1 hour ago, 2long said:

To me, this thread stinks of a bored troll.

Yes, I've said this before recently, but there are a lot of bored guys out there who can't go to a bar right now. 

Newbie = new (spare) account? ????????

Come on you guys.... ????

But if I'm wrong, I hold my hands up. ????????

Totally agree, joins A Now 11 hours ago with this sort of OP after 5 years dating in Thailand. Trolling for sure.

40 minutes ago, actonion said:

In the 21 years of living permanently in Thailand i have had 2 relationships, one was  a bar lady,  and two were office workers. who had university diplomas!!

 

The bar ;lady was  the only one who didnt pester for money, one of the  office lady  who said she was a Certified Accountant could not write  Two Million Fiive Hundered Thousand Thai Baht in figures plus a host of other problems 

 

 

Maybe the "certified accountant lady" could not write the Two Million Fiive Hundered ....

 

but sure she could count it correct when handed over to her as you promised as sin sod ....#....X ????????

4 hours ago, cyril sneer said:

I’ve only ever seen this with bar girls

There is a subset of foreigners who see every Thai woman as either 'was, is, or will be' a bargirl. Not fair, but it is what it is. They play what they think are the odds, and will 'like' any post by any woman they think might be a future assignation.

 

I have Thai female staff who are constantly approached in malls or the BTS being asked, "How much short time?" Their 'look' is not anything more than female, yet some foreigners simply assume they are available for sale. I do not envy their plight.

11 hours ago, John2021 said:

Hi guys, i have been dating thai girls for the past 5 years, met during my trips, in parties, tinder, socials, thai friendly, apps, or anywhere literally.

 

Sorry, I find your post quite hypocritical as this is your opening paragraph.

 

Yes, you are definitely "different" and deserve better.

 

 

14 minutes ago, Walker88 said:

There is a subset of foreigners who see every Thai woman as either 'was, is, or will be' a bargirl. Not fair, but it is what it is. They play what they think are the odds, and will 'like' any post by any woman they think might be a future assignation.

 

I have Thai female staff who are constantly approached in malls or the BTS being asked, "How much short time?" Their 'look' is not anything more than female, yet some foreigners simply assume they are available for sale. I do not envy their plight.

My point was more referring to the op saying he wasn’t dating bar girls, but university/graduated ones 

 

When I tried similar their social media accounts would very rarely show another farang on there

 

I guess the area can make a difference…

10 hours ago, Golden Triangle said:

Stop looking online, the ones on line as far as I can work out only want your dosh, I met plenty of very nice ladies working in markets, 7/11 etc, yeah had a few bar girls in the early days of a month long holiday to get rid of the dirty water but plenty of normal girls out there.

 

My Mrs used to sell fish in lots of the local wet markets, we met at a party of a mutual friend, been together for just over 10 years now, my neighbour has a GF who operates 3 or 4 food stalls around the Jomtien area, always busy ordering stock & checking on staff, but she's independent and enjoys life. Try normal women.

Agree 110%  The Asian girl of the Western Male fantasy exists, and is available in Thailand, but you can't buy them on-line.

 

Use on-line shopping for ordering cheap Chinese stuff from Shopee, and meet real Thai girls in real Thai life.

 

11 years ago I saw a Thai Mila Kunis managing a small hotel - sooo hot and very smart too.  Today she looks even more beautiful, and she just wants to care for me, and in return I care for her.

 

She wasn't hunting on-line for a rich man, she believed the fairy tale and was raised to have a caring attitude.

Everyone is unique. Everyone is an individual.

You seem to be looking for some sort of generalisation that you can apply to all the women here.

That approach won't result in a sound relationship,  Doomed to failure.

 

1 hour ago, actonion said:

i have had 2 relationships, one was  a bar lady,  and two were office workers

1 + 2 = 2?

1 minute ago, BangkokReady said:

1 + 2 = 2?

Obviously one of the office workers was also bargirl.

1 minute ago, wprime said:

Obviously one of the office workers was also bargirl.

Ahhh.  Like "and one is not a nickle".

17 minutes ago, cyril sneer said:

My point was more referring to the op saying he wasn’t dating bar girls, but university/graduated ones 

 

When I tried similar their social media accounts would very rarely show another farang on there

 

I guess the area can make a difference…

Please don't think I was critical of your post. You merely gave me an opening to point out that there are foreigners who assume all Thai women are available for a price. I know from my staff that even their social media (the silly and banal TikTok, Facebook, etc.,) garner them all sorts of 'likes' from foreign males as well as the more than occasional prurient comment or two.

1 hour ago, actonion said:

In the 21 years of living permanently in Thailand i have had 2 relationships, one was  a bar lady,  and two were office workers. who had university diplomas!!

 

The bar ;lady was  the only one who didnt pester for money, one of the  office lady  who said she was a Certified Accountant could not write  Two Million Fiive Hundered Thousand Thai Baht in figures plus a host of other problems 

 

 

Looking at above, you might wish to humble down a little bit as well...

 

Fiive is written Five, and 1 + 2 = 3, not 2. "Didn't" has an apostrophe. As there are 2 of them, it should be "One of the office ladies".

Cant wait until 'Pin Up' reopens, gonna walk in and barfine the most heavily tattooed chick with massive plastic fun bags.

