unanswered.

I simply don't want to set eyes on him 

Yet all the same it was I that offered the money to him,  yet that should not make a difference on repayment.

I have helped the man in other ways when he has asked , but that never involved money, just my time to run him around for different reasons 

Thank you for your reply

[uttradit]

34 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

My absolute fave of the 48 Laws of Power:

 

Avoid The Unlucky.

 

 

He's an intense guy.

[JimTripper]

10 minutes ago, itsari said:

I agree what you say and I have pestered him with messages that get unanswered.

I simply don't want to set eyes on him 

Yet all the same it was I that offered the money to him,  yet that should not make a difference on repayment.

I have helped the man in other ways when he has asked , but that never involved money, just my time to run him around for different reasons 

Thank you for your reply

I assume you don't help everybody you meet. What did you see in this particular person that made you want to help him?