Just on the remote possibly this is genuine, and secondly because I'm as bored as the original op, I will make a suggestion:

 

Op, take a break from Thai women for a year. Travel or return to the west and  seek out a loving relationship with a Brit or even better a US partner. See how that works out, then sit back and reflect on your view of Thai women.

 

I've heard that western women aren't glued their phones all day, are 100% faithful, hardworking, never moan or criticise and have no desire to date you just based on your level of income or how many gifts you buy them.  To be fair, very few of them I met had sick buffalos though.

 

 

12 hours ago, Airalee said:

you’re just finally catching on to the way things are here

Only took the OP 5 years, bit slow on the uptake? 

I met my wife online on a dating site(2010), she had a well paying job, owned a couple of houses and did not want to be in a relationship with a thai after experiencing what thai men are really like . She was much more financially secure than I was and she wasnt interested in money, she wanted a genuine relationship based on love, we used messenger a lot over a long period of time, then when I was in Thailand on a buying trip for a business I was involved in we organized to meet but unfortunately I was unable to do so after she had driven for several hours to meet me(I was staying in an out of the way area on a farm and had no idea of how to get back to the main area, I was dropped there by a van, no phone network either). She was extremely dissapointed and as soon as I was back in Bangkok I sent her a huge bunch of roses, then when back in Australia and able to make a video call I explained what had happened. Four weeks later and I was back on a plane to Thailand, she picked me up at the Phuket airport, we had so many similar likes and dislikes we just got one as if we had known each other for years(purely plutonic at the start) plus we were and still are totally open and honest with each other, she actually proposed to me after a couple of months, we got married, I flew back to Australia to finalize everything there then flew back 2 months later and we have been together ever since, she has also bought land so I can continue doing my hobby and we have since built another small house on it and live there. What we have is genuine, there are others like her out there but in my case I was extremely lucky to pick the right one to talk to, if you look in the right places you can meet them but a lot of it is luck, I know several of her friends refuse to date thai men and are self sufficient plus have asked me to help them find someone, thing is I think it is better if they do it themselves so they can judge the person themselves, people need to be honest up front about what they are after, if its just sex then they will never meet the right person and if the lady is just interested in money the same thing goes, be genuine with the ones you meet, eventually you should fine the right one.

1 minute ago, Sticky Rice Balls said:

Was my excuse when I got my last happy massage!.....Getting old is a drag! ????

Growing older does have its compensations.  Just sometimes,  I can ignore the pretty girl on my sofa in order to watch a good NFL game and not feel at all conflicted. 

Think I will suggest to the mods they start a "Dear Deirdre" section on this forum.

On the miniscule chance that this thread is genuine I will suggest the OP starts living up to the expectations his girlfriends have of him.

Otherwise they will continue searching for the "right guy" whilst dating him.

Originally i came here on holiday ,after many trips went into business ,looking after the British end ,learnt that The average Thai girl is like the average woman anywhere ,met and married for love ,now as i get old i realize that i was right all along ,still with my loving Thai  wife, funny most of my friends seem to be in the same boat

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The thing that worries me the most is see they forget you quickly

maybe she never did love you

Thought so.  1 post.  Someone is having a good laugh. 

OP descibes the behaviour of some ladies associated with the "entertainment-business" or "Tinder-Acrobats" (a minority).

PRE-COVID: Once past their prime, those ladies could always marry a Farang that would even adopt her children from previous "activities". A kind of golden parachute!

Due to COVID, the supply of this type of Farang is drying up and with it the "last resort Farang golden parachute". Rats! Those "Love-Life high frequency ladies" may end up with one of their former Thai-"husbands". Good luck. Enjoy.

 

18 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

1 + 2 = 2?

Maybe the third was terminated

18 hours ago, DaLa said:

I've heard that western women aren't glued their phones all day, are 100% faithful, hardworking, never moan or criticise and have no desire to date you just based on your level of income or how many gifts you buy them.  To be fair, very few of them I met had sick buffalos though.

 

I hope that's sarcastic.

19 hours ago, seajae said:

I was extremely lucky to pick the right one

I'm glad you realise that "luck" was involved. Some of us had bad luck instead, but it's all just luck of the draw whether we end up with a keeper or not.

Methinks you're going to crash and burn something fierce.

21 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

I'm glad you realise that "luck" was involved. Some of us had bad luck instead, but it's all just luck of the draw whether we end up with a keeper or not.

Luck in everything

Work

Lotto

Crypto

Women

Travel

Family

Genes

Looks

 

 

It will depend on age gap, if money is involved (includes long game) and attraction.

 

I think guys are gullible and think it's genuine. Non sex workers are generally looking for someone around their age unless desperate

On 8/29/2021 at 4:04 AM, bunnydrops said:

Pretty much my story. Met on Thaikisses, Married 2 months after I met her. A hard working woman. Even though I told her she didn't have to work, she works everyday for less than 500 baht a day when here in Thailand. ^ months out of the year we go back to the US where she got a job working in landscaping. 11 years together now. I recommend the book "Thai Fever" to learn about how Thai women think.

I think this is the thing most westerners fail to acknowledge here though, You met her and quickly got married. Most guys including myself want to date for at least a year or more before we get married and the thing with most thai girls is if you are not married then many consider themselves single still. 

now ....  Dear John,   ....   oop's '   sorry I forgot the question     !